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[wizardarchetypes]

to this day i think one of the funniest moments in all of Gravity Falls is the episode where Soos is going on a date with that woman at the mall and she gets roped into battling the monster of the week with him and in the climax he’s making combat plans with Mabel and Dipper and the woman says, “Soos. These are children.”

It absolutely takes me out every time because this is a rare outside perspective in the show from another adult who rightfully points out how absurd it is to expect the children to fight

But as an older cousin and someone who’s been a camp counselor, like Soos I too have spent entire summers as an adult surrounded primarily by 12 year olds and I know for a fact how quickly I could find myself relying on them as equals in a supernatural battle against gnomes or whatever the fuck

[wizardarchetypes]

especially when the 12-year-olds are always leading the fight to me.

yeah the first time some sixth grader gets us attacked by vampires, I’m going to feel very ‘mom lifts a car off a baby’ about it. Stand back kids, this is up to me.

the fourth time they get us attacked by vampires, I’m expecting them to have a defensible plan of attack and weapons

[fefairys]

sometimes you need to give up committing to the bit when someone genuinely can’t tell if it’s a bit or not and is getting distressed about it :/ sorry

[fefairys]

sometimes all u need to do is take one second to say "(yeah this is a bit)" if someone is genuinely asking because they genuinely can't tell, and then you can continue with the bit. i just feel like refusing to acknowledge someone saying "i cant tell if youre joking or not" and you just continue, or even say, "im not joking" then you're not being very funny, you're just being kind of mean, i think.

[fefairys]

obviously there is nuance to this and if you know someone really well sometimes going in harder on the bit will make them get that it's a bit and that's fine if you know them. but just be mindful, yknow? not everyone can pick up on stuff like that, and pushing harder on a bit by saying "im serious" when someone asks if you're joking or not can be harmful in some situations.

[talisidekick]

A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.

His response: "No, it's my name now."

I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.

Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.

[thepleasuregoblin]

You see it's quite simple: if they call the earth Gaia, it's fantasy. If they call it Terra, that's sci-fi

[wizardnuke]

"i had straight As in high school i don't understand why college is so hard" get tested for adhd. if you were tested as a kid and they didn't diagnose you it was cause your grades were good then but you've since lost the routine and structure in hs that kept you on top of everything so go get retested. go get tested for adhd. go

[wizardnuke]

coworker was telling me he did great in high school until his covid/senior year and it went to shit and now it's been several years and he wants to apply for college but he's on his own and frozen up with all the paperwork and doesn't wanna keep working retail but it's so easy (routine. structure) and i said. you need to try speed. and then you need to go get retested

[wizardnuke]

"all my brothers were diagnosed with adhd but i wasn't" because they struggled with classwork and you didn't and that's all that child psychologists give a shit about because they don't understand that children can have good grades and still have adhd. k-12 and college are different worlds go get tested

[wizardnuke]

i also don't really believe that tidiness = no adhd especially if you follow up "i'm really neat" with "i'll start fuckin tweaking if i think there's any dirt anywhere in my room" now. brother i'm not going to try to unpack that on you today but i think you should tell a psychologist that in those exact words

[neenarchive]

those three dilfs from mamma mia are so lucky they're in a romantic comedy and are only faced with undetermined paternity hijinks when they accept a mysterious out-of-the-blue invitation to an island and don't end up in some scary horror movie plot like the menu or the most dangerous game or scooby-doo 2002

[friendlyhostile]

hey reminder to not touch people or move people who are seizing unless you are supporting their head or body to keep them from falling/putting something under their head to prevent injury.

touching or moving seizing people can result in injury and worse seizure activity, or cause more seizures after the one they are currently having.

i had a seizure at my highschool today that lasted 10 minutes give or take. it was very bad. the nurses there, after sending away my friends, kept jostling me around, resulting in a worse seizure to the point my leg and jaw would not stop shaking even after the seizure ‘finished.’ one nurse kept roughly rubbing my sternum and shoulder, and she also moved me to my side and kept moving my legs and arms around into different side resting positions, and at one point threw my hand and it hit me in the face. another nurse had taken my head and put it in her lap, which was weird to me and made me uncomfortable since i am hyperaware of my body during seizures since i am conscious. she also kept saying my deadname over and over again trying to get a response out of me while.. i was seizing… hm. anyways.

those are all things you should not do. let me tell you what my friends did.

one of my friends timed the seizure like i had asked him to before it started, and he stood there watching and timing it. my other friends didnt touch me and they moved around me when the bell rang to go to classes (this was early in the morning, which was an hour ago for me, and it was in the cafeteria). the other friend who stayed hung around and tried to give good information to the nurses who ended up being called over by an assistant principle who came over. they did the right thing. the nurses did not.

my seizure could have been only a couple of minutes, maybe just 6 minutes (5+ minutes being Bad ofc), but no! what those nurses did made it 100x worse, and now i am suffering because of it.

gotta love medical professionals who dont know shit!

[swordsonnet]

i'm sorry but i don't think we should call this the "autism website" when there's still posts with tons of notes mocking people who:

struggle with social skills / have anxiety around social settings

are unemployed / unable to work certain jobs

have intense or "age-inappropriate" interests

haven't had certain life experiences that are deemed universal/essential

struggle with personal hygiene

don't have any friends or dating experience

don't go outside much or at all

take things literally / don't get sarcasm/jokes

have unusual ways of speaking

generally aren't "normal"

[estrangeloedessa]

some Puck quotes for no particular reason

"show us where our granny is"

"we're the grandkids"

"we live here"

"just 'cause he's her real son"

*moves back to Ferryport Landing*

"after everything she's done for you? Hosing you down in the front yard?" (no she only did that to you)

*lets Relda hug and kiss him after being saved from Mirror*

[ered]

Here’s my take on the whole audio books vs. reading:

Oral tradition of storytelling predates written ones by millennias, and honestly, which one you like is just a personal preference.

The actual difference is

when listening, you have no idea how to write characters’ names

when reading, you have no idea how to pronounce characters’ names

hope this helps!

[mamoru]

absence of a diagnosis does not guarantee the absence of an illness

[mamoru]

if someone you know has been suffering yet a doctor says nothing is wrong, which has happened to a majority of chronically ill people at some point, you have a choice. you can either believe the doctor that you probably never met, or believe the person suffering. and I cannot emphasize enough how absolutely damaging it is for a sick person to not be believed.

[cardentist]

generally speaking when it comes to mental and physical health, if you're asked "do you struggle with this" and your answer is "no, Because I Have A System," then your answer is actually yes

[enbyzombies]

btw body horror is stuff that doesnt naturally occur and is used to scare ppl, like extra eyes, animal parts on a human, a mouth opening in the stomach, not. disabled people’s bodies lmao.

[enbyzombies]

This post was a plea to stop treating visibly disabled people as monstrous because of the differences their disabilities have caused. It was not an invitation for people to argue what is and is not body horror. It was a call out for dehumanization, not the horror genre.

[enbyzombies]

bringing this back around for IFEW (international face equality week)!! take this time to educate yourself on disfigurement and similar things, and take the steps necessary to become a more accepting and understanding person!! disfigurement and disability is not something to be afraid of!!

[solsearchingnights]

"Minecraft needs to be rebalanced! It's too easy to get mending! It's too easy once you have elytra! All the challenges and bosses are optional!"

Yes. That's the point. That's GOOD actually. My little brother needs to be able to play minecraft as much as I can. It's a sandbox game, not an RPG. You can create difficulty and add challenge and modify files! Those are features in the game and regularly adjusted for just that purpose. But the base game is meant to be accessible and universal.

Especially when a lot of "content" comes in the form of professionals, people who earn a living being good at the game and have hours a day to put into it, our perspective is skewed. I love the hermits, but any time they say a farm "only took two hours" to build? I cringe. When hypixel pvp creators talk about how lame netherite makes vanilla gameplay, I sigh. And when someone complains that it's too easy to cheese a mechanic or obtain a villager trade I kind of want to scream.

It's easy *for you*. It's boring *for you*. It's not that it needs to change drastically, you just need to approach it differently. You have a moral objection to how "easy" it is to get a mending villager? Make the rule for yourself that you can only get mending from the loot table. You think elytra take the fun out of travel? Don't use it.

And before you say "well can't they just use accessibility features to make it easier?" NO. That's not the point of those features. Accessibility features that disable quicktime events or remove puzzles aren't to make a game easier, they're to make a game PLAYABLE. Accessibility features in minecraft are to disable view bobbing, change the visual distortions, add directional subtitles....things that make the game playable to people who need them.

Basically, please chill the fuck out about minecraft being easy. If it's too easy and you can't come up with a solution for that, maybe it's just not a game you enjoy playing. Download a mod pack or go play something different.

[clockworkcrow]

dropped the walrus vs fairy question on a group of psychologists today and not only did the majority agree the walrus would be more surprising, the one with the strongest background in research responded to the ‘but fairies aren’t real’ argument with “are your beliefs so inflexible that you’ve never considered you might be wrong about what’s real and what’s not?” and honestly i haven’t recovered

[grison-in-space]

honestly you know what goals

[jinxpologist]

also side note abt misophonia for fuck's sake pls stop tagging things that might trigger us with "misophonia". that's where we go to talk about our disorder and find support and you're literally putting things in the tag that will harm us. if you wanna tag, please tag the specific trigger such as "chewing" or "clicking" or something.

and while you're at it stop doing that shit for epilepsy/seizures as well!!! you could kill someone!!! "flash warning" or "flashing tw" or even just "flashing" are things i've heard people w epilepsy suggest. just do NOT for the love of everything tag ur flashing lights with "epilepsy" or "seizures" please please please.

[beemovieerotica]

I feel like I would have been diagnosed with OCD a lot earlier if the vast majority of screening questions (for mental illnesses in general) weren't based on the person's perception of their own behavior, in isolation. and what i mean by that is asking someone with OCD "do you wash your hands excessively?" is not a good question.

a person with OCD believes they are washing their hands the correct number of times. it's not excessive. we believe we're exhibiting best practices and helping to keep everything clean.

better questions might be, "does it seem like you wash your hands a lot more than your friends or family?" "do you get dry patches or cuts on your hands from washing your hands?" "do you find it deeply distressing, more so than how you've seen other people react, when you get something on your hands that you can't clean off right away?"

being asked "are you overly preoccupied with bugs, symmetry, and contamination?" also got "no" responses from me years ago in my life. what they didn't ask for, and didn't know, was what *exactly* I was doing in my day to day life that genuinely ate up my time and mental space to a concerning degree, but I *didn't know* that other people don't do this.

"do you spend a lot of time cleaning?" -> no, it's not a lot. it's a good amount. why?

"do you become frustrated because it seems like no one else meets your organizational and cleanliness standards - do you often 'take over' for other people because they can't do it right - do new friends seem surprised by how strict you can be about your living space?" -> oh. yeah. yeah I get it now.