get-selfconfident

Join me on my journey to become more self-confident

[naturalnaina]

[recoverr-a-deactivated20210530]

sending so much love to everyone who feels like they’re never chosen as the best friend, as the partner, as the favorite. sending love to all of you who have been treated and felt like second best. sending love to all of you who have felt rejected and unwanted. to all of you who have had to try really hard to fit in because you felt like you never will. 

you are so loved. you will be seen and heard by the right people. you can trust that you are valuable and not defined by other people’s perceptions of you. if someone doesn’t see your worth, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Sometimes the reason you feel alone isn't because no one cares about you. I see so many "I wish someone could see the tears behind my smile" and "I want people in my life who knows that I'm not okay even when I claim to be" posts - and I get the desire to feel seen and understood without having to say a word. But in real life the first step to connecting with others is honesty, communication and vulnerability - and you can't keep blaming people for not getting you if you keep lying to them and hiding your truth

[inkipri]

sometimes i feel ugly and sad then im like wait. thats my mum and dad! flecks of my grandparents too… remnants of every being of my lineage… hundreds of crossed paths paved in cosmic randomness all of which i carry in this very face. and then beauty standards feel far too silly 

[dimpledthings]

make sure you’re able to learn and experience things at your own pace.

it might be difficult to admit that you need more time, but it’s essential to retaining your new knowledge and skills while not compromising your health

[totallyfubar]

most of us need to be shown how to be considerate

[totallyfubar]

not as a criticism or anything, I just mean that

A. being able to care for other people is a skill that’s practiced and honed

B. being considerate for each person is so wildly different, 90% of the time you will have no way of knowing how to be considerate for someone until they show you

C. you can try to get better at figuring out what people need implicitly, but all that skill really is is listening so just get better at listening

D. being good at listening and adapting on the fly is maybe the most precise definition of being considerate I can think of, so strive for that and just know you’re never gonna be a telepath

[theorangepdf]

my official statement on this and every matter is that we all must hang out and tell our friends we love them more frequently 

[recoverr-deactivated20220605]

your life is too precious and too limitless to revolve around making yourself smaller and prettier and “easier” to love.

[expensiveity]

i wish people would normalize being lost in life and just not knowing anything. not knowing what you’re passionate about, where you want to live, what you want to do, where you want to go— or what lies next. as a society, we normalized going to school, finding a passion, getting a job, finding a partner, getting married, having kids, working hard to earn an honest living. but what about when shit just doesn’t go that way? you really just don’t know. and what’s even worse is, you don’t know why you don’t know or even where to start so you feel alone. you feel as though you’re a disappointment to your family. as if you failed in life. but you haven’t, it’s okay, to not know. to be lost. you have your whole life ahead of you to figure things out. patience is a virtue. there is no time limit on life. you don’t need to rush. don’t allow society to fixate the narrative of having all your shit together at a certain age. it isn’t realistic for most. being lost is so much more normal than we think. and i just wish people would be more transparent about it.

[neurodivergent-noodle-deactivat]

shout out to anyone who is just learning how to listen to their bodies!

you are not selfish, or lazy. 

you’re strong for listening to your needs in a society that encourages us to just push through.

take that break. take that rest day. have a nap. eat that comfort food. have a bath. spend that time with your friend/partner/pet. whatever it is you and your body needs.

and not because you deserve it (although you do)

because your body is telling you that’s what it needs. and bodies are generally right about these things. 

because you are a human being, and your needs are always a priority. 

[yourrfeelings]

I am not everything I want to be, but I am more than I was, and I’m still learning

[bestyouuniveristy]

A secret to happiness is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be, and then making the best of it.

[creatinghelen]

thinking about how life really is just about connections. how connections are what make life worth living. connections to people, to places, to things, to music, to films. how these connections can make you feel so much, and how beautiful that is.

[feministism]

[thepeacefulgarden]

[akindplace]

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[awesomebutunpractical]

Here’s the thing. Practical self-care, such as showering, feeding yourself, talking a walk, cleaning your space, getting rest, ect. will not solve every problem you have. Especially the big, serious ones. But it will solve a ton of smaller problems that are building up, adding to your stress, and using the energy you need to cope with those big serious problems.

You can feel as awful as you want, just eat a sandwich first.

[hestia-and-the-court]

I think there’s this little instinct we have that rejects solutions to our problems if I feel better after getting my sandwich that means my problems are less valid and therefore if I want my pain to be REAL it can’t be relieved in any way which is nonsense the reason why my problems feel smaller when I take care of myself is that I have more energy to cope with them and that’s a GOOD thing The whole “oh must be nice to think that getting outside cures depression” movement is not in my opinion a victim complex so much as it’s a “I’m in pain and when you try to give me an easy solution it feels like you’re not listening to me” reaction 

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