I donāt usually defend Tony Stark. But this āSomething went wrongā bullshit really rubbed me the wrong way. Wanna know why? Because the āSomething that went wrongā was Howard Stark. The man that Tony idolised, and the man that abused him. And donāt give me that crap that in the MCU universe, Howard didnāt neglect or hurt Tony ā he did. Itās very evident in the tie-in MCU comics.
But in both universes, Tony was raised by Edwin Jarvis. In 616, he has a father ā Howard ā who is constantly aggravated with his son, both as a result of his own drinking and because of what he feels Tony should be.
While Jarvis might be sensitive, thoughtful, intelligent and occupy roles that arenāt traditionally occupied considered āmasculineā (which is bullshit in itself) if Tony ever displays anything remotely indicative of Ā a āsofter sideā he is ridiculed, called a sissy, told that Stark men are āmade of Ironā and abused by his father:Ā
In the MCU, things arenāt depicted of being much better:Ā
And in the MCU Jarvis, often, tried to soften the blow of Howardās words an actions. But donāt think for a second that Tony didnāt internalise all of that. That he didnāt think that Howard Stark was the man he was supposed to be, and the man he wanted to be most like.Ā
Of course, generally speaking ā when Tony is the most like Howard ā like at the Stark Expo, or during the senate hearings ā itās almost 100% preformative. Thatās not who he is, or who he ever was, itās who he thinks people want him to be, because itās who his father wanted him to be.
I would go so far as to say that a lot of Tonyās womanizing ways, his alcoholism, his struggles with self-identity and importance all stem from the fact that he is often torn between being the man that he assumed his father wanted to be, and who he actually is. Ā
If you look at Tony when heās alone, or when heās with the people he cares about the most, what you see is the caring,Ā compassionate person who Jarvis raised, and that he is a lot more capable and a lot more loving than his father ever was. And it took him a long time to be okay with that, and with showing other people that that was who he really was
So yesā¦ Just a reminder, Jarvis helped raised this man:
Whenever I feel spaced out or anxious (which unfortunately Iāve been feeling quite a lot lately), I think of @thatsthat24 and this lovely ray of sunshine never fails to cheer me up. He smiles and the world suddenly doesnāt seem so dark and cruel anymore. I donāt know where I would be without him.
Love you so much, Thomas. Please never stop smiling just like the sun never stops shining.
Goodness!!!!!!! First of all, SUPER TALENTED AT ART MUCH??? Secondly, that is so flipping sweet of you to say this!! Goodness gracious, I am overwhelmed by those sweet words and only hope I can keep ya smiling!!
Whenever I feel spaced out or anxious (which unfortunately Iāve been feeling quite a lot lately), I think of @thatsthat24 and this lovely ray of sunshine never fails to cheer me up. He smiles and the world suddenly doesnāt seem so dark and cruel anymore. I donāt know where I would be without him.
Love you so much, Thomas. Please never stop smiling just like the sun never stops shining.
I just recently celebrated yet another birthday, but this one brought about a lot of questions I think many of us struggle to answer from time to time. Am I doing what I should be doing at my age? Have I matured adequately? In this video, my different sides come together to determine whether or not my heart is in the right place at this point in my life. Hope you enjoy!
when you're 21 in two weeks and on one hand you're graduating from university but on the other hand you're also like mom could you buy me a kinder egg
this is necessary š
So by now a lot of you guys have probably seen the video that a bunch of Fanders (myself included) made for a certain birthday boy Thomas Sanders. You may or may not have seen the raw footage @thatsthat24 posted on Twitter of his reactions to the video. However, since it is raw footage, you canāt see the lovely faces heās reacting to, so hereās a version of his reaction that includes the original video itself!
Original birthday video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXNTbā¦
Original Reactions:
part 1- https://twitter.com/ThomasSanders/staā¦
part 2- https://twitter.com/ThomasSanders/staā¦
ā¢ saying āshut upā while laughing
ā¢ being extremely nice and understanding towards their friends but unapologetically sarcastic towards others
ā¢ speaking of sarcasm: they speak it fluently
ā¢ 'I love you but I love myself moreā
ā¢ going on long hikes by themselves
ā¢ they either go to bed early or donāt sleep at all
ā¢ they sleep with stuffed animals but deny it
ā¢ they never give up
ā¢ challenges are a great pastime
ā¢ saying 'Tragic.ā way too often
ā¢ not everyone of them likes Snape
ā¢ 'No I am NOT good at potions and you can NOT copy my homeworkā
ā¢ falling asleep to rain
ā¢ nearly everyone if them has referred to Draco as a 'wimpā or 'sissyā
ā¢ they will kill you if you insult their pet
ā¢ being proud of their background no matter who they are
ā¢ yes, there are muggleborn Slytherinās
ā¢ they inniciate snowball fights
ā¢ complaining about small things
ā¢ 'I AM NOT YELLā¦I am not yelling.ā
This past week, I have had the absolute PLEASURE to spend some time with two of my dearest long-distance friends, @benjpierce & @doddleoddle! We all met up with the express intent of watching Dear Evan Hansen together, and we figured, why not try our hand at a song from the show?? Hope you all enjoy this cover as much as we enjoyed making it! I LOVE MY TALENTED FRIENDS!!
Happy Birthday, dear Thomas @thatsthat24. You saved a lonely girl from a cold country across the ocean. And she loves you to the moon and back š
Iāve been watching you for some time when the actual story began.. It was last summer when you first liked my tweet - a simple good morning or something - but I was so shocked and incredibly overjoyed that you paid attention to that little message. Since then itās been a great happiness to have an opportunity to talk to you (and Iāve been bothering you on twitter quite a lot, Iām sorry). But every evening wishing you a good morning, waking up and reading a bunch of tweets from yesterday, waiting for your videos late at night - even time difference (+7h to your timezone) has never been a problem, interactions with you were (and still are) my favourite parts of the day. You make me smile. You make me laugh. I donāt have many friends, theyāre sometimes hard to reach out to, but with you I feel like I am heard by someone. Like I am not alone in this world anymore. Somehow you manage to make my fears and my anxiety disappear for some time and itās more than I could ever ask for.
Youāre the sweetest, the purest, the kindest and Iām sure youāve been told that many times, but your gentleness, creativity, sincerity, your sense of humor, your meaningful messages and your hilarious videos always have such a positive impact on all of us and justā¦ give me hope, I think? Hope forā¦ Everything. For the world, for the futureā¦ And for myself. If Iāve ever learned anything from your videos - itās not to give up on myself, to accept myself, but still to keep fighting, to keep trying to become a better person every day. Itās hard, of course, it is, butā¦ You keep me going. All of us, I think. Your community is the most loving, supportive and talented community Iāve ever been in! Fanders are like an actual family and that is so comforting.
And you, Thomas, you are so precious. You are literally a ray of sunshine, because in the darkest of days, in the lowest moments of my depression I can see the light only because your kind soul shines so bright. You give me strength and energy and I am eternally grateful for that. You are wonderful, remarkable, extraordinary and incredibly kindhearted, your creativity and your passion for everything you do are beyond my imagination. You are an inspiration, a reason to smileā¦ and to stay alive.
I hope if you see this you forgive me for any mistakes I made and for my poor vocablary, but I just wanted to say how much you mean to me. If I could have only one wish it would be to meet you and give you a big hug. I could never thank you enough for everything you did for me.
I wish you the greatest and the happiest of birthdays. I wish you all the stars in the sky, all magical sunrises and all the beautiful sunsets. I wish you all the courage, energy, strength and dedication to live a life you want and never regret anything.
And I thank you with all my little heart.
Weāre basically strangers and usually you canāt love a stranger so much, but I do. You mean a lot to me and the only thing that helps me get up every morning to fight.. is knowing such a wonderful human being as you are.
This is simplistic and intended to tug on heartstrings and all that shit but guys I really needed to see something about people not being dicks so if you needed that too please watch this.
