Past Experiences And Epidemics
Last week we covered quite a few topics
•Do we consider going on a date with someone else cheating, if so why?
•Are we comfortable with taking and sending nudes to a lover
•Has a friend ever ruined your chances of dating someone or have either of us been that friend
•How long does black Tax last, is it even an epidemic ?
Below is a breakdown of everything we spoke about
DO WE CONSIDER GOING ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE ELSE CHEATING IF SO WHY?
Most of us said that we aren't comfortable with having our partners wine and dine someone else while they're with us. Dates are so intimate it's like you're partially confirming that you're interested in that person but want to see how those 2/3 hours are going to go first before you let them in on what you feel. Most relationships start with dates, because both parties involved start to converse, get to know each other better and share stuff with one another. Sex only adds onto whatever it is that you might be possibly feeling, but conversation, time and opening up now that holds so much power. We barely think in fact we know that we won't be comfortable with knowing that our partners are going on dates with other people because that'll mean that the relationship that we have isn't enough or better yet the person has found what they're looking for so that's why they're looking to go on dates.
ARE WE COMFORTABLE WITH TAKING AND SENDING NUDES TO OUR LOVERS
Most of the ladies in this group were "anti nudes" but then some of us who were comfortable with TAKING AND SENDING nudes and we let them in on how much nudes spice things up in a relationship especially if the person you're with is in another city. We shared angles on how to take nudes, also how one can cover their face up if they're not comfortable with their face being seen. We feel like nudes in a way help improve the intercourse in your relationship. We aren't saying they're mandatory but let's admit it all men and women love seeing their fave parts of their partner every now and again. We even went through the lengths of letting ladies in on how we send videos of ourselves masturbating to our partners just to show them that they're missing out. We also concluded that it's best to send nudes unexpectedly just to have your partner yearn for you even more, cheer him/her up and have him have a boner in public haha.
HAS A FRIEND EVER RUINED YOUR CHANCES OF DATING SOMEONE OR HAVE EITHER OF US BEEN THAT FRIEND?
Some of us have had our fair share of "competitive" friends, who have always felt the need to outshine everyone else even if it's going for someone we like. We have had friends sleep with people we were seeing but they never disclosed that to us instead we have had the people we were with share that with us and for that we chose to distance ourselves from them and act like we don't know anything because we believe in letting people do what makes them happy. Some of us have let the person make a fool of themselves by going after someone we want but funny enough that person always comes to us because the desperation of our so called friends shone through. Neither of us have been that friend, even though we ended up dating a friend of a friend. It's crazy how jealousy and competitiveness of people we consider friends have made us want to keep people we like to ourselves or even people we are dating to ourselves even though we want to share sometimes we believe it's best that way.
HOW LONG DOES BLACK TAX LAST AND IS IT EVEN AN EPIDEMIC
Some of us are responsible for our families and we feel as though black tax is something we could never run away from because we are either the only people working in our families or have been responsible for our families ever since we started working and we cannot change that now because we feel as though it's a bit to late to turn back now. But the conclusion we came to is that we need to reach out to our families and let them in on the plans we have for ourselves and how we feel as though our lives have come to a stop because of these responsibilities, we aren't saying we will stop supporting our families but we just feel as though communicating with them will make them understand that even we have dreams, we have things we want to do to better ourselves for their benefit as well.
With all of this being said black tax is something that bothers us because so many people in our families show up expecting to be taken care of by us and forget that we have things we want to do and us working doesn't mean we have it all figured out, some feel entitled to know how much we earn and we feel as though that isn't something worth sharing because then come month end we won't have any money left. So keeping your salary yourself helps save you spending out of budget and disclosing the things you want to do helps because at the end of the day it's going to be for their benefit too. Also we feel as though it's better to keep things like your partner, crushes and all that to yourselves because sometimes the people we consider friends do spiteful things continuously just have what you have. We also stated that cheating doesn't mean sleeping with someone only it's going on dates, letting someone in emotionally and disclosing stuff you would with your partner.
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