GiaLovesTV

Born in the 2000s but have a profound love for old and new tv.

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Synopsis for ‘Girl’ 😌

It’s happening y’all.

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“With friends like Sabrina Carpenter, Rihanna, Robert Pattinson, Josh O'Connor, Nicola Coughlan and Jenna Ortega - this special showcase will be the ultimate opportunity for celeb spotting in Dublin.”

Could we see Irish queen Nicola at Irish designer Jonathan Anderson’s Dior show in Dublin this December? 🤞

Magherafelt designer Jonathan Anderson to bring Dior show to Dublin

From the iconic streets of Paris to the hallowed halls of Trinity College...

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I am Helen

Of all of Nicola’s projects, this is the one I have been looking forward to the most (tough competition too!). I think it’s going to really showcase her acting talent and will be heartbreaking and thought provoking. It’s the sort of thing I would watch regardless, but Nic being the lead is just so perfect.

Seeing the post by Rachel Clark the DOP has made me even more thrilled - the fact that she is highlighting Nicola and Joe’s performances when she has also worked with the likes of Kate Winslet, is a real honour and testament to what’s to come.

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Nicola always speaks so highly of the people she works with, from fellow actors to hair and makeup professionals, choreographers and, in this case, the director of photography.

I am so looking forward to seeing what they’ve created together!

[maincharacternicola]

“Nicola Coughlan fans can have a little sneak preview of I Am Helen, as a treat #lAmHelen

The latest instalment of the BAFTA-winning anthology series created and directed by Dominic Savage is coming to Channel 4 later this year.”

So ready for this one! Nicola is going to eat in this role.

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Really excited and thankful that this will open the conversation to an experience most women sadly have.

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my favorite part of derry girls was just how accurately it portrayed being a normal person in a time of crisis. obviously the events in derry are very much real and ireland has experienced decades of political conflict, and this DOES impact the main characters in a lot of ways, but they still also…. go to school. worry about their friends and birthday parties and being together. because they’re just teenage girls (+ james) and that resonated with me a lot, especially now

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Can the homophobia go away?

I usually use this account just to look around and have fun, but something happened yesterday that I feel is worth talking about.

For context, there is a Lukola blog (LadyTumbledown) that has spent months insisting that Jake Dunn, a man who has never publicly discussed his sexuality, is gay. At this point, it genuinely doesn’t bother me whether you believe Lukola is real or not. Believe whatever you want, as long as that belief doesn’t become an excuse to disrespect, insult, or dehumanize the real people involved. That includes Nicola, and Luke and yes, also Jake and Antonia.

Yesterday, I left the attached comment in an attempt to open a respectful conversation about how certain behaviors that may seem harmless can actually reinforce harmful stereotypes. The response was to insist once again that Jake is definitely gay, delete my comment, and block me.

And I think this is a perfect example of how homophobia can exist even in spaces where people consider themselves LGBTQ+ allies. Supporting the community is not simply about saying you don’t hate gay people. Trying to assign someone a sexuality they have never publicly claimed, treating heterosexuality and homosexuality as the only two possibilities, analyzing someone’s mannerisms or relationships to “prove” they are gay, and refusing to listen when people explain why these behaviors can be harmful are all things worth examining.

What bothers me most is the unwillingness to even have that conversation. Allyship should include being willing to listen, learn, and question our own behavior. None of us knows everything, and causing harm does not require malicious intent. Sometimes we can perpetuate harmful ideas while genuinely believing we are being supportive.

But if your response to someone respectfully pointing out why a behavior may be harmful is to silence them rather than consider what they are saying, then perhaps it’s worth asking why that conversation feels so threatening in the first place.

We cannot claim to support a community while refusing to examine the stereotypes and assumptions we perpetuate the same ones that have harmed that community for years.

The comment that got me blocked from Lady T’s blog:

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[ladytumbledown]

I have been biting my tongue over something for the last 19 hours and I finally feel like I have to say something, if only to get it off my chest. This may be a bit ranty.

19 hours ago I read a horrible post by someone who has historical been very critical of the Lukola fandom. The post was having a right go at one of our lovely bloggers, saying how homophobic and bigoted they were for believing that Jake is gay.

Now, forgive me if I am too old to know what homophobic means to Gen Z, but my understanding is that it means you are phobic to people who are homosexual, be that either disgusted by them or just plain see homosexuality as wrong. Now, please also forgive me for thinking that if we are accepting that Jake might be gay, there is no way that means we are homophobic, we accept him for who we think he is. Not once have we ever done or said anything about him that makes us homophobic.

Neither do I believe we are bigoted. A bigoted person typically:

* Holds strong negative stereotypes about a group (such as people of a particular race, religion, nationality, gender, sexual orientation, disability, or other characteristic).

* Treats members of that group unfairly because of those beliefs.

* Is unwilling to question or change those beliefs, even when presented with evidence or personal experiences that contradict them.

By that definition, we have nothing against Jake for being probably gay, we are not treating him or talking about him unfairly because we believe he is gay. Consequently, we do not have to question or change our beliefs because we are not being unfair, holding negative stereotypes or treating him unfairly. We just think he is gay based on hundreds of little clues we have picked up on.

So, by my understanding (and I have a very analytical brain prone to critical thinking), we are neither homophobic or bigoted and we do not treat Jake any differently because of what we believe.

As an aside, my best friend from school is a gay man. He has been gay all his life but only came out when he was a grown adult. He also thinks Jake is gay. He has lived what Jake is likely living through, not being able to be open and honest about his sexuality to everyone. I believe that he, from the evidence we have seen, is more than adequately placed to make a judgement on Jake’s sexuality preference.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not particularly like Jake, but that is because I think he is a bit immature in the way he is handling being an actor, it has nothing to do with his sexual preference.

As for Nic, some people are angry that she is appearing to act as a beard for Jake, saying that’s not what LGBTQ+ activism is about, that she would not be welcomed at Pride anymore. Do you know what, that is 💩. Nic is being a brilliant ally. Look at what Chatty has to say about what an ally is:

In general, an LGBTQ+ ally is someone who:

* Supports the rights, dignity, and inclusion of LGBTQ+ people.

* Treats LGBTQ+ people with respect and as individuals.

* Speaks up against unfair treatment or discrimination when they can.

* Recognizes that they don’t have to be LGBTQ+ themselves to support the community.

* Is willing to listen and learn, understanding that they won’t know everything.

Nic is wholly supporting the rights, dignity and inclusion of LGBTQ+ people, if Jake wishes to hide his sexuality for whatever reason, then what she is doing is supporting him in that, she is helping him.

So, to all the anons and nasty bloggers who spout a whole load of inaccurate and offensive claims, go **** yourselves.

We will do us, you do you. Stay out of our lane because you are inaccurately complaining that we are exactly what YOU actually are.

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Let’s talk about homophobia.

I think the problem here is that homophobia and harmful behavior toward LGBTQ+ people are more complicated than simply “hating gay people.” You can genuinely believe that there is nothing wrong with being gay and still participate in behavior that is invasive, stereotypical, or harmful.

Trying to “prove” that someone is 100% gay when that person has never publicly discussed or defined his sexuality crosses a line for me. Sexuality is personal, and no group of strangers is entitled to investigate it, build a case around it, or decide that they know someone’s identity better than the person himself.

I also think there is a contradiction in claiming to be supportive of LGBTQ+ people while treating the possibility of someone being closeted as a mystery to solve. If you genuinely believe someone may not be ready or willing to discuss their sexuality publicly, why would the compassionate response be to collect “evidence,” analyze their relationships and behavior, and try to convince other people that they are gay? Outing someone does not suddenly become acceptable because the people doing it consider themselves allies or believe they have good intentions.

There is also a lot of stereotyping involved in the idea that you can determine someone’s sexuality through “logic.” What exactly counts as evidence that a man is gay? The way he dresses, speaks, moves, interacts with friends, expresses affection, or presents himself? Many of those arguments ultimately rely on outdated ideas about masculinity and what straight or gay men are “supposed” to look and act like.

And finally, sexuality is not limited to “100% gay” or “100% straight.” Bisexuality, pansexuality, queerness, fluidity, and people who simply choose not to label themselves all exist.