I Fuck Transsexual Men

Queer FTM, Self Taught Artist. 18+ NSFW. I make everything about men, especially when it comes to my hot trans boyfriend.

[ghostbatintothewild]

I mean this with all the love in the world thinking of yourself as merely predator or prey is not a healthy mindset and I think many of you would do good to sit and consider your personal power and capacity for violence. In that same vein, you're not protecting yourself by refusing to learn the signs and tactics of abusers in favor of generalizing. You are vulnerable to abuse and you will be stabbed by the person you never saw coming because you don't drive with your head on a swivel. I am very worried for you.

[ghostbatintothewild]

You Wouldn't Survive Being a Pregnant Trans Man

For every fragile cisgender woman who finds gender neutral language to be a threat to them when it comes to pregnancy and childbirth you have blood on your hands and you're a massive insecure hypocrite.

Feminists in the 70s understood—and researchers have since demonstrated—that “use of gender-exclusive language (e.g., using he [as the default pronoun]), is experienced as ostracism at the group level by women.” According to three studies analyzed by University of Massachusetts, Amherst social psychologist Nilanjana Dasgupta, “subtle linguistic cues that may seem trivial at face value can signal group-based ostracism and lead members of the ostracized group to self-select out of important professional environments.” That’s why we no longer use “he” and “him” when we talk about people generally, and we use the gender inclusive versions of occupations, like firefighters instead of firemen. Our language shows that we no longer think of maleness as the norm, and I guarantee that no one who’s moaning about the erasure of “women” have any concerns about that linguistic evolution. So, how is advocating for gender-neutral language any different? Aside from the fact that today’s language battles don’t directly benefit women like Atwood and her buds, of course.

You know full fucking well the impact of gender-exclusive language and it's consequences.

Providers don't know what to do with my anatomy as it is now, two years on testosterone, my pursuit of top surgery, my desire to start a family. I deal with dysphoria, medical discrimination, pregnancy classes, breast feeding, postpartum groups are seen as "women's spaces" at least that's the justification that was said to stop Kayden Coleman from being able to access them. You don't care if we fucking die as long as you can remain comfortable.

And to every transgender man who insists they're "doing something new" you are an insult to the men who have historically died quietly in childbirth without the amount of resources you have today. And keep that mpreg shit out of my fucking face unless you're using neutral language and educating yourself. You call people you don't like gay and trans, you spread around the pregnant transgender man emoji as a way to demean or "joke" around. We're a fetish to you and you can't even admit it. Fuck y'all, genuinely. "Women shouldn't be defined by their ability to give birth" my ass.

Here's the article I took from By Stacy Lee Kong, it's great and I deeply appreciate the time and effort put into the piece. I'm thankful to every ally who has stuck with us. https://www.fridaythings.com/recent-posts/margaret-atwood-rosie-dimanno-terf-definition

[asterosian]

“I wish I was hyperinvisible” no, actually, you do not wish that you were on the receiving end of the same amount of violence but also having everyone insist that it isn’t happening and trying their damndest to pretend you don’t exist even if it means you end up dying even more frequently while the statistics recording it mislabel you entirely

I am not saying hypervisibility is better. I have to clarify this before you all start pissing on the poor. I don’t think either case is desirable. I think what we all really want is to be acknowledged enough to have the records showing what happens to us be recorded accurately and to have the help we need while also not being constantly in the spotlight just to be demonized and scrutinized. My point is don’t act like trans men and nonbinary people are lucky to be erased.

[illdeactivateanyway]

I just stumbled upon an Instagram reel that said something like "I'm probably trans but I'm too much of a misandrist to accept it" with thousands of likes (including a couple of irl friends of mine who know that I'm a trans man...) but sure the queer community doesn't have a problem with men and masculinity and the radfem rhetoric that's been allowed to prosper in queer and feminist spaces these past years is not harmful to trans men at all (/s)

[papercranesandpride]

I remember years ago, long enough ago that I was still using either Tiktok or Instagram regularly, because that's where I saw this, long enough ago that unfortunately I do not remember the username, I saw an older trans woman responding to a comment asking "how come we see trans women from your generation, but never trans men?" And her response was simple. "Unfortunately, it's because most of them are dead." Between lack of safe and legal abortions (which, hey, look what's an issue again), the HIV/AIDs crisis (which still is lacking in approved treatments for trans men, and they're still likely to be denied PrEP/PEP even when they should be eligible as sexually active queer men), and how many of them chose to take their own lives after being forced into marriages and other women's roles, a lot of the trans men that should be elderly right now did not make it.

And now, when I find myself making the mistake of going on Instagram, I get to see trans men themselves talking about how historically, trans men didn't do anything for the community, and so we need to step up now. Which, first of all, that isn't true, but second of all, if trans men's contributions are lesser, that makes a lot of sense if we listen to that trans woman talking about the trans men she was in community with back in the day. It's very hard to advance the trans cause if you're not alive.

Anyway. It's a really chilling answer. "Where are all the elderly trans men?" "They're dead." And I just wish more people saw that tiktok and listened to it and really took it to heart, now that we're in the age of "well obviously trans men have it so much easier."

[genderkoolaid]

As trans people begin to organize politically, it is tempting to adopt the essentialist notion of gender identity. The cliché popularized by the mass media is that trans people are "women trapped in men's bodies" or vice versa. The attractiveness of such a strategy is clear, as the general population is more likely to become supportive of us if we could convince them that we are somehow born with a biological error over which we have no control over it. It is also often in tune with our own sense of who we are, which feels very deep and fundamental to us. However, as transfeminists, we resist such temptations because of their implications. Trans people have often been described as those whose physical sex does not match the gender of their mind or soul. This explanation might make sense intuitively, but it is nonetheless problematic for transfeminism. To say that one has a female mind or soul would mean there are male and female minds that are different from each other in some identifiable way, which in turn may be used to justify discrimination against women. Essentializing our gender identity can be just as dangerous as resorting to biological essentialism. Transfeminism believes that we construct our own gender identities based on what feels genuine, comfortable and sincere to us as we live and relate to others within given social and cultural constraint. This holds true for those whose gender identity is in congruence with their birth sex, as well as for trans people. Our demand for recognition and respect shall in no way be weakened by this acknowledgement. Instead of justifying our existence through the reverse essentialism, transfeminism dismantles the essentialist assumption of the normativity of the sex/gender congruence.

from The Transfeminist Manifesto (2001) by Emi Koyama. This quote is from the section "Deconstructing the Reverse Essentialism"

[ghostbatintothewild]

My boyfriend has notified me that when he gets angry about work he goes to the store, getting a baguette with various meats and cheeses along side it before heading home and making what he calls a "hubris sandwich." He cuts the baguette the long way, fills it up, and eats an eighth of it.

So shout out to Hubris Sandwich and my boyfriends meal prep coping technique

[ghostbatintothewild]

HAPPY PRIDE TRANS WOMEN

Happy Pride to Feminine Trans Women! Happy Pride to Masculine Trans Women! Happy Pride to Trans Women who enjoy Androgyny!

Happy Pride to the Trans Women who don't give a shit about Passing! Happy Pride to the Trans Women who are Stealth! Happy Pride to the Trans Women who the goal of Passing! Happy Pride to Intersex Trans Women!

Happy Pride to Lesbian Trans Women! Happy Pride to Butch Trans Women! Happy Pride to Femme Trans Women! Happy Pride to the Gay Trans Women who Love Men in a Queer Way! Happy Pride to the Heterosexual Trans Women! Happy Pride to Bisexual Trans Women! Happy Pride to T4T Trans Women!

Happy Pride to Medically Transitioning Trans Women! Happy Pride to Trans Women with no intention to Medically Transition! Happy Pride to Trans Women who want to Medically Transition but don't have the means! (lots of hugs to you if you so wish, I can empathize)

Happy Pride to Trans Women who are Multigender! Happy Pride to Trans Women who are Genderqueer! Happy Pride to Trans Women who are Genderless! Happy Pride to Trans Women who are Non-binary! Happy Pride to Trans Women who are Genderfluid!

Happy Pride to Trans Women who only use She/Her pronouns! Happy Pride to Trans Women who use Neopronouns! Happy Pride to Trans Women who use He/Him Pronouns!

Happy Pride to Closeted Trans Women! Happy Pride to Out and Proud Trans Women!

Happy Pride to Anyone who Celebrates in June! Check in on the Trans Women in your life, or Engage in art by Trans Women! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[genderkoolaid]

A view that the primary division of society is between women and men leads some women to fear that transsexual women are men in sheep's clothing coming across their border, or that female-to-male transsexuals are going over to the enemy, or that I look like that same enemy. Where is the border for intersexual people– right down the middle of their bodies? Trans people of all sexes and genders are not oppressors; they, like women, rank among the oppressed.

— Transgender Warriors: A Movement Whose Time Has Come by Leslie Feinberg

[angelandreus]

it is so vile to me that whenever I like a post criticizing transmisogyny tumblr immediately assumes i want to see posts degrading trans men. it’s so transmisogynistic to think that anyone who supports trans women hates trans men. genuinely distressing.

[frozen-autumns]

it both saddens me and really fucking aggravates me when some types of trans men pride themselves on being good, quiet, pliant men, and put down the ones that want to be outspoken.

when the subject at hand is how we're erased in topics that affect and often outright kill us (see: reproductive health, homelessness, sexual assault rates, etc), I don't see anything admirable about going "well, we're still men, so this isn't our place to speak over women." it's speaking over women to say we experience this too?

if I want to be blunter than usual, I'd say this "sitting down and being a good little trans guy" shtick only helps the people that want us dead. if talking about how we're oppressed (instead of rocketing up to some place of absolute privilege like they assume) upsets some people, frankly, I don't give a shit. I'll maybe give a shit when my trans brothers stop dying of sepsis, slaughter and suicide. until then, I hope being forced to acknowledge us makes you feel guilty enough to listen.

[scramratz]

“If men could get pregnant, abortion would be free” men CAN get pregnant and they’re treated worse than women who can get pregnant

[scramratz]

oh folks really don't like being asked to consider trans men

[scramratz]

A lot of cis people (particularly cis women) and even some trans people use benign "All men bad" rhetoric to slyly be transphobic towards trans men in particular but i dont think the world is ready for this discussion

[ghostbatintothewild]

Happy Pride to Polyamorous Folk!

This Pride learn to stop harassing polyamorous folk!

Yes, polyamorous folk deserve marriage rights and equality.

Yes, polyamorous folks are highly stigmatized.

Yes, many polyamorous folk are queer, LGBTQIA+.

I remember a lot of polyamorous hate and cruelty, making fun of someones appearance and clothing is really fucking shitty. Many of y'all will dogpile on a polyarmorous person the second they do a very normal people thing, such as having a bad take, making a mistake, or simply not looking like someone whose style and personality resonates with you.

💙💙💙 ❤️ π ❤️ 🖤🖤🖤

[horrid-thing]

I love living my irl life stealth until someone looks at my incredibly transgender art and I out myself and die a little inside. Maybe I'll reblog this with an explanation later, but rn I trust Tumblrs ability to look at something with nuance.

This isn't meant to make a statement for the whole trans community, this is art expressing my personal experiences with transitioning.

[ghostbatintothewild]

Running an Art Blog is hard when you're busy gunning down the fundamentals and it feels as though my little peanut brain decided lets explore transgender discourse together. Maybe it gives me the same stressful thrill of the job interview I'd spent all week being anxious as fuck about.

[ramenheim]

Emi Koyama has passed. 🥀

[genderkoolaid]

Extremely sad to see. She was apparently only 51.

Folks, if you don't know who Emi Koyama was, you should. Her website (eminism.org, which is a delightful pun) has a ton of her work entirely for free.

You can read the Transfeminist Manifesto in particular here. Emi considered it a historical document and she wrote a very good self-critique in 2008 (included in the document) on the subject of the Manifesto, white feminism, and the lack of inclusion of trans and genderqueer people who aren't trans women. I highly encourage everyone who wants to involve themselves in transfeminism to read her work, not because it is perfect, but because I do think Emi Koyama's Manifesto represents the best intentions for transfeminism: the desire to challenge cissexism, to take activism seriously and compassionately, and a commitment to being open and honest about where we fall short and how we can do better.

I really appreciate this quote from her, which I hadn't seen before, on the subject of feminism needing to "fit in" trans people:

Cis feminists do not own feminism. We don't need to "fit trans people into feminist theory"; we simply need to challenge cissexism in feminist movements and theories. Trans people do not need to be explained by feminist theory; we need to start from the fact that trans people exist and matter.

And it would be a crime to not mention how hard she fought specifically for women of color, to challenge racism and imperialism (white/western and non-white/non-western) in feminist spaces and in general, as well as her intersex activism, and far more. She had such a drive to contribute to, engage with, and push for more and better feminist discourse.

You will be remembered fondly, Emi Koyama. Thank you for all your work and for all your life.