lesbian ? there's nothing queer about it.

i'm here to gatekeep female homosexuality

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hey! let me introduce myself a bit ;

-> i'm a masc goldstar lesbian and proud of it

-> not saying my age but i am an adult

-> i am gender critical and think gender ideology is misogynistic and homophobic bullshit. lesbians don't like dicks, "trans lesbians" are heterosexual men and you get my point

-> i believe that comphet doesn't exist and that goldstar lesbians are the only real lesbians. fakebians and other homophobes can cry about it i guess

-> if you annoy me i will just aggressively reply and then block you so there's no point really. but you do you

-> on this blog, i talk about goldstar related stuff only. i have other blogs where i talk about politics, share my other opinions and talk about my interests but only some very privileged people know them and i won't mention any of that here

-> female homosexuality is beautiful and women are wonderful 💜

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I’m disappointed but not surprised that even r/lesbiangang (the only lesbian subreddit that allows the criticism of trans-identified males) is still allowing posts where a “lesbian” woman can talk about how she allegedly never felt romantic or sexual feelings for men, drew girls from age 3, fell in life with a girl at 14… yet still willingly engaged sexually with men because people/society told her to “wait until you find the right man/you should marry a man”. She knew she was in the wrong which is why she started with “I know there are lesbians out there like me”.

And the only comment (from a masc, gold star) saying that she saying that she and OP were not the same lesbians got downvoted to -14 and she got called “weird”, told that this was not the “lesbian olympics”. But this same masc lesbian went through conversion therapy and mental abuse in a catholic school and never slept with a man…

At this point, only Tumblr has real lesbian communities. It’s insane that the same subreddit that talks about preferring actual women and critiques bisexuals are still engaging in this type of behaviour. The post was upvoted with tons of supportive comments. It’s funny how we’d never see this bullshit in a heterosexual subreddit.

It's really infuriating how impossible it is to find people who really support lesbians and aren't lesbophobic in any way, and to find a community as a real lesbian. All the "lesbian" groups or subreddits are full of fakebians (or downright straight men) firmly believing lesbians totally sleep with men. Everywhere, people who claim to support lesbians (many radfems lol) believe goldstar lesbians are just mean girls and support fakebians. I hate it.

She slept with men because society told her she'd find the right man? Yeah no lesbian ever did that lol.

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your posts are perfect

Thanks a lot!!! <3

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What bothers me the most with the "well what if a woman thought she was a lesbian and later realizes that she's bi? where is the problem??" thing is that, apart from the fact that it is very much a big problem for lesbians because it reinforces the idea that we're gonna change our mind and start dating men eventually, most of these women knew they were attracted to men. They just ignored it as long as it was convenient to them, or until they felt like they couldn't ignore it anymore - for example until they started to have a strong crush on a man or whatever.

"It was comphet" "those weren't really crushes, i liked them as friends but didn't realize it" "fictional crushes don't count" "i wasn't really attracted to my ex boyfriends but tried to convince myself i was" etc etc... They use thousands of excuses to try to pretend they're not actually attracted to men, to convince themselves and others they are lesbians. The attraction was always there. They knew it. They just decided to ignore it.

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I really like a girl but she's bi :( do you think it's worth it. I don't want to date bi women but I've never felt this attraction before. I don't know what to do

I don't really know. On one hand I'm all for avoiding to date bi women, I do it myself, on the other if you really like her I don't think you should refuse to date her and suffer just because she's bi. But make sure that she isn’t homophobic and takes same sex relationship seriously before trying anything.

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hate it when someone tells me something like "uh why is it that you don't believe lesbians who've slept with men before are lesbians but you don't say anything about gay men who've slept with women, you people really just hate lesbians" to try and make it sound like i and other goldstar lesbians are just lesphobic and misogynistic or whatever. like... i also don't believe "gay men" who slept with women in the past are gay. homosexuals just don't sleep with the opposite sex. these men are bi. why do need to make me say things i've absolutely never said just to try to be right? aren't your arguments enough? pathetic

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Why do radfems love calling gold star advocaters as men? It's not okay.

Because they're trying very hard to discredit us, to the point of literally looking stupid. And also homophobes loooove comparing lesbians to men

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if you identified as a lesbian and later comes out as bisexual, the criticisms you receive from lesbians are not based on biphobia. they're based on how fed up we are to see bisexuals identify as lesbians and then pretend they had absolutely no idea they were attracted to men, while we all knew they did. they're based on how tired we are to see women confirming the beliefs men have that lesbians will change their mind and end up sleeping with men. they're based on how angry we are to see opposite sex attracted women appropriating our community and destroying it, invading it with their homophobia, while it's already so hard for us to find other lesbians to connect with and to live in such a lesphobic society. it's not about our biphobia, it's about your lesphobia. get a grip.

[ricekristytreaty]

Ah yes, it's lesbophobic to *checks notes* to have thought you were a lesbian at some points before changing your identity. Everyone knows that you figure out your sexuality immediately at puberty and if you're wrong that means you're a liar.

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Me when I'm not smart enough to get the point

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if you identified as a lesbian and later comes out as bisexual, the criticisms you receive from lesbians are not based on biphobia. they're based on how fed up we are to see bisexuals identify as lesbians and then pretend they had absolutely no idea they were attracted to men, while we all knew they did. they're based on how tired we are to see women confirming the beliefs men have that lesbians will change their mind and end up sleeping with men. they're based on how angry we are to see opposite sex attracted women appropriating our community and destroying it, invading it with their homophobia, while it's already so hard for us to find other lesbians to connect with and to live in such a lesphobic society. it's not about our biphobia, it's about your lesphobia. get a grip.

[rust-4-life]

this is going to blow your mind but those who do that didn’t know they were attracted to men back then! wow! it actually is just biphobia! get therapy!

[hard--headed--woman]

i don't believe that. these women dated men in the past, had crushes on men in the past, clearly showed signs of attraction to men while calling themselves lesbians... they knew.

[onionswithbutter]

I know some deeply repressed lesbians who dated men or even had children and yet when you talk to them about attraction, sex, etc it is painfully obvious they never were attracted to men.

A friend of mine who is also very confused about her sexuality, because of trauma and just how shit men in general are. She says she is bi rn, but actually she is confused. Another one was confused too about her sexuality and dated women exclusivly for two years.

Yes there are bisexual women who know they aren't lesbians and still use the term. I know some of those too, had really bad dating experiences and these women harm the lesbian community.

But it's not true that every women who is not a gold star can't be a lesbian and because it's so hard to be a lesbian and there is so much lesbophobia, some lesbians struggle accepting themself. If a gay men dated women in the past nobody questions him.

[hard--headed--woman]

I don't believe in that, sorry. These "repressed" lesbians are liars. Lesbians don't date men and if you're confused about your sexuality as an adult, you're bi. And yes, if a "gay man" dated women in the past, then he's not gay. Stop trying to make us look like misogynists when we criticize y'all disgusting lesbophobia. You're the reason why so many lesbians don't feel included in feminism and start disliking it.

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you are a stupid bastard.

You aren't subtle at all LMAOOO I know who you are

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I hate the idea that i should "try" men just to be sure that I am a lesbian. It's like saying I need to try bestiality to know i'm not into that. Like, I know i don't like either of those things without trying them.

For real. And like the people who say that are the very same people who say that all bisexuals are "valid", even those who never dated the same sex, and that telling a woman who identifies as bi but never had sex with another woman she's just straight is bigotry. Notice also how none of them say straight people need to have sex with someone of the same sex to be valid as straight people. In fact, if someone called themselves straight but had had multiple relationships with the same sex in the past, absolutely nobody would believe they are straight. Nonsense. These assholes are just homophobic.

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Lesbians don't need to "try" men to know we're not attracted to them. By the way.

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anon, i'll answer your ask tomorrow, it's very late right now and i'm not sure my tired brain can form any coherent reply right now! i'll do my best to give you good advices <3

(to the masc anon with the feminine girlfriend who struggles with her appearance!)

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One of my close bisexual friends (who has recently ended a bad relationship with a male) has decided to "come out" to me as a lesbian. I'm a female-exclusive bisexual and I have been trying to explain to her very kindly that her bad experience does not inherently make her a lesbian and she just wont hear it. She is unironically trying to push this comp-het concept on me when Ive known her since we could barely walk and she has always had a stronger preference for males than she has ever had for women. Sorry for the long vent, I actually do care for her but I can't deal with the blatant lesbophobia/homophobia. Should I keep trying to help her or should I just distance myself?

Don't waste too much time with her. You can try to explain to her how wrong her behaviour is a few more times, but if after that she insists on calling herself a lesbian, I think you should distance yourself. I know it's not easy, but clearly she's being very homophobic so some distance could be good for you. At least that's what I would do.

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It doesn't really matter if Chappell Roan is bi or straight bc most bi women are 99% attracted to men and only date men. Even though they're sometimes attracted to women, they only bring it up to fetishize or exploit it. They're still technically bi but they live completely hetero lives.

Sort of agree. Even if she's bi, it doesn't matter because she'll do what most bi women do and quickly go back to dating men and live a hetero life.

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ok so do asexuals who still feel romantic attraction not exist?

Romantic attraction = sexual attraction

[unassumingcavegoblin]

i don’t exist anymore yall 😛😛

[goldstar-rage]

What a relief.

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ok so do asexuals who still feel romantic attraction not exist?

Romantic attraction = sexual attraction