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[ninasdrafts]

We spend so much time looking for that one person, so much time wasted finding someone who wants us and being miserable over those who don’t. We turn someone down because they can’t possibly be our soulmate. We break someone’s heart because we can’t believe we could be the one they want. And there’s so much more to life, so much more to it than stumbling from heartbreak to having your heart fixed by someone else. You don’t have to fall in love to love your life. You can love your life and sit patiently until someone comes along. Don’t waste your time waiting. Don’t waste your life turning every corner, turning every stone because you think you can’t be as happy on your own. You can. Maybe you’ll feel lonely for a while and there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you know there’s a difference between being lonely and being alone. Maybe you’ll run into the right person along the way. Maybe they’ll run into you. And it doesn’t have to be painful. Love doesn’t have to hurt and it doesn’t have to leave you empty or lonely or broken. You have a lot of love to give, so don’t keep it bottled up when you think you don’t have anyone to give it to - give it to yourself. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers, dance in your underwear, sing in the shower, do something stupid with your best friend, smile more than you’ve ever smiled before. Life is more beautiful with love in it, yes. But the love you have is love you can give to yourself until you believe it’s time to give it to someone else.

you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy n.j. (via ninasdrafts)

[caramelcoatedxxxtacy]

Don’t.Don’t burn the pictures.Don’t rip the handwritten love letters up.Don’t destroy the memories that made you the happiest; because time heals but also brings regret.Because you can’t go back & you’ll never have another 1st love. Years will pass & you won’t remember the color of his eyes in detail quite like you did. And it’s going to break you down because you’ll find yourself in bed at 2:10 in the morning trying to remember the way his lips curved when he smiled but it’s been too long & all the pictures you have with him are gone.. And you’ll start to think that maybe you shouldn’t have been so fucking impulsive.Put everything in a box & only open it after you’ve moved on & want to revisit a time that was filled with genuine love & innocence. Because despite what you’ve been told, you can let go without forgetting.It’s okay to trace the poems he wrote you in cursive with your fingertips, remembering what it was like the first time you laid eyes on him.It’s okay to smile at the pictures of you two kissing; after all, his lips were the ones to show you how it was done-it’s okay if your eyes well up because you can still feel him holding your shaking hands. It’s okay if you laugh at the promise of forever that two kids made because even though it was too big of a promise at that age, it was admirable.It’s okay to close that box & put it back under your bed or in the back of your closet to collect dust for another 6 months while you live & fall in love again & again.You will always remember him, with or without the pictures but having them makes it alot easier when you’re no longer a kid & you’ve loved a handful of men after him & the color of their eyes are mixing in with his & all you want is to be sure. When all you want is to remember a time where love was him walking you home from school kissing you on the cheek. When love didn’t mean doing drugs or getting undressed.

I wish I could remember the exact color of his eyes & what it felt like to be pure again. (via caramelcoatedxxxtacy)

Looooove

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[cosmicwizdom]

I love you means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else.

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[cosmicwizdom]

The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow.

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[psych2go]

What is Cognitive Dissonance? Ft. Psych2Go

[psych2go]

10 Common Defense Mechanism | Subscribe to Psych2Go YouTube Here

[nduwanjeolave-deactivated202105]

Personally, I do not differentiate people between “normal” and “not normal” & I do not think myself “guilty” when I find that I have employed some of these defense mechanisms, which I do abundantly. I prefer the distinction between mature and immature, or positive and negative, or risk-bearing and risk-reducing. I think at least two of these distinctions are suggested or named in this video. 

Thank you psych2go for yet another very necessary and informative post!  

[psych2go]

No problem! Indeed, thank you for sharing @nduwanjeolave. :)

[heartbreakhur]

[momandpopmusic-blog]

Spotted in Williamsburg. #CourtneyBarnett

[eclatdeluxe]

[isabella-fiori]

[cosmicwizdom]

I can relate to this…

[tblaberge]

To love someone means to pursue what is best for them, and sometimes you are not what is best for them, that is a hard lesson to learn and one that I have learned many times. In this life, we will have opportunities to love with full hearts and have our hearts loved back, but sometimes we must experience love with tears in our eyes. It is difficult to let go of someone we cherish, but if it is not good for either of you, then you must let go and love from afar.

T.B. LaBerge (via tatteredghost)

[begikodienorastis-deactivated20]

What is your acne telling you?

1 & 2: Digestive System — Eat less processed or junk food, reduce the amount of fat in your diet, step up water intake and opt for cooling things like cucumbers.

3: Liver — Cut out the alcohol, greasy food and dairy. This is the zone where food allergies also show up first, so take a look at your ingredients. Besides all this, do 30 minutes of light exercise every day and get adequate sleep so your liver can rest.

4 & 5: Kidneys — Anything around the eyes (including dark circles) point to dehydration. Drink up!

6: Heart — Check your blood pressure (mine was slightly high) and Vitamin B levels. Decrease the intake of spicy or pungent food, cut down on meat and get more fresh air. Besides this, look into ways to lower cholesterol, like replacing “bad fats” with “good fats” such as Omegas 3 and 6 found in nuts, avocados, fish and flax seed. Also, since this area is chock-full of dilated pores, check that your makeup is not past its expiry date or is skin-clogging.

7 & 8: Kidneys — Again, drink up! And cut down on aerated drinks, coffee and alcohol as these will cause further dehydration.

Zone 9 & 10: Respiratory system — Do you smoke? Have allergies? This is your problem area for both. If neither of these is the issue, don’t let your body overheat, eat more cooling foods, cut down on sugar and get more fresh air. Also keep the body more alkaline by avoiding foods that make the body acidic (meat, dairy, alcohol, caffeine, sugar) and adding more alkalizing foods like green veggies and wheatgrass juice. Another thing that most of forget – dirty cell phones and pillow cases are two of the top acne culprits and this area is what they affect the most!

Zone 11 & 12: Hormones — This is the signature zone for stress and hormonal changes. And while both are sometimes unavoidable, you can decrease their effect by getting adequate sleep, drinking enough water, eating leafy veggies and keeping skin scrupulously clean. Another interesting point: breakouts in this area indicate when you are ovulating (and on which side).

Zone 13: Stomach — Step up the fibre intake, reduce the toxin overload and drink herbal teas to help with digestion.

14: Illness — Zits here can be a sign that your body is fighting bacteria to avoid illness. Give it a break, take a yoga class, take a nap, take time to breathe deeply, drink plenty of water and know that everything always works out!

So the next time you break out or notice dark under-eye circles, look to your face map: your skin is probably trying to communicate on behalf of the internal organs. However, do remember that, as with all medical issues, it is always best to see your doctor or dermotologist for a proper prognosis. This is just a general guide to head you off in the right investigative direction – just because you break out between the brows doesn’t always mean you have a bad liver!

[touchedbythehandofgoth-blog]

whoa. I’m keeping this.

[waketheprince]

I DONT THINK ANYONE REALIZES HOW MUCH THIS HAS HELPED ME OH MY GOD

[dope-ethiopian]

This makes so much sense

[latelycravingmore]

I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I’m here, and I’m important. I’m not going to run after people to prove that I matter.

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[darklipsandkillerheels-deactiva]

Sometimes you end up never speaking to someone who meant the world to you again. And that’s okay. You cope and you survive. Don’t let your losses keep you back from new gains.

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[bled]

I’m literally so tired of being nice to people and going out of my way to make sure they’re okay and happy just to get treated like shit. Fuck everyone who I’ve been there for and haven’t been there for me.

seriously can’t be fucked anymore (via bled)

[latelycravingmore]

I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I’m here, and I’m important. I’m not going to run after people to prove that I matter.

(via ry-lytheillest)