Girls Need Discipline

A 40something trans gal into ageplay and power exchange

[mama-scarebear]

My best friend started age regressing(nonsexual) more often with me and I have found I really enjoy caring for it, and while I have no feelings for it and enjoy the nonsexual age regression, this experience has made me want to further explore being a caregiver in an nsfw setting because i feel like it could be a fun dynamic to explore! I love taking care of someone and letting people get the ease and release that comes with being little! Though I am a bit anxious about it as I've mainly had experience being a little, how did you get started as a mommy domme, or what like made you want to try being a mommy

Ill be honest, being a mommy domme isn't something I'd originally sought out to become. I've a long history as a hypno domme and have always enjoyed that role. The whole caregiver/mommy aspect was born from traumatic events. A rather bad breakup and some terrible relationships that followed caused me to push aside my little side entirely and become incapable of indulging jt even when I tried. Not wanting to lose the community or kink I loved so much I decided if I couldn't be little I'd provide everything I wish I could have to others. So I did. And in doing just that I discovered the ultimate trick to being a dominant of any kind. Give the sub what you would be aroused at receiving in their position. If you're a switch this works so much better. And that's the best advice I feel I can impart into any future Mommy. I will clarify though this doesn't mean be a pushover. Denial and building anticipation before giving something is all part of the fun. Best of luck on dipping your toes into more dominant waters.

[girl4discipline]

as a switch i can attest to the effectiveness of this, from both sides. each role gives me important perspectives that make me better at the other.

also, one of the most important things i have ever done is deconstruct my desire so that i know not just what activities i enjoy, but the feelings i enjoy from them. in examining these i have learned how to ask partners what feelings they seek from a particular kink and it is immensely helpful in figuring out which angle i should approach it from.

[hockeynhandcuffss-deactivated20]

Reading an reddit thread titled "ddlg without ageplay" is genuinely hilarious.

The top comment is:

"Yes. I do it without ageplay either. However, I do provide a "little space" where they destress and not think of any responsibilities. I take over. They don't have to worry about anything"

Like ??????

People are so scared of scary ageplay, it's so hilarious. Hey label your kink whatever you want but sometimes you gotta question yourself.

[salemthepuppylover]

I have said it SO MANY TIMES and I will SAY IT AGAIN.

AS A DOM. YOU DESERVE CARE TOO.

aftercare is often times sub-focused, and while that’s always great, it’s often seen as “only subs need aftercare because they’re the ones that took the brunt of the acts.” and as a disabled dom, that’s absolutely not true.

dom drop is very real. I often experience it as guilt for hurting someone, or being “too aggressive,” as trans women are often seen. especially for doms that take care of subs, pretty please take the time to take care of yourself too!!

and for all the subs out there, if you’re able, please please please go get your dom some water or a snack. even if neither of you can walk, it’s imperative that you *talk to each other.* in my past, even the smallest things made me feel so much better. I’m going to list off some great things to say to your dropped dom here (feel free to add in reblogs!!)

“I’m okay. You didn’t hurt me too much.”

“Thank you for doing (self care act) for me, do you need anything?”

“I liked everything you did.”

“everything was within my boundaries.”

“you did great, (name/nickname).”

“do you need anything?”

“would you like (self care act)?”

“can I help (task: clean up, get water, etc.)”

just doing something like talking, showing physical affection, kisses, comfort, etc, is so so so important, and everyone deserves it!

and to all my fellow doms out there, don’t feel guilty for asking for help! if you need it, ask for it! your partner is there to show you love and care too!

[not-your-kitten17]

Everyone raves about mean mommy dommes but i want a sadistic soft mommy domme. Like they arent super harsh with their words to me, they mix the degrading with praise. Their harsh actions with soft, sweet condescending words. I am too sensitive to be called useless,worthless, replaceable etc. I like being degraded and alittle humilation but i also like to know that i am precious to my domme, i want them to be possessive over me, be just theirs. Like:

" aww look at my pretty little slut, taking my cock so well" "aww i know it stings kitten, but mommy wants to stretch you " " oh, i know, you just want to cum, but mommy is having too much fun playing with you, and i do own you and your pretty little body after all " " mommy knows you cant breath smothered in her pussy baby, thats the point, silly girl, you can breath when mummy decides " "such a good girl for mummy, you can take one more....huh? no? Oh, im sorry darling, mummy wasnt as asking, she was telling you, sweetheart " " shush, honey, mummy is just using her pretty little fleshlight.....i know, you just wanna sleep, here, just relax and suck on my nipple, i will be done soon, mummy just wants to cum " "aww is my little kitten a masochist? Getting so wet during your punishments, you really are mummys perfect little girl, just look at those tears " " aww do the ropes sting? Maybe if you behave and stop fighting mummy and pulling on the ropes, it would stop hm? There you go, my dumb little kitten" "oh dont you sound so pretty when you whimper, did mummy hurt your nipples, pulling the chain? Good, dont worry, i will kiss you all better later,once you have learnt your lesson" "good girl, choke on my cock, it feels so good baby, forcing myself into your tight throat" "look at the mess you made honey, does mummy make you feel that good? "

[youmegravity]

Pet peeve: people online will act disgusted by the term "ageplay" because they don't actually care to read what it means and assume the worst and then turn around and call a pretty woman "dommy mommy" when that is literally ageplay

[youmegravity]

Yeah plot twist! Roleplaying as a dominant caregiver is in fact playing with age dynamics

[youmegravity]

also people will agree that it's good to 'heal your inner child <3' but then get angry when you fantasize about consensual role-play where you can let your childish side be free and allow yourself to be taken care of because it falls under the 'bdsm' umbrella and they're unable to understand that bdsm isn't a synonym for 'spicy sex'

[youmegravity]

It especially bothers me when I see it in queer people's DNI list like babe don't you too grieve all the years we've lost? All the years in the closet, or dealing with dysphoria, not allowed to be ourselves? Can't you have compassion for the people who want to roleplay or even just fantasize about a re-do?

[genderyomi-deactivated20240903]

me, collared and leashed: just so we're on the same page im an anarchist and don't believe in hierarchies. this is a temporary, voluntary union of egoists that will only continue as long as our desires are aligned

domme: puppies don't speak

me: WOOF!

[playfully-sadistic]

Aww, you poor sweet thing, never had an authority figure treat you quite like you needed, now you're craving such an inappropriate one - a firm, guiding hand, someone to take away your responsibilities when you get overwhelmed with them, someone to tell you "I'll handle this", someone to make you shiver with their mere presence and the way they look at you.

Someone you can kneel down next to, a hand soothingly running through your hair, while they read a book and take a sip of their drink in between, the room filled with gentle quietness and peace, and - despite a long history of issues with authority - when they tell you to get up and fetch them a snack, you're perfectly conditioned to reply "Yes, Sir" and obey, like nothing's more natural to you.

[the-gentleman-femme]

Currently fantasising about buying my sweet girl the prettiest underwear in pastel colours so the wet patch her needy pussy makes when she thinks of me shows up really well <3 I can’t wait to undress you later and mockingly gasp and chide you and touch the damp spot, firmly rubbing your clit while I ask you what has happened to your brand new panties baby. I’m going to spank your pussy in those panties before I pull them to one side and fuck you beautiful

[sappho-of-suburbia]

The more I think about it, the more I'm actually offended by that post that's like "put the dildo in a pint glass of warm water to warm it up before she fucks you!"

Like girl do you not have a mouth?

Shut the fuck up, get on your knees and suck that cock, you coward .

[nudibutch]

have to comment. water is always going to have a higher specific heat (heat retaining capacity) than your flesh or spit. exposure time + the amount of heat a substance can hold = heats something up faster and for longer. most materials used in sex (glass, silicone) are very poor conductors of heat (ie, good insulators) and dont hold heat very well. water has one of the highest specific heat capacities of any substance, so immersing a dildo in a hot (think bath water, or slightly hotter) bowl of water is going to do a better job than someone sucking it for an hour would. ive immersed silicone dildos in hot water for about 10-15 minutes before fucking my partner and they IMMEDIATELY feel the difference - ie, get it near or past human body temp, even for a short time - because water holds on to the heat for longer. because its a larger mass than your mouth (ie the larger the bowl, the better itll work), its more effective at transferring heat through a solid mass (thick glass or silicone) than your mouth is.

sometimes people do stuff like this because its easier and more effective, thats all.

[spankingtheatre]

Threshold

There's a point in every spanking where something changes. When self-consciousness and worries cease, when the recipient enters a brand new headspace and their thoughts and reactions start to flow differently.

In the recent poll, I called this the Loss of Dignity, but I could also have called it the Loss of Inhibition. It's the moment of letting go, the transition from resistance to acceptance.

For some, this is the moment when they cease pleading for mercy, and begin to plead for more. For others, the moment they stop recoiling from the smacks and push their pink bum out in anticipation. And then there are others, who've resolutely kept their legs tightly closed, who suddenly kick and squirm, any thought of preserving their modesty forgotten.

Why does this moment turn us in so much? I think it's the most powerful emotional peak of a spanking, when protests and pleading are loudest, and the pain feels sorest. Then suddenly, the resistance ends, and discipline prevails. As we know from watching any drama, abrupt changes in emotional energy are extremely powerful.

Usually, the surrender of inhibitions occurs during a spanking, but it can occur in earlier - or even later - stages, depending on the emotional dynamics between the spanker and the recipient.

Sometimes the threshold is crossed early in a spanking, as anticipation and preparation bewitch the recipient's mind.

Sometimes the loss of inhibition will come after the spanking ends, when the recipient leaps on their disciplinarian, smothering them with urgent kisses, begging to be satisfied.

The threshold is a state of serenity and submission, when pain is numbed by a rush of endorphins, an inner deluge that obliterates any feelings of shame and self-consciousness too.

"Do I look hot enough?"

"Am I reacting right?"

"Have I been a disappointment?"

"Do I come across like a cheap easy slut?"

Then the threshold is crossed and all intrusive thoughts vanish. The natural painkillers are worry-killers too. How the recipient is perceived ceases to matter, they can just react naturally and experience the intensity of what their body is telling them. This is the moment of submission, the trust fall of falling and knowing you'll be caught.

A smacked bottom might be hot and sore, but the experience induces a state of deep satisfaction. Beyond the threshold is a realm of floaty contentment.

Any worries that existed at the start of a spanking no longer seem to matter by the end.

[synsswitch]

So I know a lot of people talk about and are into wearing diapers 24/7. But hear me out.

What if we just kept you in a constant state of potty training 24/7 instead? Ranging from you having big girl panties all the back to nice thick crinkly diapers. With all sorts of rewards, punishments, and funishments along the way, too?

[baby-starry]

don’t forget training pants, goodnites, & my training potty! ૮₍´˶• . • ⑅ ₎ა

[mama-scarebear]

Now this is inspired. This is the kind of thinking I like.

[lambydoll]

Help me into my jammies and night time diaper right after dinner so you can send me to bed before all the guests arrive. Tell me how I'm just too little to stay up late with all the grown ups.

Later when you hear me squirming about, bring me downstairs to say goodnight to everyone at the party—stuffie in hand, jammies accentuating the bulge of my night time diapers—then take me back upstairs. The soft whispers and hushed laughter barely audible as I'm put back to bed for the night 💕

[spaced-goddess]

Gonna rant a lil bit, cause I am a lil grumpy in ways I don't rly know how to express.

This dumb little boy I'm playing mommy for has only met me once. The other 2 times *he asked* to come over, he flaked (last time he was sick so i dont blame him but still?? Dont get my hopes up??). Today, he's s'posed to come over, but no response today. He was also s'posed to be writing lines, which are due b4 he can come over, and nothing on that either. And like???? Bruh.

But it's not like he's not interested bc he *clearly* thinks I'm super pretty, and he completely eats up the Mommy talk and acts super eager.... when he texts me back. I told Daddy I'm glad he isn't constantly on his phone either but like... damn. I showed you my diapers, pls respond.

So I decided if he flakes today I'm done trying. 3 strikes. But that SUCKS. Not only bc I'm like, extremely picky anyway, but also bc I've never gotten to stretch those Mommy legs and tbh guys I really enjoy playing Mommy. Like a lot. I barely can stand boys other than Daddy, and now there's this lil munchkin who is conventionally attractive, sane, already loves diapers, and is genuinely a sweet cinnamon bun and just??? Ugh. It just isn't fair.

It would be disrespectful to myself to keep trying if he flakes out again. But where am I going to find *another* adorable beta boy for me to diaper and fuck? (Inb4, sweet Tumblr beta boys, Mommy doesn't do distance.)

And the part that is hard to express is how little this actually affects my day to day. Like. I'm still Mommy and Daddy's little girl. I'm still married, I'm still being diapered on the reg... like it's fine but also not. Like that twinge of disappointment that I don't really feel entitled to. But dang it, I put a lot of mental energy into this blossoming relationship and I might not even get to diaper him once! 😤 and now I'm genuinely craving a cute little boy to obsess over me and call me Mommy and follow my rules and let me ruin their lives a bit.

And maybe I'm writing this out and after I post it he will message back begging to let him come over now, and once I get him small (and spanked), he'll be more submissive and responsive overall. And all will be well.

But whatever the outcome, I'm sure you will all know.

[girl4discipline]

I feel like this is a thing that has been happening more often lately, and it’s especially baffling when it comes from folks who seem SUPER interested in a thousand ways, but can’t seem to follow through.

I had something similar happen with a woman I met on Lex who had actually reached out to me. We had several great conversations and then she went silent for a week before saying she was having difficulty texting and thought it would be better for us to just make plans to meet up. And after sending a short message and expressing desire to do that…she went full radio silence and I haven’t heard a peep since.

I just think that folks are dealing with a lot in a world that is getting increasingly volatile and dark. Sometimes it takes away our capacity to even reach out and cancel plans…and sometimes that leads to a weird shame spiral and you just never get to hear from that person again.

And it just really really sucks for everyone involved.

[back-zipper-pajamas-deactivated]

Sometimes the best solution to back zipper pajamas is 2 solutions. Scratchsleeves mitten baseball shirt and jumper. Highly Recommended

[kirababy2-deactivated20250915]

i love this idea

[helplesslyregressed]

The Diapering Process

Sometimes my newest plaything is a former date who I’ve determined would be happier as a cared-for, controlled little girl.  Sometimes she’s a woman I’ve taken on a whim because I just couldn’t resist her plump, spankable thighs or petite form.  Either way, my little dolly generally needs training before she accepts her new life of diapers and pull-up panties instead of big-girl underwear.  Here’s my potty-training regimen for new little tots.

Humiliate her by depriving her of opportunities to relieve herself, but making sure to keep her hydrated.  Promise her uses of the toilet, but make sure she usually can’t make it.  The desperation, the embarrassing wettings, and the subsequent discomfort can be brought up later to remind her why she needs diapers.

After a few failed attempts to hold it, angrily put her into a thick diaper and tie her so she can’t remove it.  Always allow her to get these first few diapers full to the point of leaking before she’s changed.  Scold her about this, reminding her that she’s much too big to need diapers.

During this time, make sure that diaper changes alternate between pleasant and unpleasant.  For example, I usually start with cold (refrigerated) baby wipes, then tie her legs open and stimulate her with a vibrator after I’ve powdered her bottom.

After a period of days to weeks, keep her in diapers but allow her the freedom of her hands.  Any attempts to remove her diaper, take herself to the potty, etc. should be punished accordingly.  I generally punish by attaching clothespins or binder clips to her private parts before restoring the diaper.

If baby is reluctant to use her diaper, offer encouragements.  Ice cubes tucked into her cleft will urge her to wee, relieving the painful cold with a flood of warmth.  A bit of ginger root in her bottom will make her exercise herself to push out her other contents.

Once baby has fully accepted her diaper, set a toileting schedule which she can sometimes, but not always, keep to.  Pull-ups may be permitted if she waits for her potty time; if she fails, diapers may be replaced.

Make toilet use unpleasant, whether by washing or scrubbing her harshly afterward, requiring her to stay on the potty for an exact period of time (always too long or too short), or micromanaging her functions with record charts and close supervision.

Reward good behavior – whether keeping to her potty schedule for a certain period, or being good during diaper changes – with treats and privileges.  Orgasms are good rewards for some babies; others experience a forced masturbation regimen, so a break from orgasming might be wise.  All little girls love sparkles, so pussy and nipple jewelry are also good prizes – those who can keep their training panties dry for a long period may be safely given piercings.

Throughout the process, treat her as though you’re trying to help her earn her way back into big-girl panties but are obliged to put her back into diapers if she can’t be properly potty-trained.  Even if your eventual goal is to have her totally incontinent and diapered full-time, this will increase her eventual dependence on your approval as you turn her into your helpless little girl.

[punkdaddyphil]

[theslowesthnery]

i don’t know how to tell people that deriving pleasure - sexual pleasure included! - from art* is good actually, and that creating specific kind of art “just” because you find it hot or whatever is just as good a reason as any, and you don’t actually need some “deep and meaningful” reason to create art about things. pleasure - sexual pleasure included - is not the devil, it is not Bad and shameful, and it’s not any less valid of a reason to create something than because you want to, idk, explore the depths of the human consciousness or something

* art here includes writing