RomanSick

[metamorphesque]

For to wish to forget how much you loved someone—and then, to actually forget—can feel, at times, like the slaughter of a beautiful bird who chose, by nothing short of grace, to make a habitat of your heart.

― Maggie Nelson, Bluets

[thoughtkick]

“You plant your own garden instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. In other words, take responsibility for your own needs and your own happiness.”

— Maggi Myers, The Final Piece

[frozenmisty]

Traumatized people are often afraid of feeling. It is not so much the perpetrators (who, hopefully, are no longer around to hurt them) but their own physical sensations that now are the enemy. Apprehension about being hijacked by uncomfortable sensations keeps the body frozen and the mind shut. Even though the trauma is a thing of the past, the emotional brain keeps generating sensations that make the sufferer feel scared and helpless. It’s not surprising that so many trauma survivors are compulsive eaters and drinkers, fear making love, and avoid many social activities: Their sensory world is largely off limits.” —Bessel Van Der Kolk #ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmm

The Artidote

[thoughtkick]

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

— Marcus Aurelius

[thoughtkick]

“You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance - you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behaviour and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and “continues” to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.”

— Daniell Koepke

[abusedsapphics-archive]

i am frustrated with the way a lot of people view recovery. it is not a moment in the semi-distant future in which everything will magically heal, and you will no longer carry your pains and your hurts. recovery doesn’t mean ‘having a normal life’, recovery doesn’t mean being happy all the time, it doesn’t mean being ‘productive’ or whatever else.

recovery is the process through which you learn to live with your symptoms/problems/triggers/issues/etc, to deal with them with as little self-destruction or other-destruction as possible. and it may never be over! because human life is full of stressors and hardships, especially in today’s society, and for a lot of people there will always be triggers to manage and episodes to cope with and harmful urges to redirect.

it does get so much easier with practice - when we find a good coping mechanism and stick with it, it may even become second nature - but we will never stop needing the effort.

[thepersonalquotes]

[thepersonalquotes]

[purplebuddhaquotes]

When we place more value on what other people think of us than on what we think of ourselves, it’s a formula for misery.

(via purplebuddhaquotes)

[pathologising]

actually you will not enjoy hearing this but you literally have to abandon your self deprecating humor. besides the fact that it can drive people away you literally are only hurting yourself by constantly making jokes that further cement the idea in your head that you are not good enough. I do not care that you think its a good coping mechanism it is absolutely not and you need to start challenging negative thoughts instead of feeding into them.

[emotionalwords]

[serbka-deactivated20211120]

you literally aren't equipped to care about every possible opinion on this planet. your mother telling you you're beautiful isn't a lie, your friend telling you your art is cool isn't biased. the fact you have people around you to tell you you're doing great means you've been socialized properly. the douche on instagram or tumblr ain't cooking your dinner, bringing you your pjs to the hospital or giving you a lift home. you aren't psychologically equipped to give a shit about as many opinions as social media expose you to. we have never been more exposed to other ppl's opinions and that's what's making us depressed. you care, and that's natural, we have been programmed to care what other people think. but no one is lying when they say they think you're great, they do think that. remember that, repeat that and embrace that.

[meangirlnurse]

in real life you will probably not respond to harassment in a sexy, clever, scripted way where you come out with the upper hand and everyone claps. you will freeze up and your moment will pass, or your voice will shake when you tell them to stop and you’ll realize two minutes later that you’re gross and sweaty and sticky from the adrenaline. maybe you’ll be on the ball and answer in a way you actually think is pretty smart and get ignored, or they’ll get more aggressive when you mouth off to them. you almost never will walk away feeling victorious. you walk away feeling uncomfortable and relieved that it’s over. you’ll think about it later and imagine that maybe you could have said something else. maybe you’ll feel ashamed that you weren’t quicker-witted, weren’t able to cut them down to size, weren’t able to avoid that lingering sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, as though there’s some kind of magical words you could have said that would have left you feeling less powerless. there really aren’t. 

[purplebuddhaquotes]

““Knowledge is dangerous. Once you know something, you can’t get rid of it. You have to carry it. Always.””

— (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[purplebuddhaquotes]

[purplebuddhaquotes]

““We understand how dangerous a mask can be. We all become what we pretend to be.””

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[thepersonalquotes]