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Heartfelt Reunion: A Christmas Miracle Brings My Family Together

In a year filled with reflections on family, community, and personal growth, the highlight for me was the joyous reunion with my loved ones. For five long years, I had been estranged from my mom, and two decades had passed without connecting with my dad. It took a moment of realization at the end of 2022 to question why I cherished my family so deeply while remaining distant.

My head literally said it’s stupid for me to be so distant from them but love them so much. It’s time to put things back together.

Earlier this year, I took the courageous step to reach out to my mom and rekindle the bond with my dad. I even orchestrated a conversation between my parents, breaking a silence that had lingered for far too long. A visit to my father in South Carolina around my birthday became a pivotal moment, creating a bridge to mend the gaps in our relationship.

Reconnecting with my mother's side of the family, I embraced the responsibilities that naturally fell on my shoulders. As the one closest to my late grandmother, our previous matriarch, and the child of my mother, the current matriarch, I had known my duties since childhood. This journey not only allowed me to learn more about myself but also revealed a newfound level of respect within my family.

The reunion was an emotional rollercoaster, providing insights into the depths of mutual understanding. My family, without witnessing my transformative journey, recognized the person I had become and welcomed me with open hearts. The love, joy, and shared burdens became the threads weaving us back together, stronger than ever.

There's a touch of spiritual significance to this reunion. A call from my Aunt Ronnie at the end 2022 hinted at the fragility of life. She subtly conveyed the urgency to reconnect with those I hold dear, as time might not be on our side. She didn’t say anything specifically alarming, but my intuition said very clearly “she is wrapping up her time here.” Sadly, on December 21st, 2023, Veronica Bernadette Nichols, “Our Queen” passed away. Her words served as a gentle nudge, urging me to seize the opportunity to rebuild these precious connections.

I fondly remember my last meeting with Aunt Ronnie. While she was going through it with a couple infections and difficulty breathing, I sat with her, talked to her, and just kept her company so she wouldn’t be alone. I held and stroked her hand, expressing my love. Despite her health struggles, there was a calmness in her demeanor, signaling that she felt the love she had always showered upon me. There we’re even moments where she was able to respond she let me know she understood, which is a gift forever treasure. The timing of our reconnection, just before her passing, became a poignant testament to the spirit of family.

On December 22nd, 2023, I hosted the first ALL NICHOLS WELCOME family event in many years, bringing everyone together. Turns out my invitation is the Switzerland of family discord. The sheer happiness and warmth of that moment are beyond words. Tears of joy, genuine smiles, and laughter filled the air, making it a Christmas miracle that came early. I’m smiling and crying now reminiscing on 3 days ago.

The only gift I wished for during the holiday season was to see my family united, and Santa delivered in the most heartwarming way.

This reunion wasn't just about rekindling relationships; it was a celebration of love, resilience, and the beauty of family bonds. As I write this, I can't help but feel a deep sense of gratitude and happiness, knowing that I've reclaimed an essential part of my life.

My message to you:

As we round out a year of spiritual openness, there’s still time for you to become the Switzerland for your family. There’s still time to reclaim the love that rightfully belongs to you. It’ stupid for you to be so distant from people you hold so dear. You probably have valid concerns, I do to. But if there’s space in your heart to put past hurts aside, to tackle new challenges with openness and empathy, you can repair the damage.

They may not all be here next year to reconnect with. Don’t miss your oppOrtunity.

As the holiday season unfolds, there's a collective yearning for joy, love, and togetherness. For many, this involves reconnecting with family, even when years of tension cast a shadow over those gatherings. In the spirit of Christmas, I bring you a practical guide to navigate the delicate art of getting along with your family, despite the baggage of the past.

1. Extend a Genuine Apology: Acknowledge the past without dwelling on it. Offer a sincere apology for any hurt or misunderstandings, focusing on your own actions rather than placing blame. This sets the stage for open communication and signals your commitment to a fresh start.

2. Communication is Key: Engage in open, honest, and empathetic communication. Listen actively to understand your family members' perspectives, and express your thoughts with clarity and kindness. Establishing clear lines of communication helps prevent misunderstandings and fosters a healthier environment.

3. Authenticity Without Tension: Strive for authenticity without creating unnecessary tension. Share your true self while being mindful of the impact your words may have on others. Genuine connections arise when individuals feel free to express themselves without fear of judgment. Yes that includes things you disagree with. It’s not your life, back off.

4. Managing Internal Anxiety: Reconnecting with family can stir up internal anxieties rooted in past experiences. Practice mindfulness and self-reflection to identify and manage these emotions. Prioritize self-care, whether it's through meditation, journaling, or engaging in activities that bring you peace.

5. Breaking Childhood Programming: Recognize and challenge ingrained patterns from your upbringing. Break free from limiting beliefs and expectations that may be hindering your relationships. Embrace personal growth by consciously choosing behaviors that align with the person you aspire to be.

6. Demanding Respect, Honoring Position: Balancing the need for respect with honoring your parents' position requires finesse. Clearly communicate your boundaries while demonstrating understanding and appreciation for their role in your life. Emphasize the importance of mutual respect as the foundation for a harmonious relationship.

7. Shared Activities: Create positive shared experiences by engaging in activities that everyone can enjoy. Whether it's playing board games, cooking together, or taking a stroll down memory lane, shared activities foster connection and create lasting memories.

8. Focus on the Present: While acknowledging the past is essential, focus on the present moment. Resist the urge to rehash old grievances, and instead, channel your energy into building positive experiences together. This shift in perspective allows room for growth and healing.

This Christmas, embark on the journey of rebuilding bridges with your family. Through genuine apologies, effective communication, and a commitment to authenticity, you can create a space for love and understanding to flourish. Remember, the holiday season is not just about gifts and decorations—it's about the gift of connection, forgiveness, and the warmth of family bonds. May your Christmas be filled with love, laughter, and the joy of newfound harmony.

Revisiting the Semen Retention Controversy: Could I Have Been Mistaken?

In a recent article I wrote discussing semen retention, I presented my perspective, grounded in my understanding of contemporary scientific research, on why I believe regular ejaculation is healthy. However, Devi Ward Erickson a friend and reader and person much smarter on the topic has challenged some of the points with an insightful comment that brings forward the richness of Eastern science and the practice's historical roots. I value her knowledge and the depth of her response. I've included her entire unedited comment below for us to explore together.

Devi’s Comment:

"Let's discuss the 'lie' vs. 'the truth'.

#1. You say - 'But these claims have no scientific basis whatsoever. Literally pulled out of their ass and sadly not out of their sack.' - This is incorrect. The physiological benefits of semen retention are based on data that has been collated for over 5000 years. It is based in EASTERN science. Eastern science predates Western science by several thousand years.

#2. This is also incorrect - 'Semen retention can lead to a buildup of anxious energy that can’t be released through any other means except ejaculation.' - Orgasm is a release of energy. Orgasm and ejaculation are different functions of the nervous system. This has been documented by both Eastern and Western 'science'.

#3. you say- 'The concept of orgasm without ejaculation, also known as edging.' - This is incorrect. 'Edging' is a practice that may LEAD to non-ejaculatory orgasms. Orgasming without ejaculation is not 'edging'. My husband is not 'edging' when he has multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms while buried balls deep in my vagina. That's not edging. That's called an ORGASM.

#4. 'On a physical level, One study found that men who ejaculated at least 21 times per month were less likely to develop prostate cancer than those who ejaculated less frequently'. This study has been debunked by multiple sources, including the researchers themselves who stated very clearly that the results they were seeing could be attributed to the frequency of sex and healthy relationships, NOT necessarily the ejaculation. And that's only ONE of the caveats the researchers included in the journal.

#5. 90% of folks teaching about SR are uneducated and incorrect. Unfortunately, this article falls in that category. Full of incorrect info coming from uninformed sources. The reason many men believe in and practice SR is because of the benefits they see in their own bodies! Having multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms while buried balls deep in the orifice of your choice, having total and complete CHOICE about when, how, much, and IF you WANT to ejaculate...THAT is sexual maturity. And that can be achieved through the PRACTICE of semen retention.

The belief that Western science is the only valid form of 'science' and dismissing African, Eastern, and South American wisdom as 'pseudoscience' is deeply racist and rooted in white supremacist ideology which prioritizes the Western European lens as the only valid authority on any given topic. The view that SR is pseudoscience is deeply uninformed, profoundly racist, and dismissive of the embodied wisdom of non-European cultures."

Exploring further:

This comment is a powerful reminder that wisdom and practices from non-Western cultures have been shaping human understanding for millennia, often in ways that modern science is only beginning to grasp. The critique of my article suggests that there are long-standing traditions and scientific frameworks from Eastern perspectives that support the practice of semen retention and its benefits.

In respect to this viewpoint, I embarked on a quest to explore and verify the claims made. Indeed, Eastern medicine and philosophies such as Taoism and Ayurveda have long espoused various health practices, including those related to sexual energy and semen retention. These are often part of holistic approaches to wellness that consider the balance of physical, mental, and spiritual health. Devi’s expertise is literally in the area of Tantra – hence why I’m sharing.

The notion that orgasm and ejaculation are separate functions is also supported by both ancient texts and some modern sexual health researchers. The practice of achieving orgasm without ejaculation is a part of this understanding, and it's a nuanced distinction from what is commonly referred to as 'edging' in Western discussions of sexual health. Orgasm without ejaculation is something that I’ve talked about in the past and actively practice at times. It’s totally my fault for not including that information to round out the article.

Regarding the claim about semen retention and prostate cancer risk, I did deeper research and found that the study in question does indeed include caveats about its findings, highlighting the complexity of this issue and the need for further research. Adding this to my list common sex health myths to actually solve before I’m dead.

The conversation isn’t over:

In sharing Devi’s comment, my goal is to open a dialogue that respects and includes diverse perspectives on sexual health. While my original stance was skeptical of semen retention benefits, I acknowledge there is a wealth of knowledge in Eastern science that deserves consideration and a place at the table in these discussions.

You deserve the best information available. I have always sought to find the western equivalent/translation for spiritual/traditional health science because I know there’s value there. Hence why The Butters products are designed in this particular way. It’s also why we’re going back over this topic more richly.

It's essential to approach such debates not as a matter of 'Western' vs. 'Eastern' science, but as an opportunity to integrate diverse insights for a more comprehensive understanding of human health and sexuality. My friend's expertise and experiences offer valuable wisdom, and I am grateful for her contribution to this conversation. As we continue to learn from each other, we can strive for a more inclusive and holistic approach to sexual wellness.

Spiced Blossom Elysium | Cocoa Butter Body Moisturizer

Welcome to the enchanting realm of Spiced Blossom Elysium Cocoa Butters — a symphony of the senses that transcends the ordinary. Immerse yourself in the mystique of black rose, as its velvety petals intertwine with the earthy allure of patchouli, creating a dance of darkness and light. Feel the citrusy sparks of orange zest igniting a psychedelic journey through the senses.

As you delve deeper, encounter the vanilla orchid's intoxicating embrace, wrapping you in a sensuous cocoon of indulgence. The essence of cinnamon leaf adds a tantalizing warmth, a subtle flicker of spice that lingers like a captivating secret. This blend is more than a fragrance; it's an odyssey into the unknown, a voyage guided by your own desires.

Spiced Blossom Elysium Cocoa Butters — where each application becomes a ritual, an invitation to explore the boundaries of sensory delight. Let the enthralling notes unfold on your skin, weaving a tale of passion and mystery. Surrender to the allure of Spiced Blossom Elysium, where every moment is an escapade into the extraordinary.

Details:

4oz Jar

1 year Shelf Life

Expression: Masculine

About The Fragrance:

Black rose, patchouli, orange zest, vanilla orchid and cinnamon leaf

Ingredients:

Shea Butter: A rich, nourishing butter that hydrates and protects the skin.

Cocoa Butter: A natural moisturizer that provides deep hydration and helps to reduce stretch marks.

Coconut Oil: Provides natural hydration and anti-microbial support.

Grape Seed Oil: A lightweight oil that nourishes the skin with essential fatty acids.

Aloe Leaf Juice: Soothes and hydrates the skin.

Vitamin E: Provides antioxidant protection.

Apple Cider Vinegar: Helps to balance the skin’s pH and provides natural exfoliation.

Vitamin C: Provides antioxidant protection.

About The Butter:

Say goodbye to sticky body lotions and butters that never soak in, leave you ashy, or irritate your skin with unnecessary chemicals. The Butters Original Spiced Blossom Elysium Cocoa Butter Body Lotion is what you need!

This is not just another body butter packed with more emulsifiers than moisture. It is a blend of six butters, aloe, and vitamins that truly supports skin health rather than just manufacturing the look of it.

From your toes to your scalp, this blend of shea, aloe, grapeseed, and olive oils will hydrate, nourish, and protect. Use it for any external hygiene need: body lotion, scalp and hair conditioner, cuticle care, post-dialysis skin repair, protecting baby’s skin, and more.

Suggested Uses:

Hair, Skin & Nail Conditioner

Ashiness Eraser

Massage Lotion

Makeup Remover

Leather & Wood Care

Shaving Lubricant

Beard Conditioner

Skin Protector

Tattoo Aftercare

100% Vegan, sustainably sourced

Embrace your inner savage and unleash your inner wild with The Butters Original Savage Cocoa Butter. Your skin will thank you!

Ingredients:

Butyrospermum Parkii (Shea) Butter, Theobroma Cacao Seed (Cocoa) Butter, Cocos Nucifera (Coconut) Oil, Vitis Vinifera (Grape) Seed Oil, Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Juice, Kosher Salt, Fragrance, Isopropyl Myristate, Vitamin E (Tocopherol), Acetic Acid (Apple Cider Vinegar), Potassium Sorbate, Potassium Metabisulfate, Ascorbic Acid (Vitamin C), Germall Plus - Organic Preservative [.05%] (Propylene Glycol, Diazolidinyl Urea, Iodopropynyl Butylcarbamate

Long N Soft 💇 Hair Food Serum - Growth / Retention

All-in-one multi-nutrient supplement for scalp, hair, & roots. Provides perfect nutrition to grow healthier hair from strong roots to smooth ends. Packed with vitamin c, a, iron, magnesium, potassium, & calcium.

Liquid Gold: Hair Growth & Anti-loss Serum is a all-in-one multi-nutrient supplement for scalp, hair, & roots. Provides perfect nutrition to grow healthier hair from strong roots to smooth ends. Packed with vitamin c, a, iron, magnesium, potassium, & calcium.

A plant is only as healthy as its soil. Your hair is only as healthy as your scalp.

Helps with these common problems:

Thinning, flat, crunchy, or brittle strands

Traction & androgenic alopecia

Male & female pattern baldness

Dandruff & other scalp dermatitis issues

Excess hair shedding

Protects from heat damage

Friction damage

Good for about 2 years from receiving - oil will get cloudy when oxidizing. Keep out of direct sunlight and heat for maximum shelf life.

2oz Bottle

Suggested usage: Apply 2x weekly to the scalp and massage through. Don't wash out. Can be used at night, with heat, as a hot oil treatment or added to your favorite conditioner. If it's too heavy, follow up with a dry shampoo or mix with The Butters' conditioners. The latter technique increases volume and the oily look on

Ingredients: Castor, avocado, hempseed, sweet almond, basil, grape seed, rosemary, jojoba, pomegranate, vitamin e oils

Highlights:

Works great as a hot oil treatment

Reduces DHT production

Helps lower cortisol

Anti-oxidant rich

Anti-inflammatory, antiviral, and antibiotic properties

Features basil from my home garden

HOW IT WORKS

Castor oil - has natural antibacterial and antifungal properties to fight scalp infections and their symptoms: bald patches, itchy scalp, flakes, thinning, follicle shut down. Seals split ends and smooths hair follicles. Penetrates deeper into both skin, scalp, and hair follicles carrying any nutrients it's infused with. Thickens, plumps stands, resulting in brighter, shinier, more vibrant hair color - natural and colored. Nutrient rich: high in vitamin E, minerals, proteins, and omega-6 and -9 beneficial fatty acids. Unusually high ricinoleic acid ratio makes it incredibly beneficial to skin and hair.

Rosemary - Lowers DHT (dihyroxytestosterone) improving hair growth and prostate health. Balances androgen and estrogen in the body. When applied over the scalp rosemary essential oil helps stimulate hair growth, slows graying, and can be used to treat dandruff and dry scalp. One of the best known natural ingredients for hair growth. I'm proves hair's ability to resist traction damage and hair shedding.

Hempseed Oil - Hempseed oil comes from the seed of the cannabis plant. It's high in CBD, but has virtually no THC. Therefore it does maintain many of its medicinal properties but won't get you "high." Hempseed oil is a rich and balanced source of omega-6 and omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids (PUFAs) & vitamin e. Scientifically proven to treat dermatitis. This is due to it's antimicrobial, conditioning, and immune system support properties. Hempseed oil does not clog pores. Hempseed oil moisturizes the scalp and hair, promotes hair growth, strengthens hair to prevent breakage, & treats dandruff/flakiness.

Jojoba - Very similar to the natural oil or sebum humans create. It's molecularly a liquid wax and helps create a seal over tissues. Some of the most notable benefits of jojoba oil include its ability to moisturize the hair, prevent hair loss, reduce inflammation, prevent acne, soothe sunburn and psoriasis, rejuvenate the skin, eliminate dandruff, fight free radical damage, boost the immune system and speed up the healing process. Jojoba oil is rich in iodine, which fights harmful bacteria growth that leads to breakouts. The antioxidants present in jojoba oil soothe fine lines, wrinkles and naturally slow down other signs of aging. Jojoba oil contains beneficial ingredients, including vitamin E, vitamin B complex - High in B5, silicon, chromium, copper and zinc. It has a very high percentage of iodine at 82 percent, which gives jojoba oil its power to heal. It contains three fatty acids: erucic (13.6 percent), gadoleic (71.3 percent) and oleic (11.2 percent).

Pomegranate Seed Oil - Rich in: vitamin C, vitamin K and potassium, punicic acid, an omega-5 long chain polyunsaturated fatty acid, polyphenols. Pomegranates also contain hundreds of different bioactive compounds, including ellagic acid, ellagitannins, punicic acid, flavonoids, anthocyanidins, anthocyanins, estrogenic flavonols and flavones, which appear to be the most therapeutically beneficial pomegranate components.

Grapeseed Oil - packed with polyphenols, vitamin E, flavonoids, linoleic acid (omega-6 fatty acid), anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, anti-aging, antimicrobial, supports adaptogenic activity (promotes homeostasis and lower stress), helps acne & dermatitis, reduces age spots, heals /prevents sun burn, varicose veins, rheumatoid arthritis, bruising, PMS symptoms, moisture & conditioning to hair, skin, and nails.

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Comparison of The Butters Lubricants & What to Use Them For

One of the burning questions I get all the time is, "What's the slippery difference between all your lubes?" So, I've whipped up a slick guide that’ll slide right into your understanding. You can slide into my DMs with thank-yous later. 😉🌊📖

1. Aloe X Shea Lube:

Key Ingredients: Aloe Vera, Shea Butter, Coconut Oil

USP: Signature lube with soothing and moisturizing properties. Vegan, pH-balanced, and loved by over 60,000 users.

Best for: General intimacy and skin health.

2. Aloe X Shea Lube w/ CBD:

Key Ingredients: Aloe Vera, Shea Butter, Coconut Oil, CBD

USP: Same base as the signature lube but infused with CBD for elevated intimacy, relaxation, and reduced anxiety.

Best for: Enhanced arousal, intimacy where relaxation is sought, and potentially reducing discomfort.

3. Butters Lube w/ Cocoa Butter:

Key Ingredients: Aloe Vera, Shea Butter, Cocoa Butter, Coconut Oil

USP: Luxurious blend with cocoa butter for a unique, antioxidant-rich experience.

Best for: Rich moisturizing, general intimacy with a touch of luxury.

4. Grapeseed X Avocado:

Key Ingredients: Grape Seed Oil, Avocado Oil, Vitamin E

USP: A silky, oil-based elixir perfect for massages and intimate touches. Natural and flavor/fragrance-free.

Best for: Deep skin nourishment, massages transitioning to intimacy.

5. Palm Grease w/ CBD:

Key Ingredients: Palm Oil, Grape Seed Oil, Vitamin E, CBD

USP: Luxuriously thick formula with CBD, perfect for prolonged sessions and specific intimate explorations.

Best for: Extended sessions, enhanced arousal, and anal play.

6. Water X Hyaluronic Acid:

Key Ingredients: Water, Vitamin C, Hyaluronic Acid

USP: A water-based elixir that enhances natural wetness, safe for all toys and curves.

Best for: Quick and easy cleanup, toy compatibility, enhancing natural lubrication.

Recommended Lubes for 10 Common Sexual Activities

General Intercourse: Aloe-Shea Fusion Lube (A great all-rounder with moisturizing benefits)

Massage Transitioning to Intimacy: Grapeseed X Avocado (Smooth for massage and intimate touch)

Solo Play: Palm Grease w/ CBD (For long sessions and added relaxation benefits)

Anal Play: Palm Grease w/ CBD (Thicker consistency and potential for comfort)

Use with Toys: Water X Hyaluronic Acid (Safe for all materials, easy cleanup)

Oral Sex: Grapeseed X Avocado (Natural, devoid of strong flavors)

Quickies: Water X Hyaluronic Acid (For a quick and smooth experience)

Shower Play: Aloe X Shea Lube w/ CBD (Water resistance from oils and added intimacy from CBD)

Extended Sessions: Palm Grease (Long-lasting and conditioning)

Enhanced Arousal and Sensation: Aloe X Shea Lube w/ CBD (CBD to elevate the experience)

Note: Always ensure to patch-test any new product to avoid allergic reactions. Individual preferences and sensitivities might influence the best choice for each activity.

5 'Terrible' Reasons Not to Shop at The Butters (Or Are They?)

Ahoy there! If you're reading this, it's likely because you've been tempted to shop with The Butters and want to know if there's any reason you shouldn't. Well, let me be the first to confess: There are absolutely reasons not to shop with us! Though, whether these are deal-breakers or secretly the most amazing things you've ever heard… well, that's up to you to decide. So here they are, the top five 'downsides' to shopping at The Butters:

All-Vegan, All Handmade, All the Time I know, it's disappointing. In a world where factory-produced items are the norm, it's tragic that our products have to be 100% vegan and handmade. Every single ingredient is selected to my meticulous standards. It might not be the industrial-grade hygiene you've become accustomed to, but it's the heartfelt, handmade touch we offer. Such a shame.

It's a One-Man Show Over Here Every piece of art has a creator, and The Butters is no different. Owned, designed, made, and even illustrated – it's all done by yours truly. So, you're basically putting your trust in the exquisite taste of one man. Tragic, right? I know your budget might strain under the weight of such perfection.

The Overwhelming Variety Oh, where to begin with our extensive product list! With over 50 different products, choosing just one (or ten) can be such a chore. Every single item is top-notch. Still, sifting through so much awesome can be tiring. So much goodness in one place, it's truly outrageous.

Paying Employees a Fair Wage? How Dare We! Brace yourself for this one: We take your hard-earned money and give a whopping 25% back to our employees in wages and bonuses. It's such a catastrophe to shop somewhere that values its workers, right? With that level of compensation, you just know the customer service and product quality will be so phenomenal, it's almost irresistible.

Sexual Health with a Side of... Everything Else At the heart of The Butters is our deep commitment to sexual health. So, whenever you buy your lube, it comes from a diverse individual: part sex nerd, part pastry chef, and part, well, let's just say "good Christian boy." Expect to be so satisfied you might just have a divine experience. A bit overboard? Maybe. But we aim to please!

So there you have it, the top 'drawbacks' of shopping with The Butters. After reconsidering, these might actually be compelling reasons to fill up your cart. But don't let me sway you; feel free to come to your own conclusions. Maybe we're just so 'terrible' that we're terrific. 😉🛍️🌱

Oil-Based Lube Material Compatibility - A Complete Guide

Materials have varying chemical structures, which will respond differently when exposed to other substances. Oil-based lubricants, which usually contain hydrocarbons, can interact with other materials either chemically or physically, leading to compatibility or incompatibility.

Compatible With:

Most metals: The molecules in oil-based lubes create a protective layer on metal surfaces that prevents rusting and reduces wear.

Glass: The non-reactive nature of glass means it does not chemically interact with oil-based lubricants.

Ceramics: Like glass, ceramics are mostly inert, allowing for compatibility with oil-based lubes.

Thermoset plastics: Once these plastics are set, their chemical structure is stable and generally non-reactive. This makes them more resistant to solvents and oils.

Some thermoplastic materials (PE & PP): These plastics have a structure that doesn't break down easily when in contact with oils.

Most elastomers: Their elasticity combined with their chemical makeup can often tolerate and absorb oils without degrading. However, specific formulations might react differently.

Not Compatible With:

Latex: Oil-based lubricants can break down the proteins in latex, weakening its structure and making it more prone to breakage. This can compromise the efficacy of latex products like condoms.

Polyurethane: Some types of polyurethane have ester bonds that can break down in the presence of oil, leading to degradation of the material.

Polyisoprene: This is a synthetic version of natural rubber. Oil can disturb its molecular structure, reducing its strength and elasticity.

Soft plastics and rubbers: The molecules in oils can penetrate the matrix of these materials, causing them to swell, soften, or degrade over time.

Why Compatibility Matters:

Compatibility ensures that materials maintain their structural integrity and performance over time. When materials degrade due to incompatibility, they can fail to function as intended, leading to inefficiencies or even hazardous situations, especially in critical applications like medical devices or safety equipment.

Conclusion:

Understanding the compatibility of oil-based lubricants with various materials is essential to ensure safety and functionality. Always prioritize manufacturer's recommendations, and when uncertain, a spot-test or consultation can help mitigate risks.

The Evolution of Love: From New Relationship Energy Beginnings to Lasting Comfort

When I first met my now ex Bubby, the whirlwind of emotions I experienced was enough to send shivers down my spine. The intensity of those feelings left me slightly apprehensive. However, as time marched on, those emotions gradually evolved, and I found myself in a different place. Today, I'm content to see him and spend time together, but that initial fervor of love has undoubtedly settled down. And that's perfectly fine; the initial spark in a relationship is like fireworks—it dazzles briefly before fading into the night.

In the initial two months of Bubby and me being together, it felt like I was floating on air. It was a brand new experience for me, having never been in a relationship before, and the overwhelming happiness was a delightful surprise. Despite my usual inclination to keep my emotions tightly under control, I made a conscious choice to let go and immerse myself in the moment.

During those first two months, time seemed to move at a different pace. We created our own little world, blissfully ignorant of the outside noise. We'd lounge around my apartment, basking in the emotional high and sharing an abundance of intimate moments. But then, our first disagreement happened, and it served as a gentle reminder that there was a world beyond our bubble. While our sanctuary remained intact, the outside world began to regain its clarity.

I wouldn't say that the fight was a major dent in our otherwise smooth-sailing relationship, but it did tarnish the bright sheen of our connection a bit. In the immediate aftermath of the argument, I didn't feel particularly warm and fuzzy. It took about a week to rekindle those feelings, but they were never quite the same—an observation that became apparent only with a bit of distance.

Now, approaching our six-month mark, our relationship no longer glistens like a pristine sports car fresh off the lot. It's accumulated some well-earned scratches and dents, making it feel more lived-in. For many, this natural evolution might be alarming, and I'm no exception.

A few days ago, I realized that my feelings for Bubby had lost some of their initial intensity, and I panicked momentarily. The fear of falling out of love with him crept in. After all, we had our fair share of fights and challenges to overcome, which left me genuinely concerned that frustration had eroded my affection. I even contemplated ending the relationship to prevent an unpleasant ending.

But once the panic subsided, I took an honest look back at our journey. It was undeniable that something had changed. The wild torrent of feelings had transformed into a sense of comfort. The roller coaster ride had transitioned into a cozy familiarity.

I couldn't help but draw parallels with the way I feel about new gadgets. At first, it's infatuation, with everything about it being thrilling and exciting. However, as time goes on, that excitement evolves into familiarity. Tasks become easier because I've come to understand all its quirks and flaws. Despite the change in my initial fervor, my affection remains unwavering, and I still want it in my life.

Similarly, I want Bubby in my life now more than ever. As we've grown together, so has our relationship. It's the natural order of things—everything mellows with time, be it wine, puppies, homes, cars, cheese, meat, or relationships.

Young love is undeniably exhilarating, but it lacks the depth that sustains a relationship over the long haul. The initial rush of a new relationship serves as a temporary adhesive while the emotional bond strengthens. It's a captivating distraction, but it's not meant to last forever. So, by all means, savor it, because it's an incredible feeling. Just be aware that change is an integral part of the journey, and that's perfectly okay. In fact, it's often for the best.

Skincare Basics: How To Minimize Large Pores For Smoother, Less Haggard-looking skin! Science Backed

Large pores are a common skin issue faced by many. While it is not possible to get rid of them permanently, the American Academy of Dermatology Association (AAD) provides a comprehensive guide on how to treat large pores, which is essential for achieving a smoother and more radiant complexion. I’ve summarized it here for your ease of reading!

Understanding Pores

Pores are small openings on the surface of the skin through which oil and sweat are released. Factors such as genetics, aging, weightloss, sun exposure, and skin type can contribute to the size of the pores. Oily skin and aging, in particular, are associated with larger pores as the oil glands enlarge with age and produce more oil.

Proper Skin Care Routine

A consistent and appropriate skincare routine is vital for minimizing the appearance of large pores. The AAD recommends the following steps:

1. Cleansing: Use a gentle cleanser twice a day to remove dirt, oil, and makeup from your face.

2. Exfoliating: Regularly exfoliate your skin to remove dead skin cells that can clog pores.

3. Sunscreen: Apply a broad-spectrum sunscreen with SPF 30 or higher every day, even on cloudy days.

4. Non-comedogenic products: Use non-comedogenic skincare and makeup products that won’t clog your pores.

Our version:

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Treatment Options

In addition to a proper skincare routine, there are several dermatologist-recommended treatments available for minimizing large pores. These include:

1. Topical Retinoids: These help in increasing the collagen production in the skin, which in turn, makes the pores appear smaller.

2. Chemical Peels: These involve the application of an acid solution to the skin to remove its outer layer and reveal a smoother surface.

3. Microdermabrasion and Dermabrasion: These are skin resurfacing procedures that help in making the pores appear smaller by removing the outer layer of the skin.

4. Laser and Light Treatments: These treatments stimulate collagen production and tighten the skin, thereby reducing the appearance of pores.

Conclusion

While it is not possible to permanently eliminate large pores, with a consistent skincare routine and dermatologist-recommended treatments, you can significantly minimize their appearance. Remember to cleanse, exfoliate, and protect your skin from the sun, and opt for non-comedogenic products to keep your pores clean and less noticeable.

Thriving with Sickle Cell Disease: A Guide to Living Well

Living with sickle cell disease can be a challenge, but with the right support and care, it is possible to manage the condition effectively and live a healthy and fulfilling life. Here are some steps you can take to live well with sickle cell disease:

1. Work with a healthcare team: It is important to have a healthcare team that includes a hematologist, primary care physician, and other specialists, as needed. Your healthcare team can help you manage your symptoms and provide the necessary treatment to prevent complications.

2. Take your meds: Just because you’re prescribed doesn’t mean you actually take them. Take your meds!

3. Manage pain: Sickle cell disease can cause severe pain and discomfort. Work with your healthcare team to develop a pain management plan, which may include over-the-counter pain relievers, prescription medications, and complementary therapies like massage or acupuncture.

4. Stay hydrated: Dehydration can trigger sickle cell crisis, so it is important to drink plenty of water, especially during hot weather or when you are physically active.

5. Maintain a healthy diet: A balanced diet that includes plenty of fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains can help you maintain good health and manage your symptoms.

6. Exercise regularly: Regular exercise can help improve your physical fitness, boost your energy levels, and manage pain. However, it is important to talk to your healthcare team before starting any new exercise program.

7. Get adequate sleep: Good sleep is important for overall health and can help you manage pain and stress.

8. Manage stress: Stress can trigger sickle cell crisis, so it is important to find healthy ways to manage stress, such as through relaxation techniques, therapy, or support groups.

9. Mental health: Sickle cell is stressful and often occurs with anxiety and depression. It’s important to be patient and forgiving with yourself and your varying limitations. Therapy & medications can be helpful. Your medical team will be able to help you.

10. Lose the shame: Don’t avoid soothing your discomforts to please others. If you need to rock, rub, hum, or go fetal to cope with the pain, do it. You’re living with a chronic illness that doesn’t give a fuck about decorum and politeness.

11. Be prepared: Get your go bag ready for the possibility of hospitalization. Keep it with you if you’re staying over some place. A separate smaller bag for day-to-day carry is recommended as well.

12. Avoid triggers: Certain factors, such as high altitude, cold weather, and dehydration, can trigger sickle cell crisis. Talk to your healthcare team about your triggers and how to avoid them.

13. Stay up-to-date with vaccinations: Regular vaccinations can help protect you from infections, which can be dangerous for people with sickle cell disease.

14. Connect with a support network: Connecting with other people with sickle cell disease or a support group can provide emotional support and help you manage your condition more effectively.

Social media accounts to follow:

@moonlitdna Instagram, Tiktok, Twitter, Reddit, Twitch

@TheHemenp Instagram & Tiktok, www.TheHemenp.com

@drzsicklecell Instagram

@letstalksickle Instagram

@sicklecell101 Instagram

@sicklecelluk Instagram

Orgs to follow:

Sickle Cell Disease Association of America (SCDAA): This is a national organization that provides support, education, and advocacy for people with sickle cell disease.

National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute (NHLBI): This is a federal institute that provides information and resources on sickle cell disease, including research updates and clinical trials.

Sickle Cell Disease Research and Education Society (SCDRES): This is a non-profit organization that provides support, education, and advocacy for people with sickle cell disease.

The History of Lube: From Ancient Civilizations to Modern Times

From the dawn of humanity, humans have been curious creatures. We've reached for the stars, explored the depths of the ocean, and, yes, sought ways to make our intimate encounters more pleasurable and comfortable. One such quest has been for the perfect lubricant. Let's embark on a slippery journey through time to explore the evolution of this intimate accessory.

1. Ancient Greece & Rome: Olive Oil and More

In the sun-bathed lands of ancient Greece and Rome, olive oil was more than just a kitchen staple. The Greeks revered it for its myriad uses, including as a personal lubricant. The logic? Olive oil, known for its moisturizing properties, provided a smooth, easily available solution to reduce friction. The benefits were clear: increased comfort during intimacy, and let's face it, an excuse to have more olives in the household.

2. Ancient China: Water & Sticky Rice

Venturing to the East, Ancient Chinese texts make reference to lubricants made from water mixed with sticky rice. The concoction was believed not only to provide slickness but also to possess certain health benefits.

3. Japan's Seaweed Solutions

Moving Eastward, the Japanese had their own unique answer to lubrication - a derivative from seaweed. Known as "tororo-jiru," this seaweed extract formed a slippery gel. Given the island nation's abundant marine life, it made sense to use what was locally available. Not only did tororo-jiru ensure smoother intimate moments, but it also boasted a natural origin, ensuring limited side effects.

4. Africa: Animal Fats & Butter

On the vast continent of Africa, diverse tribes and communities employed various natural solutions. Among them were certain animal fats and specially prepared butters. Given the warmer climates, these lubricants melted easily, providing a smooth consistency. Using what was available and efficient, these fats didn't just facilitate intimacy, but also had moisturizing properties beneficial for the skin.

5. Modern Innovations: Silicone, Water-Based, and Beyond!

Fast-forward to the 20th and 21st centuries, and the world of lubricants has exploded with diversity. We have water-based lubes that are perfect for toy play, silicone-based for longer-lasting fun, hybrids, and even those infused with sensations like cooling or warming agents. The technological advancements have been coupled with a heightened understanding of bodily health, leading to pH-balanced and hypoallergenic formulas.

6. Pop Culture's Take: Grace & Frankie’s Yam Lube

Even pop culture hasn't shied away from discussing and celebrating lubricants. Netflix's beloved show, "Grace & Frankie," took a comedic but enlightening approach with their introduction of a homemade yam-based lube. This not only shed light on the importance of natural ingredients but also opened up a broader conversation about intimacy among older adults. It’s a testament to how far we’ve come in breaking down the taboos surrounding sexual health and how mainstream the topic of lubrication has become.

Looking Ahead: The Future of Lube

With innovations in biotechnology and an ever-growing emphasis on sustainable and organic products, the future of lube promises to be as thrilling as its storied past. We can anticipate even more tailor-made solutions, catering to diverse needs and preferences, ensuring that every intimate moment is not just pleasurable but also safe and healthy.

The journey of lubricants from the simple oils of ancient times to the scientifically advanced solutions of today showcases humanity's dedication to enhancing pleasure and comfort. While the components and concoctions may have evolved, the essence of lubricants remains the same: to enhance comfort, pleasure, and connection. From olives in Athens to yams in Hollywood, the journey of lube is a testament to humanity's ceaseless drive to improve intimate experiences, one slick solution at a time.

Anal Sex: Top 5 Concerns and How to Address Them - Blood, Pain, Looseness, Tightness, Endurance

Anal sex, like any sexual activity, can come with risks and concerns. While some individuals enjoy it as a regular part of their intimate routine, others might approach it with apprehension or fear. This article will address the top five concerns related to anal sex, offering solutions and advice to ensure that the experience is as safe and pleasurable as possible.

1. Blood

Concern: One of the more alarming experiences during or after anal sex is the presence of blood. The lining of the rectum is very delicate, and small tears, known as anal fissures, can occur.

How to address it:

Go Slowly: If you're new to anal sex or haven't engaged in it for a while, take things slow. Starting with smaller objects, like fingers or small toys, can help prepare the body.

Use Lube: Lubrication is essential. Ensure you use plenty of high-quality lube to minimize friction.

Stop if it Hurts: If you experience pain, stop immediately. Pain is your body's way of indicating something isn't right.

2. Pain

Concern: Pain is a common concern, especially for beginners.

How to address it:

Relax: Being tense can make the experience more painful. Engage in foreplay and communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't.

Position Matters: Experiment with different positions to find out what is most comfortable.

Arnica: A natural solution to reduce inflammation and bruising. Avoid numbing the pain away. This is a necessary warning sign.

Embrace the Intensity: No matter what this will be an intense experience for you, which may make it feel painful. Embrace the fact that you have someone thundering through your hole. It’s an experience.

3. Tightness - Patience is Key

Concern: The anal sphincter is a muscle, and like all muscles, it can be tight if not relaxed.

How to address it:

Warm-up: Start with something smaller, like a finger, and progressively increase the size as you become more comfortable.

Breathe: Deep, regular breaths can help relax the body.

Regular Practice: If anal play is something you're interested in, regular practice can help increase flexibility and comfort.

Poppers: While not for everyone, this is a commonly used substance that can be used to make things go smoother. Learn more about Poppers here

4. Looseness - Body Adaptation

Concern: There's a myth that regular anal sex can lead to permanent stretching or "looseness."

How to address it:

Understanding the Body: The anal sphincter is quite elastic and can return to its original state after stretching. It's worth noting that the human body can stretch up to 7 inches wide without permanent damage.

Kegel Exercises: These exercises can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, ensuring better control.

5. Endurance - It's a Muscle, After All!

Concern: Some may find that they can't sustain anal sex for as long as they'd like due to discomfort or fatigue.

How to address it:

Use More Lube: Over time, lubrication can wear off, increasing friction and discomfort. Reapplying can make things more comfortable.

Practice Makes Perfect: Like any muscle, the more you work it, the stronger and more enduring it becomes. If you wish to engage in longer sessions, gradually increase your playtime, ensuring you're always comfortable.

Wrap up:

Like any sexual activity, anal sex requires communication, trust, and knowledge. By addressing these concerns, you can ensure that your experiences are both pleasurable and safe. Always remember to consult with a healthcare professional if you have concerns about your health or body.

The Emergence of "Side" in the Gay Community: Beyond Tops and Bottoms

The gay community, like all communities, is an evolving landscape of identities, preferences, and expressions. Historically, when discussing sexual roles within the gay male community, the terms "top" and "bottom" have often come to the forefront. These terms categorize individuals based on their preference for either giving (top) or receiving (bottom) in anal intercourse. However, in the last five years, a new term has emerged that is challenging these established categories: "Side."

What is a "Side"?

A "Side" is an individual who prefers forms of intimacy other than anal intercourse. Their range of sexual activities can include, but are not limited to, cuddling, frottage (the act of rubbing bodies together for sexual pleasure), bating, oral sex, and exploring various kinks. The term was coined to give recognition to those who don’t identify strictly with the dominant categorizations of top and bottom, but instead, find pleasure in other intimate acts.

A New Term for Age-Old Practices

Although the term "Side" has gained popularity only in the past half-decade, the practices and preferences it denotes have always been a part of the gay community. Historically, due to the stigmatization and criminalization of homosexual acts, many gay men were pushed into clandestine settings where penetrative sex was not always feasible or desirable. As a result, other forms of intimacy like oral sex, frottage, and mutual masturbation played a significant role in their sexual lives.

Even in more recent times, with greater acceptance and legalization of same-sex relationships in many parts of the world, not all gay men are interested in or find pleasure in penetrative sex. Many choose to engage in the activities that a Side would typically prefer, not as a substitute for anal intercourse, but because they genuinely enjoy them.

Beyond Stereotypes: A Diverse Sexual Landscape

It's essential to note that the majority of male-on-male sexual encounters are, in fact, oral. This observation flies in the face of prevalent stereotypes that might lead one to believe that anal intercourse is the primary form of sexual expression among gay men.

By introducing the term "Side" into the broader vocabulary, we are not only recognizing a wide array of sexual preferences but also challenging the often binary view of gay male sexuality. The term adds depth and nuance to conversations about gay relationships, shedding light on the diversity of experiences within the community.

Validity and Acceptance

It's crucial to understand that being a Side, a Top, a Bottom, or any combination thereof is valid. Sexual preferences are deeply personal and diverse. The gay community has always been at the forefront of sexual liberation, challenging norms, and breaking boundaries. The recognition of Sides is another step in this journey, a testament to the fact that there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach to intimacy and pleasure.

Personal Experience:

I asked @d1kluvrcumobsessed on Twitter about their feelings. Here’s what he had to say:

“Being a side brings me infinitely more pleasure than penetrative sex. All of the best orgasms of my life have been through masturbation or mutual masturbation with another person. I can go longer, try new techniques, connect on a deeper level, and listen to the natural ebb and flow of my dick.”

“No hole or mouth or throat can do to my dick what my well-practiced hand can do. Plus covering myself in explosive massive loads of cum turns me on. I’ve been a masturbator since I was 7 years old (almost 30 years now) and having the label of “side” allows me to showcase my sexual preference without shame or unnecessary explanation.”

“There is no prep work needed when penetration is not required; I can masturbate anywhere, anytime with little equipment or preparation.”

“Another aspect of being a side that is often not a part of penetrative sex is the bator brotherhood. The sense of community and camaraderie surrounding guys who identify as bators is really special and makes me feel supported in my journey as a bator and as a side.”

“The biggest pleasure I receive from being a side is really connecting with my body, myself, and my sexuality/sensuality. I am giving myself pleasure and that makes me feel really desirable and sexy. I didn’t feel that way when I used to fuck people as a top.”

Wrap up:

The emergence of the term "Side" is a reminder that sexuality is fluid and multi-dimensional. As society continues to evolve and become more understanding, it is our hope that terms like these don't pigeonhole individuals but instead celebrate the diverse spectrum of human sexuality. Whether you identify as a Top, Bottom, Side, or none of the above, your experiences and preferences are valid, valuable, and worthy of recognition and respect.

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Decoding Poppers: Unveiling the Chemistry Behind Pleasure and Risks

In the realm of sexual exploration and recreational experiences, a small yet potent substance known as "poppers" has emerged as a topic of both fascination and concern. These unassuming liquids, with their alluring aroma and potent effects, have carved a unique niche for themselves. This article delves into the intriguing world of poppers, shedding light on their sexual usage, potential hazards, and the essential knowledge for anyone curious about their allure and intricacies.

What are Poppers?

Poppers, scientifically known as alkyl nitrites, are clear or pale-yellow liquids that emit a distinctive, strong aroma. They are typically sold in small bottles and are inhaled. Historically, poppers were used to treat angina (chest pain) due to their ability to dilate blood vessels and increase blood flow. However, their primary contemporary use is as a recreational drug and as an aid during sexual activities.

Common types of alkyl nitrites found in poppers:

Amyl Nitrite: Originally used as a prescription medication to treat angina, amyl nitrite was one of the earliest alkyl nitrites used recreationally. It produces a quick rush of warm sensations and is known for its short-lived effects.

Butyl Nitrite: This compound is often used as a replacement for amyl nitrite due to regulatory restrictions. It produces similar effects, including relaxation of muscles and a rush of warmth, but its effects are typically milder and longer-lasting.

Isobutyl Nitrite: Isobutyl nitrite is another compound used as an alternative to amyl nitrite. It has gained popularity in some regions due to its more relaxed legal status. Its effects are comparable to those of butyl nitrite.

Isoamyl Nitrite: Also known as isopentyl nitrite, this compound is used in some poppers as an alternative to amyl nitrite. Its effects are similar to those of amyl nitrite, producing a rapid rush and muscle relaxation.

Cyclohexyl Nitrite: This compound is considered to have a longer-lasting and more gradual effect compared to other nitrites. It's sometimes used as an ingredient in poppers, offering a different experience to users.

Usage in Sexual Context:

Poppers are often used in sexual contexts to enhance sensations and arousal. When inhaled, they cause a rapid dilation of blood vessels, leading to a warm, lightheaded feeling and heightened physical sensations. This effect is particularly valued in the realm of sexual activities due to its potential to relax muscles, including those in the anal area, making anal sex potentially more comfortable. Some users also report increased sexual arousal and intensified orgasms.

Potential Dangers and Risks:

While poppers are legal in many places (not America), it's important to note that they are not without risks. Some potential dangers associated with popper use include:

Health Risks: Poppers can cause a drop in blood pressure, leading to dizziness, lightheadedness, and in extreme cases, fainting. They can also cause headaches, nausea, and skin irritation.

Chemical Inhalation: Inhaling poppers directly from the bottle can cause chemical burns to the nose, throat, and respiratory tract. Accidental ingestion can also be extremely harmful.

Interaction with Other Substances: Poppers should never be used in combination with medications that lower blood pressure or drugs like Viagra (sildenafil) due to the risk of a severe drop in blood pressure.

Addiction Potential: While not physically addictive, poppers can be psychologically habit-forming. Users might feel the need to use them regularly to experience certain sensations.

Safety and Consent: It's crucial to ensure that all parties involved in sexual activities where poppers are used are informed, consenting, and aware of the potential risks. Open communication is key to making informed decisions.

Considerations and Precautions:

If someone is considering using poppers, there are several precautions to keep in mind:

Read Labels: Only purchase poppers from reputable sources and ensure the label clearly indicates the ingredients and safety instructions.

Ventilation: If using poppers, ensure the room is well-ventilated to minimize the risk of chemical exposure and irritation.

Moderation: Like any substance, moderation is key. Avoid using poppers excessively to reduce potential health risks.

Seek Medical Help: If any adverse effects occur after using poppers, seek medical attention immediately.

Legal Status: Understand the legal status of poppers in your area before obtaining or using them. In the US we must purchase “video head cleaner.”

Personal Experiences:

When it comes to drugs, I like to take an informed risk style of education. If you’re here, you either use or want to use (or want to educate about use) of poppers. So, let’s get a few firsthand experiences with poppers. First @EricHassanXXX the legendary popper-bating coach and our affiliate (use code HASSAN for 20% off).

“I wish I could recall the first time I used poppers but I can’t. I didn’t know at the time how significant they would become in my life and how much they would expand my mind and drive my work. I do, however, clearly remember the years of hedonistic sexual pleasure fueled by poppers. For me, that was what poppers were about for a long time - feeling good and getting off. Over time, I noticed that I was connecting with people when we shared poppers in a way I didn’t with other people. I started to understand poppers not just as a tool to enhance pleasure, but also a means of developing community and fostering trust.

There is something about a dude who’s also got a bottle of poppers in his hand that makes you feel a little bit more of a kinship with him. I also see poppers as a throughline connecting decades of queer history - something shared in moments of joy and pleasure, something collectively feared at the height of the aids epidemic, something passed from generation to generation. We all have a relationship to poppers whether we use them, and for those of us who do use them, they are so much more than a good time, but they certainly are a good time!”

– Eric Hassan thedudenextdoor.com

“I’ve tried poppers a shit ton - hundreds of times. Love huffing. I started using it when masturbating. But I wouldn’t recommend that. It’s easy to overdo it because it’s so fun. It made me dizzy, and my head hurt. And like if you pass out who’s there? I still used it when exploring bottoming, though. It helped make the process easier. But now I use it when fucking as a top or bottom. It’s euphoric, eye opening, & relaxing. I typically use it in kinkier settings.” – Saint, 27M

Lastly, my experience:

I’ve tried poppers on dozens of occasions between eighteen & 35. It’s not a drug I particularly like or think enhances my sexual pleasure. I often find it just ends up with me not being able to cum and having a headache. As much as I love edging, I’d like to get to the nut at some point. I think it just doesn’t sit well with my play style or body chemistry. I’ve enjoyed fucking dudes who used it. Although, those who must rely on it can be frustrating – like having sex with anyone who’s focused on anything but me. – Jerome, 35M

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