gin and hypertonic

a sideblog where I talk about my pelvic floor dysfunction in hopes that others can relate!

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Welcome to…

✨Gin and Hypertonic✨

Hi! My name is Emma, I’m a woman in my early 20s and I was recently diagnosed with vaginismus & hypertonic pelvic floor, though I’ve struggled with this for a few years. 🪷

I know this fight feels lonely sometimes because pelvic floor dysfunction is such a taboo topic. Just know I GET IT! You are wonderful as you are and also capable of amazing growth if you so desire🌸💚

I wanted to make a blog about all the little things, the struggles, the humour, and of course tips and progress!! Having these issues is often complicated and emotionally challenging- I’ve felt it all, and I hope this blog can be helpful & make others struggling with these issues feel seen. 💫

This subject may be considered “taboo”, but PLEASE be kind- recognize that we are all humans deserving of respect, regardless of our conditions and abilities! ☮️

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I gotta admit those ads are right, you should get a Kiwi

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another part of vaginismus is your blood pressure rising when they start discussing virginities at the hangout

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NSFW — In your belief, does sex always have to involve penetration?

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No

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A woman in love with herself is magnetic.

—Abiola Abrams, The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love

My sexual energy has been doormat for an entire season and I find myself nostalgic for the days when it was alive and bursting. Perhaps this transit into Cancer season has me longing for the days when sex was something to simply be indulged before it became a hunt for a soul mate.

I think this constant desire for every connection to be riveting and penetrating creates a repellent energy. Trying to control every aspect of the act removes the freedom and that primal flow that’s as natural as breathing becomes stagnant.

The art of letting go of control is my biggest lesson. An Aries woman with a Capricorn Rising wants what she wants in a particular way and has a hard time comprimising. So I am learning to loosen my grip and allow the energy move how it pleases without feeling the need to direct it.

And trusting that my winding, sensuous, juicy pleasure zone will reawaken when it is ready.

-Nomadic Akasha, When Earth Slumbers

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…God knew I’d be too powerful if I didn’t have vaginismus 🤷‍♀️

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Vibrating Dilators: A Breakthrough for Pelvic Pain? 😮

✨ Hey folks with vaginismus/vulvodynia/hypertonic pelvic floor, I just discovered a product that might change things for you completely! I saw this suggestion in an article (I can’t find it now). I’ve been battling with vaginismus for YEARS, and it seems like this has changed the game for me. I’ve made the most progress EVER. It’s SO ENCOURAGING. 💖

Before, I just had the Intimate Rose set, and while it’s basically industry gold standard… it’s been no where near as helpful in removing pain and replacing it with pleasure as the vibrating dilator set. I rarely actually felt pleasure with the Intimate Rose set because there was usually pain… especially when moving up a size, I could just feel the prickly sharp sensations of stretching, so any hint of pleasure was overpowered by that pain! 😬

With a vibrating dilator, you don’t even have time to notice any pain because it’s just buzzin’ in there & feels great. It does the work for you, I don’t even know how to even explain it! While using it, I was thinking “Woah, is this what it feels like to have a normally functioning vagina? This is amazing!” haha! 😂

I never considered vibrators before because they are usually quite large and not designed for people with vaginismus, but these are PERFECT. 😍

I feel silly for not thinking of this earlier! The first couple of times it might be a bit intimidating and strange as you get used to the feeling, but then it’s great (at least in my experience). ✨

Some considerations:

🌸You may need to be able to insert Intimate Rose #2 or an equivalent product in order to use it, because the smallest end of the smaller dilator is about the same size as that.

🌼Make sure to use lubrication. My PT told me to use coconut oil instead of usual lubrication for dilators so that’s what I do, personally!

❗️Please ask a gynaecologist or pelvic floor physical therapist if you have any concerns about whether this is right for you! I’m not qualified to give medical advice- this is just what is helping me! ❗️

💕Here is the link to the set I have: 💕

CalExotics Inspire 3 Piece Silicone Waterproof Vibrating Dilator Kit with Removable Wireless Stimulator, Pink https://a.co/d/10wzWPR

CalExotics Inspire 3 Piece Silicone Waterproof Vibrating Dilator Kit with Removable Wireless Stimulator, Pink : Amazon.ca: Health & Personal