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Wild Geese by Mary Oliver, my favourite poem.

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Ling Tan for Vogue Korea April 1999 by Tyen

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Rirkrit Tiravanija, Tomorrow is another fine day, 2015.

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How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

1. Don’t listen to the voice inside your head that tells you that you are inadequate.

2. Don’t hang out with people who look for the flaws and can’t see the best in the people in their lives.

3. Recognise that each person is different and unique. There is no-one like you - and you have great attributes.

4. Take note of your efforts, and the progress you have made. You’ve already come far. You should celebrate that!

5. Appreciate others, and what you gain from them. Don’t see them as people who undermine you.

6. Remember that NO-ONE is perfect at all - and that other people struggle with the same stuff as well.

7. Go after what matters the most in this life: being loyal, and thoughtful, and caring, and kind.

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I don’t really like the term “recovery” associated with mental health because it assumes that youre returning to a previous point - and that’s often not the case. We constantly change, grow, and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. I think that as a term, recovery can have you hyperfocused on what you believe is going right or wrong and how it impacts your goal of getting to a past state. I think it is much more impactful to teach that there is a future you that you’re cultivating in this moment. So really don’t focus on recovering. You’re creating, becoming, discovering. And sometimes there won’t be any shifting. Instead you’ll have moments where you’ll just be. And you’ll still be moving forward in your journey to yourself.

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High self-worth is essential as water, sleep, and oxygen. You must believe you deserve space. You must believe you are worth “it”. And then take that a little higher, and add your wildest dreams to this ecosystem. Our thoughts nourish our mind. When we think happy/exciting thoughts, our mind actively searches for these things in our surroundings to reaffirm and validate them. Even if we don’t yet have it, when we think about a big dream or goal, our mind starts pinpointing the opportunities that lead us to achieving these desires. Whenever you feel lost in life, go back to the drawing board of your self-esteem. Build yourself up again, as many times as you need to, even when it feels like you are starting over. Self-love, vibrations and energy is an important priority like sleep, water, and nutrition. Channel your highest self-regard before bed. Just a little reminder: when you’re struggling with a difficult situation, the best thing you can do is INSIST on championing yourself. Do not compromise. Do not falter. You are special.