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Avery/Aves | 21+ | binary trans man | he/him | nonamorous aromantic m-spec (mlm/mlnb) | ship and let ship | abuse/rape survivor | mentally ill | Vegans ask before following If you ask me to block you, block me too cause my memory is garbage If I violated your DNI, it’s cause I didn’t see it

[asterosian]

He/him pronouns only | older than 21

DNI if I fall under your DNI and you’re going to get mad at me for responding

Asterosian: a term for men who are both mlm and mlnb, without necessarily indicating a lack of attraction to women

(Technically marblic (mlm, mlnb, and mlw) actually fits better but I have personal reasons for being attached to the term asterosian)

In terms of how I usually describe my orientation, I’m aromantic bisexual.

T4T but I’ll make exceptions if the cis person is a sub

Don’t involve me in MAP discourse

I have an eating disorder and that’s why militant vegans can fuck off

I post a lot about transandrophobia

Talk to me about cakeverse 🍰

[vitamindeeznutz]

people should stop saying you get ugly on T. guys this is the most attractive ive ever been. i have long hair with bleached bits and i still look androgynous. i could pass as cis easily if i cut my hair. this girl thought i was a pretty cis guy. my friend has been on it for a few years and he pulls left and right. i was an okay girl but im a pretty boy instead. everyone take testosterone right now

[dickgraysonsptsd]

i think MORE characters should be rape survivors. i think more characters should be csa survivors. i think more characters should be dv survivors. i think strong and noble and attractive and charming and brilliant characters with indomitable spirits should be survivors. i think the most powerful characters in the world should be survivors. i think characters who are cultural icons should be survivors. i think victims and survivors should see ourselves in the most admirable and beloved characters around! i think we should be protagonists!!!

[dickgraysonsptsd]

#‘it’s so unnecessary’ . okay . god yea this one drives me CRAZY. people will yap all day long about how it's "unnecessary" to make a character a survivor like do you think it was necessary for any of us to be abused or raped irl? was it narratively essential? did it teach the audience an important lesson? why do we, who have to justify our experiences and existences and reactions all the time in real life, also have to justify why we should exist in fiction? people act so repulsed by the thought of us. i've really fully and truly had enough of that. there is nothing so uniquely disgusting or repulsive or unspeakable about our victimhood or our survival that justifies this obsession with keeping the reality of our existence hidden

[dualcasterjay]

"oh but talking about it can be triggering for victims :(((" you know what else is triggering? living in a world that insists that we cannot be open and honest about what happened to us. maybe if we had, oh, i don't know, prominent examples in our cultural stories of people who are victims and are competent and strong it might be easier (for everyone, not just victims) to have the discussions we actually need to have about our trauma.

[free-and-to-none-accountable]

[yipyipallyall]

[suncaptor]

linked tree (includes options to donate to Ghanaian projects)

petition to show support

[genderkoolaid]

one simply must not underestimate the amount of intense transandrophobia that comes from self-identified TMEs & other trans men. & one must not underestimate the amount of people that would be considered "TMA" and trans women who get treated like shit for calling out anti-transmasculinity.

[genderkoolaid]

this is why the problem of anti-transmasculinity in trans spaces is not as simple as "non-transmascs need to stop talking over transmascs on transmasc experiences" because while yes that is true! the real problem is anti-transmasculinity as something we all internalize. our goal should be collective healing through unlearning anti-transmasculinity, so we can treat each other better and be more effective in resisting oppression, not treating different trans groups as warring factions.

(additionally there are people who don't identify as transmasculine who are still affected by anti-transmasculinity, or who otherwise contribute in valuable ways to the discussion on it; "talking over" does not mean "talking at all.")

[kradeelav]

i know things are hella grim in the nsfw/kink art circles especially in the last year --

but I'm hearing there's a NSFW-friendly ko-fi alternative built on atproto that's actively in the works, and being vetted by lawyers right now. as torrent-princess (OP) says, you should be able to swap out payment processors while keeping your account intact. this matters since even if stripe removes support, you'll still have a shop and all of your links intact. (ATproto is an infrastructure that bsky is built on, but is far bigger than bsky with far more opportunities.)

additionally, the Free Speech Coalition is working on a credit union specifically for adult work (including kink art) - here's the link so you can add your interest & support. Since this will be built by sex workers, there'll be far less risk of being debanked for spurious and puritanical reasons.

on a domain TLD level, there's an initiative here for a .furry domain built from the ground up by seasoned furries; it's unclear whether they'll support NSFW, but it's yet another promising turn of events for a group that's been similarly affected by censorship.

there are friends and allies out there helping to build a working parallel infrastructure. keep being vocal, keep supporting these initiatives when it's possible, and keep supporting your nsfw/kink artists. ♥

[theblackparadeisdead]

That post I made over new years had people at my THROAT for saying I only buy real leather. Sorry I really do think that wearing textured plastic that will fall apart in under 5 years and go on to irreparably poison the environment is the worse option here.

[theblackparadeisdead]

if you look into the mushroom leather or apple leather or cactus leather or any other plant-based alternatives, they're all still about 50-75% polyurethane. They'll still fall apart fast and then they wont decompose except into microplastics. They're just not sustainable. I thrift pretty much all my leather garments and some of them are 30 years old and still hold up like they're new. Like there's no contest.

[goth-desires]

1x01 | Strange Love

[audley-and-cherry]

My least favorite things about anti- UBI discourse is always the techbros whining that "nobody is going to work anymore! People will just watch Netflix all day!" and I have 2 responses:

1) Who the fuck cares. Who the fuck cares what people do with their time! That's kind of the fucking point!

2) People aren't going to stop laboring. Housework (look, it's right there in the word!) will still need to be done. So will maintenance on our homes and personal spaces. Children will still need carers, as will the elderly and disabled. There are millions of examples of ~work~ that we do all the time, uncompensated, that won't suddenly stop because we aren't forced to sell our labor to provide corporation's profits.

I'm not surprised that what is traditionally women's work is invisible to these dipshits, but it never fails to anger me.

Anyway. Join the IWW.

[sleepyowlet]

Field studies have been conducted in several countries now, and the result is always the same - people will just flop about for a couple of months to recover from the burnout most people who have a job live with, and then they look for something to do. Some get a job with reduced hours, and some start doing charitable stuff like volunteering in soup kitchens and teaching others to do whatever their particular skill is. They socialize more, they are happier, and on average, people will work more, not less.

But the thing is, employers suddenly have to think about how to make their jobs appealing enough for someone to come and do them! It's hard to find someone to work for you for long hours under horrible conditions, if they can just choose not to; which shows you how voluntary our current system actually is.

[trochaic-mutant-ninja-tetrameter]

🎶People won't stop working! If so, fuck it!🎵

[bisexual-engineer-girl]

I'll be making sure we still have engineers and machinists haha

[the-haiku-bot]

I’ll be making sure

we still have engineers and

machinists haha

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[phosphorusab]

I hate this saccharine, cloying, infantilizing way trans men are talked down to by their own community when speaking about the words they choose to describe their experiences and oppression

‘Oh yes, you do experience a valid intersectional form of oppression - but you’re just so fucking stupid, that you’ve chosen a terrible word to articulate your experiences. So we aren’t going to listen to anything you say! You’re just so silly and stupid, you can’t possibly be trusted to articulate your own thoughts and experiences, let alone be trusted to do your own research. In fact, don’t even think or talk at all! Leave all the thinking and talking to the smart people whose suffering actually matters.

Also, no your experiences aren’t unique at all, negating the previous statement of you experiencing a valid intersectional form of oppression’

The tone of voice is no different than when people try to manipulate trans men into detransitioning - overly sweet, infantilizing and concerned while also being incredibly backhanded and demeaning

Nothing will ever be good enough. I just roll my eyes at this shit now

[techiekittie]

God forbid women do anything omfg. When transfems try to explain delicately and nicely they’re being “infantilising”, when they’re direct and serious they’re “rude” and “aggressive”.

Nothing will ever be good enough. I just roll my eyes at this shit now.

[phosphorusab]

Being told we aren’t smart enough to speak on our own experiences and should just shut up, but with a tone of voice that’s overly sweet and familiar, is in fact infantilizing and demeaning!

You’d know that if you actually listened to anything I said

[techiekittie]

Where on earth are you getting this strawman from 🫩

If a tma person tells you you’re not knowledgeable enough on a complex topic to speak abt it then perchance look at their actual sources like Whipping Girl. If they’re actually using the words in your post like “stupid” and “dumb” then that’s a vent and obvs not a debate or informative discussion so just scroll.

[phosphorusab]

You are a self proclaimed tme person lecturing someone who has already read Whipping Girl cover to cover to read Whipping Girl. Read other books

“If a tma person tells you you’re not knowledgeable enough on a complex topic” -

And the topic is about MY OWN LIVED EXPERIENCES and the experiences of TRANS MEN AND MASCS IN PARTICULAR. So why would I listen to someone WHO IS NOT a trans man or masc speak on trans men and mascs experiences?!

THIS IS WHAT I MEAN BY PEOPLE TALKING OVER US

And yes, people genuinely talk down to trans men and mascs like this. No, I’m not going to just scroll and keep sweet about it. Finally speaking out about how people have treated me on the basis of being transmasc has done wonders for my self worth, and I sincerely recommend that you try it someday

[naamahdarling]

She doesn't look like much, maybe, but she's so amazing to me.

[creatingblackcharacters]

Remember when Lil Nas X beautifully explored his sexuality, seduced and killed the devil to the banger of all time, and instead of cheering on this openly gay and proud Black artist for his artistry and fighting back against respectability politics, suddenly said respectability politics was all the Queerest Place on the Internet cared about? Hm. Wonder what happened there.

Anyway I miss him and hope he's doing better with his mental health 🙏🏾

[creatingblackcharacters]

Like say what you want about "bad queer representation", but this was the song that made me openly and happily accept that I was bisexual. To see him up there Black and beautiful, making music that I love, absolutely killing it? Yeah. You couldn't tell me shit. This man made me proud to be out. "This will make them think we're evil for being gay" hey newsflash dawg-

[sugarmage]

[bellringermal]

[thyrell]

[fendalan]

Way too funny not to share

[ms-demeanor]

[optimisticrunawaygalaxy]

[thekaumidyking]

Trust Gru

[captain-price-returns]

[sailor-arashi]

[dragon-in-a-fez]

there's a group of high school boys in this McDonald's and I just heard one of them say "I bet you you cannae break your own arm" so something interesting might happen shortly

[dragon-in-a-fez]

update: they are settling the bet by googling whether or not it's possible for a person to deliberately break their own arm. narratively this is a letdown but I suppose in other ways it's for the best