So since I combed through 18k notes to block various idiots and clear trolls I don't want on my post I also have now a collection of black trans people and black butches saying that the exact thing I spoke about is what kept/keeps them from exploring their own gender.
And I'm really just debating posting them all in the open where people can see and understand and maybe idk listen to us for once or something.
More and more and more and more and still I get white and nonblack poc in my notes saying it doesn't happen and no one cares enough to listen to black men, black mascs, black butches, black WOMEN that this is happening to us so please just fucking listen to black people when they tell you they're suffering and they can't truly be themselves because it becomes fucking hunting season the second they try.
A cis black man challenged me in the men's bathroom at work and from his perspective I was either a butch lesbian or a black twink and he was not happy with the idea of either of those in 'his' single occupancy public toilet. He read me as potentially cis but far too feminine for his liking and certainly not Being A Black Man The Right Way. Even our own heavily polices how our community acts- what would have happened to me if he had truly clocked me and decided to do something about it? When other black people lean into what few privileges racist society allows them to turn around and harm those who are not upholding the status quo, when nonblack people simply laugh at the monkeys fighting, who do we turn to for help?
I saw someone vaguing about my post going 'why did you even make this post it wasn't necessary' and I think the answer to that is that all of these people deserve to have their voices heard as they cry out for help. Not all of these are men but they are still affected by the way society treats black men due to being mistaken or mislabeled for men. Their closeness to men, whether real or imagined, places a target on their back.
Why did I make the original posts and this followup? Because I still get white people claiming to be leftists, liberals, feminists, and supporters of BLM as well as so-called 'anti-racists' commenting on my post telling me to shut up because other people have it worse and black men aren't oppressed. And I get white radfems deliberately doubling down on their racism in response to my posts when I was specifically what I was talking about.
Black people literally crying out in pain and still nonblack people say this is not a problem.
Hey guess what I have more too do you think this enough black people saying 'hey this happens' before others believe us or will we have to continue crying out for someone to listen to us before anyone acknowledges the problem? Because we have many different genders and sexualities and shades of black people on this post and yet...
All the people who agree with me are white? Then why are there so many black people sharing their stories?
Guess who has more, since this post has grown I figured more stories could be shared. I've got another but I'm at the post limit so I have to reblog a second time.
🤷♂️ but it's only white people talking about this.
Anyway any other black folks wanna add to this? Doesn't matter your exact gender, if you've got a complicated relationship with 'womanhood' or 'manhood' and feel as though you had to choose one to be safe even if it meant not transitioning medically/socially or it made you hide your gender presentation, this one's for you babes.
I'm going to keep reblogging this archive until y'all feel like fucking listening to us











