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cheaphalloweencostume

the best piece of relationship advice i ever got was “a relationship isn’t 50/50, it’s 60/40 with each party excited to be the 60”. which to me means that you should be with someone who makes you want to do more, be more, open your heart even wider. why WOULDNT you like making life easier for your loved one(s)?

#ref

chaumas-deactivated20240115

Children are born into a state of implicit debt.

Good parents forgive this debt. Bad parents expect it to be repaid, one way or another. The accepted currencies are varied and cryptic and might be mostly innocuous or they might be horrifically criminal.

Many families don’t realize that there is a debt until the child defaults on it somehow. That could be for any reason—the child simply fails to deliver on the parental investment by not adequately being the child they paid for.

“Inspiration porn” is a disability term, but I’m using it here because it’s appropriately provocative, and because the state of being a child is functionally a disability. A child who fails to be life-affirming and inspirational and to perform heartwarming innocence is breaking a contract, and adults are no longer obligated to uphold their own end and nurture the child. A child is a resource from which inspiration porn can be mined, or it is a kind of brood parasite.

#100%#I think the 'debt awareness' is one of the strongest mediators of the percieved quality of love the primary caregiver(s) have for the child #very anecdotal by for example I was VERY aware of this debt early on in childhood and it significantly impacted the way I recieved love/care #whereas my mother had a stellar relationship with her mom growing up #nowadays upon reflection tho she admits that she only got along with her because she coincidentally fit into #the mold of the daughter my grandma wanted her to be #and this realization has worsened their relationship over the last years bc my mom is starting to make decisions that don't sit right #with my grandma #I wonder if there are studies on a psychological construct similar to what OP calls 'debt'#there must be. but this would be a fascinating research topic for a dissertation

flipchild

bimmyjimmy

Imagine just having this guy hanging around

firewalkwithmedvd

Was trying to make a joke about TV writing to my friend the other day and had to pause and go "...does the phrase 'surf dracula' mean anything to you?"

firewalkwithmedvd

One of the most important critical texts of this century imo

hypokeimena

image description: tweet by @/topherflorence, reading: back in the day if u did a tv show called surf dracula you'd see that fool surfing every week in new adventures but in the streaming era the entire 1st season gotta be a long ass flashback to how he got the surfboard until you finally get to see him surf for 5 min in the finale /end description

#you'd see that fool surfing every week..

randomalistic

Go

#yo.#wtf

heylsgowt

#ref #yummmmm

gay--dog

you are hopelessly addicted to toys. get help

i can stop playing any time i want

narcissene

affirmations:

- it’s fun to be awake & in an upright position

- consciousness is a gift

- i CAN do this anymore

pinnakoladda

hey as a local aroace, i want to specify something.

we're no strangers to love. you know the rules and so do i (do i). a full commitments what im thinking of. you wouldnt get this from any other guy. i just wanna tell you how im feeling. gotta make you understand. never gonna give you up. never gonna let you down. never gonna run around and desert you. never gonna make you cry. never gonna say goodbye. never gonna tell a lie and hurt you