Should we talk about fame? I want to talk about fame, so let's have a conversation!
"Why is it unattractive if I say I wanna be famous?"
"It's such a normal human thing to want power, to want admiration, and I can only speak for myself but when I acknowledge that I have these desires I can better equip myself to choose to serve my art, my message, and my community instead of working out of the desire to be known."
In a video from earlier in the year, a YouTuber named Tessa made a video about fame, and wanting fame and I feel like this video describes how I feel perfectly. I want fame in a limited sense. I want to be known and respected in my sphere. My "sphere" is Latin-America and irreligion. I do have a desire to be known and to be successful, and to live a life where I have freedom to do what I want when I want and at some point in my life I unconsciously fused those two things, fame and freedom. The truth is being free to do what you want, when you want, probably isn't as simple as being famous, but I bet my followers can see why I and other people have this unconscious impression that it is.
Tessa Violet vocalizes thoughts about desiring fame in a video that I bet will resonate with at least a couple of the people who'll see this even if they dislike that it resonates with them.
Do you want to be famous? Even if you do, is this inherently negative?
I want to be famous and I am not going to apologize for that. I refuse to be less than honest about what I want. That doesn't make me less genuine of a person, and my desire to be famous doesn't detract from any potential acts of kindness that I do. My ultimate desire to be famous in some sense does nothing to detract from the quality of the work I do. It doesn't make my work less admirable. A desire to be famous, even one that is vocalized and known, says remarkably little about a person.
When it comes to competitive things like sports, we know on a fundamental level that someone wanting to be famous is a good thing. We know that it drives the quality of the work done by the people who embrace their desire for fame up. Sometimes they do unethical things out of a desire to be famous, but we as a society tend not to be skeptical of professional athletes, like we are skeptical of people who are upfront about a desire to be famous. For some reason we accept that their desires and ambitions improve the quality of their performances, yet we don't equally apply that idea across the board when it comes to other things.
Somehow when it comes to garage bands, we all know that on some level many of the members of those types of bands WANT to be famous and we accept that. On some level anyway. Many lawyers and business-people have stated that they want to be famous and we accept that as well. But somehow whenever I tell people that I would like to be famous, to an extent anyway, people give me weird looks. Why? It doesn't really make sense.
I don't think fame, or wanting fame is inherently negative. I don't think it's inherently positive either. I think like many things a desire for fame is neutral. And natural. If you live in the United States, you probably constantly hear people talking about how you can do anything. That's the American Dream. A desire to be known, respected, and admired, is a natural consequence of being surrounded by messages of personal empowerment. When we treat people who honestly vocalize a desire to be famous badly or make fun of them, while continuing to tell others that they can be anything they want, we send mixed messages.
You know what I want to be famous for? I want to be famous for connecting people and organizations. I want to be famous for being a motivational speaker. For facilitating difficult conversations. For being a genius at social media. For transforming how people think about being irreligious, and for changing what people think about when they think about Honduras. That's what I want to be famous for. Is that inherently negative? I don't think so.
One of my friends at my university wants to be famous. She wants to go down in history books as one of the researchers who finds a consistent, reliable, and safe cure for cancer. Another of my friends wants to be famous for writing an inspirational fantasy book-series. Both of these friends of mine want fame. But that says nothing about their character. Just that they ultimately desire to be real successes in their fields, and if they become successes in their industries they'll be famous naturally because of the extent of their personal goals. In actuality, I bet lots of people who want fame want it similarly to my friends. That's an important thing to remember.
What's the ultimate purpose of this post?
I want to challenge people's assumptions. I want people to think deeper about why certain sentiments and certain ambitions elicit the reactions they do. I want people to be aware of their biases. I want society in general to get over this gut-reaction to fame and towards people who like the idea of fame that it tends to have.
If we're career orientated, I know that some of us will inevitably achieve a limited fame. And if we're career orientated I know that some of us do want to be famous. I think we need to be aware of our (by "our" I mean society in general in the United States) negative reaction to people who are honest in stating that they want to be famous, and I think that we need to be challenged because of this. And that we need to challenge ourselves. Even I sometimes have to suppress that gut reaction when I hear people say that they want fame. I am not perfect. But I am working on myself because I know how I am. I want people to know how they are and to work to improve themselves.
What do you think of fame? What do you think of wanting fame? I'd love to know what you thought of this post and of my other posts on Tumblr! I try to make sure that people who come here and read my work learn about a lot of really cool stuff, including videos, types of thinking, and sites.