[ghostofmia]

[ghostofmia]

[junname]

[urlmysunshine]

[iiwaken]

[bobbyrogers]

[lalalovey]

[stylelistics-deactivated2020031]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Attitudes and Mindsets that can Change your Life

1. Knowing deep inside that you are good enough.

2. Believing you can do it, and believing you can make it.

3. Choosing to be grateful when you feel like complaining.

4. Choosing to hang in there when you feel you’ve had enough.

5. Knowing each new day is a true gift and fresh beginning.

6. Valuing others, and treating others well.

7. Investing in people instead of chasing things.

[sunbathe]

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Frank Ocean for i-D Magazine

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[ghostofmia]

wow, i haven’t posted on here in a minute.

lately i’ve just been focused on myself. genuinely focused on my wellbeing and my healing.

i’ve spent a lot of time growing spiritually. where im at right now is learning about attachments... and detaching from people/situations. not everything/everyone is worthy of attachment. and thats not a bad thing. 

when you rid yourself of attachments, you are in turn riding yourself of expectations. 

not every person is permanent. some come in your life to teach you a lesson, help you grow, inspire you, etc. take what you’ve gained and move on. not every person in your life is meant to stay. that isn’t a bad thing.

its also important to detach from situations. i’ve learned that i dont have to carry everything. i dont have to wear my problems on my sleeve. it is possible to detach (in a healthy way) and allow myself to move on.

so really, these last few months have been about moving on. 

i’ve also stopped prioritizing men. after a long time relationship finally ending, i let myself be angry/sad for a few days then i picked myself up and moved the fuck on. i decided to not feed the situation, not feed my negative emotions. i decided to not dwell. i decided to be strong and live for myself. i decided that he, nor any other man, mattered. for once, i mattered. 100%. i mattered and thats it. 

i have been genuinely happy these last few weeks. less stressed, less anxious, little to no depression. im finally taking control of my life. 

[ghostofmia]

i was never the problem.

you were the problem, you were your own problem. 

[lightheartedsuggestion]

let this moment be your starting point. let this moment be the one when it all began.

[raychillster]

1) speak up. 2) stop settling. 3) giving is beautiful but don’t let yourself be taken advantage of. 4) be picky about the compromises and sacrifices you make for others. 5) you deserve good things. 6) you deserve reciprocation. 7) everyone you surround yourself with should make you feel good on all levels. 8) you are not asking for too much. 9) your feelings matter. 10) people can’t help you if you pretend to be okay all the time.

[bdsm--life]