The Gay Advice Fairy

Kind of like your Fairy Godmother, with a little more sass.

[shutupzo]

I haven’t been on this app in a while, but I know a Black man, Keith Porter, was murdered by ICE on New Year’s Eve (Rest in Power) in Cali. Just one of the countless Black people who’ve been murdered by ICE and other agents of the state.

I log back into this app and see the conversations around the white woman, Renee Good, who was just recently killed. And I can’t help but notice the stark difference in circulation of news and boosting of stories between both of them across this app…

Shit has BEEN happening to Black people across administrations and is currently happening to Black people under this administration, and is met by crickets. Yet when it starts touching white people, I see real anger start being felt from the gen pop followed by amplification and co-opting of Black terms and memorialization… I stg it takes everything in me to give af about yall.

**Edited: linking a gfm for Keith

***update: the gfm is unavailable. Will post an updated link as soon as I have one (removing the link until then for less confusion)

*** updated gfm link verified by Keith Porter Jr’s grandfather

Donate to Support for Keith’s Daughters After Tragedy, organized by Keith Porter

My 43-year-old son, Keith, was tragically killed on New Year's Eve in Northri… Keith Porter needs your support for Support for Keith’s Daugh

[trans-axolotl]

begging people to start paying attention to prison organizing and listening directly to incarcerated activists who are talking about these things instead of just basing your knowledge of the US prison system off of true crime podcasts or brooklyn 99 or whatever.

Marshall Project, Prison Journalism Project, and Scalawag Magazine all have a lot of really good coverage of US prison news and share a lot of writing from incarcerated journalists. Prison Radio has a bunch of important commentaries from incarcerated journalists.

there are a ton of books to prisoners programs and inside/outside organizing collectives and just so much out there if you look for it.

[albiclalepsza]

Also while on the topic of Sabalenka on Piers Morgan, this whole thing is so insulting to the legacy of Billie Jean King, one of the all-time greats, who participated in the original Battle of the Sexes. The same person whose testimony played a crucial role in allowing the one notable trans woman in tennis, Renée Richards, to play in the US tournaments, including the US Open.

Here's the article in full

She's still alive btw, 91 years old now

So yeah, let's not forget that letting trans women play professional sports, and - more specifically in this case - professional tennis, is not a hypothetical. It's been done before. And none of the fears that are being stoked today realized themselves. It all worked out then, and there is no reason to believe it wouldn't work out now.

The trails were already blazed, we just have to walk them again

[miss-wizard]

transmisogyny runs on apathy. never forget this.

[miss-wizard]

the fundamental truth that underpins every one of these harassment campaigns is that it is always easier to discard a transfem than it is to tangibly support her. the people who run these campaigns are depending on you to burn bridges with whoever they tell you to, because it then enables them to do whatever they want to their targets with minimal pushback.

it's easy for transfems to support our sisters, because it's in our own self-interest. but nothing will really improve until the rest of the trans community makes an explicit effort to stand with us. this will come at great expense to them; they will lose their priveleges as an assimilated queer, and there will be almost no benefit to them. but regardless, it must be done.

if you are a non-transfem trans person reading this, please think seriously about the kind of person you want to be when the next transfem finds herself in the crosshairs.

[neptunerings]

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[makingqueerhistory]

New Research Reveals How the Nazis Targeted Transgender People

Last year, a German court acknowledged the possibility that trans people were persecuted by the Nazis

[cavalierzee]

Israel Assassinates Palestinian Journalists At Home With Families

This is such an incriminating number:

50% of the 311 journalists killed by Israel were killed at home, often with their families.

Which of course means they were undoubtedly deliberately targeted.

(src: https://open.substack.com/pub/nofrontiers/p/scoop-50-of-all-journalists-killed?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=4r0pw…)

From the same "side" that constantly lectures about "freedom of the Press and "free speech" ...

Credit: Arnaud Bertrand

[venusianmystique]

If y’all are interested in helping out the trans community in Jamaica after hurricane melissa, Transwave has opened a mutual aid fund

TransWave Jamaica

TransWave: Empowering Jamaica’s Trans Community Since 2015 Founded in 2015, TransWave has been the leading organization advocating for the t

[thetransintransgenic]

You Can Now Play the First LGBTQ Computer Game, For the First Time

‘Caper in the Castro’ was thought to be long lost.

Caper in the Castro is a legendary video game, not because legions of die-hard fans continue to play it, but because it was thought to be lost forever. Now, what is largely considered to be the first LGBTQ-focused video game (it was released in 1989) is on the Internet Archive for anybody to play.

The game is a noir point-and-click that puts the player in the (gum)shoes of a private detective named Tracker McDyke who is, in case you couldn’t guess by the name, a lesbian. McDyke must unravel the mystery behind the disappearance of Tessy LaFemme, a transgender woman, in San Francisco’s Castro district, an historically gay neighbourhood.

OOOOOHhh!

The game was released as charityware – freely, with a strong request to give a donation an AIDS Charity of their choice. I’d like to push towards still following that and donating, if you’re able.

(And you might also want to donate to the Internet Archive, who is hosting it now, while you’re at it – they’re in the middle of a donation drive, and could use your support.)

[depsidase]

[covid-safer-hotties]

[decompose1]

neovaginas can get wet naturally

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

YOU HAVE OPTIONS! demystify bottom surgery

[deerbrain]

you can also have nothing, if you want!! nullification is starting to become available alongside vaginoplasty and phalloplasty

you can have nothing and retain sexual function, even! it's called nerve-preserving nullification. similarly to other bottom surgeries, they use the most sensitive tissue (glans/clit) to create a subdermal pseudoclitoris

yes you can pee like normal. urethral reroute leaves a small hole at the perineum (taint)

all the advice about scars from OP applies here too!! take care of yourself well and it can heal well

(also, for people interested in the "mixed look" OP mentioned: the magic words are "penile-preserving vaginoplasty"/"phalloplasty without vaginectomy"!!)

[daggers-drawn]

Police: *leading sex workers into a squad car to be taken to jail*

Sex work prohibitionist: “I called the police! You’re all free now! No more patriarchal violence! No need to thank me!”

[daggers-drawn]

Prohibitionist: “How does it feel to be free of your pimp?”

Sex worker: “I was an independent worker!”

Prohibitionist: “Yeah right, so how much did the porn industry pay you to say that, faker?”

[daggers-drawn]

Sex worker: “Who will care for my kids?”

Prohibitionist: “No worries, they’ll be placed with a nice Christian foster family who will teach them to hate and judge you as harshly as possible.”

Prohibitionist: “This is to protect you. It’s feminism. I’m a feminist.”

[catboybrigade]

Former sex slave: Wait so I went to the police and I got arrest for being sold into sex work?

Prohibitionist: Yup! That way we can make sure people don’t get sold into sex slavery!

Former sex slave: But that just makes victims less likely to come forward?

Prohibitionist: pRoTeCt WoMeN

[happily-morgan]

Former sex worker: I have been arrested and prosecuted and now have a criminal record which greatly reduces my ability to get a non-sex work related job.

Prohibitionist: Yep, but it was to help you get out of the sex work. Now you can get “real” jobs working for minimum wage or less. We did good. Why aren’t you thanking me?

[feathery-dreamer]

Also - you outlaw something, you pave the way for clever criminals to trick and scam and abuse naive people into it.

[tpwrtrmnky]

remember the like tiny sliver of time when there was a real push to just say "people who have a uterus" or "people with testicles" or whatever when that was what you meant, and then faux-progressives who were willing to cave to terfism to avoid saying icky anatomy words ruined it with "AFAB-bodied"

[tpwrtrmnky]

literally just say dick when you mean dick. feeling uncomfortable with body parts and getting all euphemistic about it is conservatism by default.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Through the magic of specifying, for instance, "if you have a cock and balls then you may sometimes struggle with accidentally squeezing them in painful ways when sitting down" you also account for someone who got rid of her cock and balls surgically. Because get this. She No Longer Has That Anatomy. She is now outside the group defined as "people with cocks and balls".

[thingsiwannareblog]

People who have a uterus are at risk for uterine cancer. My mother, who remains a woman and whose uterus birthed me, does not belong in this category, because she had it removed. A woman who was born without one, either through medical weirdness or because she happens to be trans, also doesn’t fit this category. So “women” isn’t the category that is at risk for uterine cancer. It’s quite literally “the people who have one”. It’s really that simple!!!!!

[elymaiis-deactivated20250925]

“If you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day; if you teach a man to fish, he will eat for a lifetime,” but you have done neither. You have stood before us and eaten fish after fish, and chided us for our greed as you have done so. You have cast aside their offal and simultaneously chided us for our waste. You then told us that, coincidentally, you owned the river, and our parents should have gotten us the same if we wanted fish. You gave a man a fish to murder us if we step too close to the river, or speak too loud, or eat a fish from another river. You’ve copyrighted the fishing net. It costs us fish to leave.

[makingqueerhistory]

Flamboyants

The Queer Harlem Renaissance I Wish I'd Known

George M. Johnson (Author), Charly Palmer (Illustrator)

From the New York Times–bestselling author of All Boys Aren’t Blue comes an empowering set of essays about Black and Queer icons from the Harlem Renaissance.

In Flamboyants, George M. Johnson celebrates writers, performers, and activists from 1920s Black America whose sexualities have been obscured throughout history. Through 14 essays, Johnson reveals how American culture has been shaped by icons who are both Black and Queer – and whose stories deserve to be celebrated in their entirety.

Interspersed with personal narrative, powerful poetry, and illustrations by award-winning illustrator Charly Palmer, Flamboyants looks to the past for understanding as to how Black and Queer culture has defined the present and will continue to impact the future. With candid prose and an unflinching lens towards truth and hope, George M. Johnson brings young adult readers an inspiring collection of biographies that will encourage teens today to be unabashed in their layered identities.

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[pobopolybius]

Latest reblog reminds me of how much it pisses me the fuck off how every queer person alive has to adapt to the usamerican style of queerness lest we get shunned by the community for being too different. I bring this up a lot but bro that time I got death threats for having ele/dele in my bio bc "by using neopronouns I was making a mockery of REAL trans people" when those are literally just my pronouns in my native language, and when I said that I got hit w the "well you're on the internet so speak english" I HATE GRINGOS I HATE GRINGOS I HATE GRINGOS

[pobopolybius]

I feel the need to miss out a crucial detail I missed out in this post I made out of anger, and no, it doesn't add any silver linings or good context, it honestly only serves to make it worse.

In portuguese, much like spanish, we have no gender neutral pronouns. People who do not use ele/dele and ela/dela (he/him or she/her) all use whatever neopronoun suits them best in portuguese (ie elu/delu, eli/deli) because we have no access to a universal gender neutral pronoun like gringos do. When I brought this up upon them making fun of my "neopronouns", they said to suck it up, and that being foreign does not make neos valid.

In mocking people who use neopronouns in english, you are mocking a very large sum of latin american genderqueer and trans people.

I know various latin language speakers that struggle with their identities in their native tongue due to us not having they/them equivalents, so they are forced to let go of their, in example, brazilian queerness, to appease to anglos who would harass them and call them mockeries of trans people for not sticking to what The Cis want.

When non-anglos tell you the usamerican and british dominance over queer spaces ruins things for them, they mean it. We are forced to repress our identites because you people think they're too "out there and problematic". We are forced to suppress our own queer culture because we don't fit into your neat little boxes of what makes someone gay what makes someone a lesbian what makes someone trans or what makes someone anything else.

You tell us to remember "our queer elders", but do you know of any queer latin american figures? We learn your history, and you refuse to learn ours because you already have "too much on your plate". You disregard us and shame us for not fitting your ideals of queerness and using labels for ourselves you dislike, and try to baby us and tell us the proper way to be gay.

Your culture is not universal.

You are not saving queer people by making jabs at other queer people you don't personally get. Odds are you are harming an entire group of foreign queers you never bothered to consider, because your anglo bubble is too self important.

If you want to do queer people a real favour instead of getting mad at identities that existed long before you were even born, here. Make yourself useful. Donate to queer brazilian housing and support programs. Your beloved dollar is worth a lot more than the Real. Even five dollars help.

Casa Um

Eternamente Sou

Transviver

[pobopolybius]

Hey man reblog this version instead lol