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[getplural]

WELCOME TO GETPLURAL!

run by Mod Force and Mod Plural! If you want your ask answered by a specific mod, say so in your ask! otherwise, we answer based on which of us either gets to it first or has the best ability to answer.

this blog is a general hub for system, multiplicity, and plurality related questions and/or advice. run by systems, for systems! throw us an ask, we'll try our best to answer <3

mod intros under the cut!

MOD FORCE: hi!!!! we're callie & the bbones, aka Mod Force! 'cause we bring the force and our other mod brings the plural. so you'll hear us talking about our own experiences, making jokes, getting the word out, and otherwise getting a little more personal with it -- as opposed to our other mod, who'll give you more specialized knowledge! if you wanna get a little weird with it or ask for our silly opinions about something, feel free to ask for us in your question. <3 ps: mod plural helped us figure out that WE'RE plural. so this is a huge honor LMAO

it's nice to meet you all. and all the other yous you haven't met yet. it'll be nice for you to meet you, too!

MOD PLURAL: hi, were corey aka Mod Plural! weve been big into identity philosophy and how it connects to plurality for years, but weve been aware of our systemhood for years longer than that! 8 of em total, in fact.

we love to discuss plurality and inform people. including you! have you ever wondered how blurred the line is, between singlet and plural?

we consider ourselves somewhat of a plurality encyclopedia. from personal experiences, to others experiences weve heard, to more psychological approaches or more philosophical and existential ones... hell, even strangely specific, intriguing, medically documented but not-quite-useful plural phenomena. we've got a ton of info we would love to share!

cant wait to meet your other you <3

[getplural]

I don't think i'm plural, but i've been interrested in plurality for years. I guess i just like the idea of not being alone, so much that i almost WISH there was someone else in my head with me. Someone sympathetic that is, not the voice that just tells me i suck (which i think is just regular self hatred because of depression).

you can always change that with an open mind and a desire to partition yourself!

[getplural]

hihihihihi. ok so at this point, i am faaairrlly certain that i am in some specific way, plural. i have quite jarring memory gaps, and even memories of just, watching myself do things through my own eyes ? feels very akin to being possessed and forced to watch myself do and say things i wouldn't normally.

now, although possession and amnesia are pretty hot, do you have any advice on how i can easily communicate to others (who know nothing about DID, or even have biases towards such) that i now have entirely different opinions than before, and often no knowledge of the way i had prior acted ? a sort of soft-launch of the idea of plurality to normies ?

what youre going through definitely sounds like plural experiences to me! and even if amnesia and possession and that fuzziness of the mind can definitely be hot, its still somethin we gotta deal with even when its not so hot sometimes.

so, i definitely recommend waiting on telling them about it being specific to plurality. but i think a great way to explain or excuse the sudden changes is along the lines of... youre changing and growing, youve been doing a lot of thinking, and youre letting yourself be more fluid in your daily life! i think soft launching it as a part of you, just as your plural experience is, is a good way to test the waters without being dishonest.

just my advice, and use your own discretion of course! you know you, all of your you's, much better than i do.

[getplural]

at this point i have no clue why i am so strongly interested in being plural despite having literally zero evidence to suggest im plural

how to get plural when you feel very obviously not plural

zero evidence, hm...?

id say that interest may be a sign or suggestion of sorts. i think you can get plural. i think you might already be, even!

a lot of what helped us get plural was trying to notice difference in behavior... why did i act that way when i usually do this? what other things feel inexplicably different this time?

you wont know the names of your other selves or what their preferences are or even be able to communicate well in the beginning. thats normal for the start of your plurality! keep it up n youll get plural with patience n time :3

[getplural]

Fun discovery on the road to plurality: seemingly there's an entity in here that exclusively communicates through memes and sound bites, and it's hogging most of the memory. Can't remember what we came into the room for five minutes ago, but we can relate almost any form of stimuli to a SpongeBob clip - very cool and helpful

we used to have an alter like this too! she did have her own voice, but she did play music that took up a lot of our brains processing power. she had a lot of our speech disability symptoms both inner and outerworld, so she didnt use her own voice very often. she really liked playing cartoon slip sound effects at us.

n hey spongebobs awesome. maybe not helpful, but at least its spongebob, right?

love hearing about experiences like this <3

[getplural]

one time i greened out on edibles and had a very intense psychosexual experience wherein i split like at least a couple dozen times. most of these alters would fade away by the end of the night but a couple of them stuck around for days before fading. it was very strange and i’m still not sure what to make of it. idk if i’d call it switching, it was more like they would just interject occasionally and i was still aware the entire time. they haven’t come back since then and it’s been a couple years but yeah. weird

thank you so much for sharing ! ^_^ ive had similar experiences, albeit without the weed. just real bad psychotic breaks. it always feels strange when you have a singular and isolated Experience with plurality of some kind and then it doesnt happen again for years. we have been there for sure

my main plurality weed story i like to say is that the first time i (individually as an alter) split, we were high as shit on thc vapes and within 10 minutes, went "OHHH GOD I DONT WANNA BE (INTROJECT SOURCE CHARACTER)!!!" and promptly went dormant. only to reappear weeks later as a new split, becoming a frequent fronter, and also merged with someone else for the first part of my re-existence. i am now the stoner alter and have been fronting most of this week. funny how things change hehe

[getplural]

answering some asks! lalala~

[getplural]

ive been thinking about maybe being plural, but i feel more like multiple people controlling one body at once instead of switching out, so i worry i might be making things up. i dont even have any sort of amnesia related to switching. its pretty weird

hey! this is totally normal. every system (regardless of how it happened!) works different, and that includes stuff like this!

sometimes theres a constant cofront situation going on, and if multiple people are controlling the body all the time itd make sense you wouldnt lose as much between people if theyre experiencing it too!

i understand being worried about making things up. its a fear we still get sometimes too ^_^; pluralitys kinda weird in general, definitely doesnt help with the "making things up" worries.

wishin you the best in your plurality journey!

[getplural]

We/I are interested in plurality. We think something's going on with me, not the smallest reason being how comfortable using 'the royal we' feels.

The idea of having other people in my head for me to disappoint is...not fun. Having a group of people who resent me, or constantly judge our actions, that we can literally never escape from sounds like a circle of hell.

We don't feel distinct, like a parlament of different voices with their own personalities. We feel amorphous. A Greek chorus. We sometimes bicker with each other. Or, it feels more natural to feel like I'm discussing something with myself.

I sometimes wonder if there's anything too this at all. If I'm just stealing glory from more interesting people. Or that I'm just that fucking lonely that I wish there were other people in my head. But I've already been through that merry-go-round twice now, first with the ADHD and then with the gender, so we/I know by now that's really not how it works.

I don't really know where I was going with this. I feel scared. We feel scared. We don't want to be alone. We want to feel safe inside myself. I don't want more people I need to please. I don't want to leave someone behind to scream in the dark. Learning to love myself has been hard. As fucking bizarre as it sounds, we love ourselves so much and we don't want to hurt each other.

Typing this out has been helpful. I hope this hasn't been too much. Thank you for reading all this.

plurality is a daunting thing to explore at times. im glad typing it out has been helpful!

denial is common, so is somewhat-undefined alters, and so is being scared about it. sometimes youre more of an amorphous blob than a broken plate, and thats okay! sometimes thatll change with time, and thats also okay. all plurality is different!

and if its any comfort, we're 8 years into knowing about our plurality and dont deal with denial or fear nearly as often anymore. it does get better, and less scary, and easier.

thanks for sending an ask!

[getplural]

I keep thinking I might be plural but any potential alters I have don't really have much definition (if that makes sense) so I'm worrying I'm misinterpreting myself. I've kinda been shoving it down for the last year and I don't know what to do about it.

in my experience, alters get more defined the more time and space they get to explore who they are! our alters are very one-note until they find themselves through fronting and social interaction. thats totally normal for systemhood!

[getplural]

yall were so fuckin right about slay the princess. started playing last night and ??? was that intentional?? the overt plural experience??? it just feels like. SOOO clearly about being alot of people.

RIGHT? it's genuinely amazing how much it hits that experience -- which i think has a lot to do with it being about the mechanisms systems use to form in a way i don't see very often! perception plays a huge role in it on both sides of the equation, which really made me feel seen as someone who definitely felt like others' perceptions of me were bending me into new types of people.

when i first started identifying as a system, i used to say that if people wanted to understand me they just had to play StP so i could get into the nitty-gritty of how i functioned without spoiling it for them LMAO

anyway, i'm really glad you liked it!

[getplural]

what would you recommend for someone trying to get plural with it despite difficulties with consistent visualization? I've been trying a more passive "watch for any big changes in thought patterns, mood, etc" approach but the results have been ambiguous bordering on homeopathic, something more concrete would be nice as I'm a bit chronically understaffed at the moment

this sounds like a job for mod force! this is an interesting dilemma to have -- wanting to get plural with it and having difficulty doing so, to me, smacks of one of two things: either you're drawn to being plural for a reason, like i was, namely that you truly are and you haven't found a way to properly communicate yet -- or you truly somehow aren't and are interested in Becoming Plural.

i have no idea what happens when the latter happens -- usually, i assume anyone interested already has some plural stuff going on up there, and it's a matter of testing the waters and figuring out what the differences are. my general m.o. is to set up pluralkit, even if it's just for you on your own, and then watch carefully for a few key traits: i usually look for differences in voice, differences in typing style, significant differences in demeanor/posture, or different opinions of people/things. these are all a little more concrete than "changes in mood," something i've always had trouble recognizing!

maybe the sciencey side of things has more info, but that's how i figured stuff out: looking for concrete, tangible results. besides that, i also gave nicknames to any patterns of thought i figured might be headmates -- at first "drunk me" and (jokingly!!) "evil me" were the other headmates i identified. from there, they developed into full-on alters. so try nicknaming, pluralkitting, and looking for specific differences -- and get your friends to keep an eye out, too! it's hard at first, but if you've got a staffing issue, i'm sure you'll resolve it in no time. best of luck to you all!!

[elfryona]

Guide to picking up a plural system, for singlets

We've all been there. You're chatting with a cute plural girl and wonder if you have a chance with all of them. Maybe you've found an easily manipulated caretaker. Maybe an endogenic maid stole your clockwork heart. Maybe you met a front-stuck Tsukihime introject. Either way, you've got no better choice than following a guide by someone entirely underqualified to write one.

Before you start

Before you head system-chasing, I need you to hold your horses. You can't just go after a plural girl the way you'd go after a singlet trans girl, faking desperation and empathy. You need to relate to a system, and there's a quick little exercise for that:

Imagine a girl in your head. What does she look like? Don't just think of the broad strokes, like her figure and hair colour. What do her palms feel like to the touch? What kind of socks is she wearing? Is her neck thin enough to wrap your hands around?

This may take a while. Don't worry too much. If you can't come up with a whole new girl, you can borrow a fictional girl you're familiar with, too! Just don't skip any steps.

When you're ready, think of her personality and her voice. What would her most defining traits be? What distinct mannerisms does she carry with her? Is she soft-spoken, loud, or something in-between?

Now give her a name and introduce her to herself. Tell her who she is, what kind of person she is, and let her know that she'll live with you in your head from now on.

How to start talking

You've just invited a girl into your noggin, and you might be wondering why I made you do that. Unfortunately, that's just beyond what a singlet would understand—trust the process, and everything will work out grand.

Before asking out a plural system, you have to practise talking to a headmate. Thankfully, you don't need to look for another system for that—after all, what if you embarrassed yourself in front of their entire community?

No, you're going to practise with the new girl in your head.

I want you to remember the feeling of presence you get when someone you like is in the same room as you. Now try to feel that presence from your new friend. Some find it easier if you materialise her in a place in your head—others would rather feel her presence on the outside, like a ghost or some kind of hat man.

Now talk to her about anything you want. Remember, you need to entertain a lot of headmates to date a system—handling one girl is the least you can do! Ideally you want to give her your full attention for 30 minutes to an hour every day, but in any case, involving her in your daily routines will help a lot too! After all, she might want to front someday. Don't worry about that, though.

Actually getting a system

By now, you might've been doing the previous step for two weeks, maybe even a month. You're probably growing fond of the new girl, and she has definitely replied at least once, even though she's still struggling with language.

Maybe you're feeling ready to ask that cute system out. I'm sorry, but you have to wait a little longer!

Around this point, you might start sensing new, pretty well-developed presences entering your mind. I want you to invite them in and let them stay. Your girl needs more friends, after all!

Maybe these new presences will start talking with the girl in your head. If that's the case, you've developed a self-sustaining system and don't need to put nearly as much effort as before. Or maybe they pick up the slack while your girl is asleep—then talk to them, too! This too will help you score with a system.

How to keep it going

Now you might be thinking: "What the hell? Where's my system? What did you do to me?"

If you're thinking that, I want you to look inside: how many people live in your head? It's at least two, but more likely something like four. You've picked up a system.

Now you'll want to work on letting your headmates take the front. Everyone has their own approach, but it usually involves two steps: letting go of your body, and letting your headmate in.

You can start small. Let go of one hand, and let your most independent headmate move it about. Let go of the whole arm. Continue in the style of a mindfulness session, until it's your whole body getting taken over.

Or if you have experience with dissociation, just let go of your whole body at once! Project yourself into the outside world or retreat into the headspace, while your headmate takes over. It might feel like you're blending with them a little, but that's to be expected near the beginning. You'll get better with practice!

Once you get good enough at giving up front and end up in a sufficiently stressful situation, one of your headmates might end up stuck in front instead while you're locked inside your head. If this ever happens, you need to tell your new fronter to slide into my DMs before the headmates inevitably cannibalise what's left of your identity. No, I can't save you from getting snuffed, but I do know how to pick up a plural girl.

[getplural]

What if every new headmate was a girl…

then there would be so many more girls in the world 🥹 everyone please split 8-10 new girls, okay? this is really important. this will help you because you will have 8-10 new girls in your head and that's intrinsically good i think

[isuggestforcefem]

You heard fae you have to become eight to ten girls right now. And take HRT.

[getplural]

well yeah of course the hrt is for the eight to ten girls. and if you join them... well, you could make it 9-11

[getplural]

What if every new headmate was a girl…

then there would be so many more girls in the world 🥹 everyone please split 8-10 new girls, okay? this is really important. this will help you because you will have 8-10 new girls in your head and that's intrinsically good i think

[getplural]

any media you like that depicts plurality? book, comic, game, whatever

hiya! mod force here. mod plural knows a lot more than me abt plurality in media -- so stay tuned for some better answers -- but the biggest thing that helped me realize i was a system was Slay the Princess! seriously, it was instant -- the credits rolled and i was like "holy shit, i think i'm plural."

fascinatingly, it actually depicts two sides of plurality in really different ways: the pov character is discussing things with alters directly that serve different functions, while the princess is a lot closer to our (initial) experience with what makes new alters! i shan't say more because it's on sale and i will shamelessly shill the hell out of that game until the sun explodes or i do. take it away mod plural

[getplural]

thanks ! as for my plural media rec, my big recommendation is severance. to me, it serves as good commentary/horror about systems as victims of the world we live in, notably in the workplace. its hard to watch without comparing it to our own experiences with dissociative amnesia in a societal sense, rather than a symptomatic or interpersonal sense!

[getplural]

any media you like that depicts plurality? book, comic, game, whatever

hiya! mod force here. mod plural knows a lot more than me abt plurality in media -- so stay tuned for some better answers -- but the biggest thing that helped me realize i was a system was Slay the Princess! seriously, it was instant -- the credits rolled and i was like "holy shit, i think i'm plural."

fascinatingly, it actually depicts two sides of plurality in really different ways: the pov character is discussing things with alters directly that serve different functions, while the princess is a lot closer to our (initial) experience with what makes new alters! i shan't say more because it's on sale and i will shamelessly shill the hell out of that game until the sun explodes or i do. take it away mod plural