most people can identify with the hurt that comes with breaking up. they suck... but watching someone that claimed to care about you not only move on fast, but lie about it... now that really sucks. personal anecdote: i was in a relationship for a little while, mainly through this past summer. cool is an understatement. we both felt a lot for each other. i'll admit was pretty fast paced. fast paced meaning i was pressured to meet her mom/family within a few weeks of being official because "we couldn't date if her mom didn't like me". there were no issues in that department fortunately. i got along with everyone. conflicts of time and interest started to creep up on us, which happens and that's fine. i was also starting to get irritated of the regular 30 minute drives back and forth from wherever she was and not seeing her as much as i would have liked. the effort felt to be going unreciprocated for a while, but she was very comfortable with my extended effort. she was going through a transitional period with school and her job, but i was willing to endure through and accomdate that, even at the expense of my own happiness in the relationship. when asked "are you happy? cause i am" I answered "not really, but i'm willing to work through this" things got tense, communication went left, it seemed like things weren't going to get any better, we ended up breaking up (we broke up once before, but it was only for a day). that sucked. you know how you break up with someone but still talk to them after you guys are over? yeah that happened for a few weeks between us. we were still expressing feelings for each other through this period, but within a week and a half there was another person in the picture even when she told me she wasn't ready for another relationship or to date anyone else. now, they seem to be moving at almost twice the rate we did... it looks as if they're pretty serious. i've since spoken to her since seeing that. since then i get my fair share of mood swings where one day i feel great, and other days i feel low. when this kind of stuff happens, it's extremely easy to feel inadequate. to feel as if all of it is happening to you. that the person never cared about you. but it's important to remember that it has nothing to do with you. it's just the way they handle their breakups/new relationships. i can call it "insensitive", and perhaps "dishonest" but you can't dwell on it. the best thing for you to do is forgive them so that you are not holding them responsible for whatever you're feeling, not be too concerned with what they are doing with their lives because they are your ex for a reason, and move on with what's best for you in mind. hit the gym, listen to songs you like (that don't remind you too much of them), see people you haven't hung out with in a while, focus on school, start back up on some unfinished artwork, whatever. just get back into the swing of moving on.
