Handcuffed in the Kitchen

Keep those sandwiches coming, boyfriend.

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Why I’m A Feminist

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[catsagainstfeminism]

Except Feminists in those oppressed countries have even fought against equality (Gender-neutral rape laws, to be specific). Feminists in general have fought against equality all over the world.

And the vast majority of First-world feminists do not give a rats ass about the actual oppression women in third-world countries face. They’d rather complain about the imaginary wage gap and how Western Society is a “rape culture.”

Also, you might wanna look at the tactics used by First- and Second-wave feminism. They were racist assholes, among other things; “They gave BLACK men the right to vote before us? This is unacceptable!!”

So those “core beliefs” of Feminism are kinda bullcrap already.

Stop using the actual oppression other people in Third-world countries have to deal with everyday of their lives to justify some shitty hate-movement. If you actually want to fight against oppression, stop focusing on Western Society.

[laceyfitspo-deactivated20190628]

Its still anti feminist! Do you realize how dumb you sound right now!?!?

[catsagainstfeminism]

Anti-feminism does not equal anti-women or anti-equality (Which Feminism actually is, by the way). It equals being against the stupid shit people do and get away with in the name of Feminism.

Do you realize how dumb you sound when you don’t know what you’re talking about at all?

[laceyfitspo-deactivated20190628]

Oh my god no it’s not! Clearly you’re brainwashed by the fact that you think feminism has nothing to do with equality! Feminism is a point, a fight to be on the same level as man, to be treated with equal respect and to have the same freedom. Yes, there are some fools out there who think it’s about hating men in general, but that’s not true feminism. Just because in Eastern cultures, women are oppressed, does not mean it isn’t about feminism either. Don’t tell me that I don’t know what I’m talking about when you’re clearly the one who is misunderstood. I am appalled that you think feminism is bullshit, it truly worries me that you are convinced that the way women are treated in modern western society is okay. Yes, we have come a long way, but we still aren’t there yet!

[catsagainstfeminism]

>Feminism is a point, a fight to be on the same level as man, to be treated with equal respect and to have the same freedom.

In Western Society, women are on the same level as men, have equal to or greater than the respect men receive, and have equal to or greater than the freedom/rights men have.

>Yes, there are some fools out there who think it’s about hating men in general, but that’s not true feminism. 

Those are the Feminists who are actually loud enough to get shit done in the name of Feminism. And guess what? They’re the ones that actually matter. Con-grat-u-fucking-lations, you just dismissed and silently supported every disgusting thing people have done in the name of Feminism I provided in my first link. Whatever your idiot definition of Feminism is, they would deem it to be “not true feminism” as well. None of you can even agree on what this movement is supposed to be about. Why would you EVER want to be a apart of something like that?

>Just because in Eastern cultures, women are oppressed, does not mean it isn’t about feminism either.

Again, majority of Western feminists do not give a rats ass about Eastern cultures. Some do, but would cause more harm than good, and an even fewer, unfortunately insignificant number actually care and would do some real good in those places. But they’re a small, small minority, and it’s a shame more don’t follow their example (probably because they’re threatened by other Feminists when they try and share their opinions).

>Don’t tell me that I don’t know what I’m talking about when you’re clearly the one who is misunderstood

No, you really don’t know what you’re talking about. You refuse to look at the facts, and hold onto a movement that condemns anyone, male or female, that is against it. You refuse to accept a woman’s (or anyone’s) choice to not need Feminism, proving that you are in fact anti-women. Instead, you’d rather believe that you are immediately disadvantaged because you’re a woman. You refuse to believe that you are, in fact, not a victim of anything except your own shitty beliefs.

>it truly worries me that you are convinced that the way women are treated in modern western society is okay.

Men are treated just the same. Both genders face discrimination and injustices in society, to limit it to just women or just men is bullshit and sexist and exactly what Feminism does. Despite these discriminatory acts, there is no way in hell Western Society is oppressing ANYONE based off their gender, male or female.

[laceyfitspo-deactivated20190628]

Clearly your a lost cause and you had to do a lot of digging to find an article that suits your opinion. I wish you the best of luck in the future because clearly you’re going to need it.

[handcuffed-in-the-kitchen]

If you consider yourself to be treated equal to men, I applaud you, because I sure as hell know where I'm from, which is a western country, I'm not. 

I still make less money, working the same hours, same job, with the same qualifications as a man. I face more barriers in reaching management and CEO positions, in fact, looking at the largest most influential companies in the world, women run 5.1% of them.  

I'm still significantly more likely to be sexually assaulted than a man and if/when I am, I will still be judged for the clothes I was wearing and the decisions I made because in our culture we teach "don't get raped" instead of "don't rape.

I find myself in situations on a daily basis where I'm ignored in favour of talking to whatever male is with me. Want an example? I cross the border into the US pretty frequently, I've got friends and family there and camp there as well. When I cross with a female friend in the passenger seat, as the driver, I rightfully answer the majority of the questions. I cross with my boyfriend/father/male friend in the passenger seat, I typically get to answer "citizenship?" and then beyond that they literally address all questions to him, speaking over me to do it. Questions that include where we're going (as the driver, you'd think I know), who's car it is (again, hi). It's the same way many waiters/waitresses place the bill in front of the man. These are things that are ingrained into our culture that people think are okay, I'm a person, and I want to be treated like one.

Oh, and a bigger issue? How about the fact that male politicians are presently making decisions about women's reproductive health? Want to know why it's an issue when women are below the 30% threshold? See that entire issue. See the fact that issues like child care are largely ignored by the governments with the largest male ratios. Women and men care about different things, face different barriers, and need adequate representation to address them. End of story.

I'm not saying the lives of men are perfect, what I'm saying is that you can't project your own personal life experience of feeling that women are equal in all of north america without having lived in every freakin' city here. I'm not saying that you haven't experienced a life of equality, I'm saying you're the exception, not the rule.

I'm white, so I'm fortunate as fuck, that I only have to deal with the issues of sexism, rather than racism as well. I'm forced to consider myself lucky that society has afforded me some value, and I'm doing everything I can to get that extended to women EVERYWHERE. I'm not the exception, I'm someone who's fighting for the overall goal of feminism, like the vast majority of feminists, especially the vocal ones, in the Western world.

We don't condemn people who are against feminism, we think the best of them, we think they're confused. Because how can you want to live in a world where women and girls have so little value that they're married at ages as young as 7, that they're lit on fire when dowries aren't high enough, that they're fed after the men and only if the food is still left, where their dreams to make a global impact are laughable whether in the business or charitable world, where women barter their health and their clitoris to access their basic right to an education? 

I challenge you: if feminism, if equality isn't the answer, then what the hell is?

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Why aren't more people freaking out about the new Venezuelan labor law?

You know, the one that gives housewives/full-time mothers a pension— wages for housework?

It’s ONLY A HUGE VICTORY FOR FEMINISM, SOCIALISM, AND WOMEN OF COLOR. Not a big deal or anything. Tumblr is mysteriously silent about this.

http://rabble.ca/columnists/2013/05/venezuelas-new-labour-law-best-mothers-day-gift

[monetizeyourcat-blog]

holy shit!

[xxbluandorangexx]

fucking COOL

[screamingfemale-blog]

It is illegal for women to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a magazine of a woman without her top on at any 7-11 store. So, you can sell breasts, but you cannot wear breasts, in America.

Violet Rose (via c-icatrix)

This is one of my favorite quotes about sexualization/objectification vs autonomy of female bodies bc it’s so succinct

(via platonicsbeforeerotics)

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Saving Face (2012), acid attacks on women in Pakistan

[catsagainstfeminism]

Meanwhile, in America, feminists are complaining about how dress codes are oppressive.

You idiots have never experienced oppression, and pray you never do, because this is what it looks like.

[earthlydreams-deactivated201709]

As a South Asian American feminist, let me remind everyone that oppression is not a competition.

Just because we fight one type of sexism doesn’t mean we don’t care about other instances of sexism that don’t affect us directly in our day to day lives.

My heart goes out to this woman and the hundreds of other victims like her. I want to educate people about these kinds of incidents. I support organizations that help women like this.

You may think that dress code issues are trivial, but they are related to a larger issue of women’s bodily autonomy, which affects women’s health and safety.

So please, let’s try to bring awareness and bring about change instead of insulting entire groups of people because they are facing issues that are less scary than the one presented.

[theremina]

Well said, earthlydreams. Thank you.

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Educating a Friend

Me: So, let's say that you're at school and you see a guy you know. I mean, you guys talk every once in a while and he's pretty cool, but you're not like friends or anything. You just talk to him every once in a while.

Guy Friend: What's his name?

Me: I don't know. Frank?

Guy Friend: No.

Me: Okay, fine. His name is Will. Okay?

Guy Friend: I don't think it really suits him, but okay.

Me: ...So anyway, you're at school during lunchtime and you see Will. So, you notice Will's not eating anything. That's when you realize that Will has no lunch, no money for lunch, and no way of getting either. He's just sitting there like he normally would. He's not acting any differently and he's not asking anyone for anything. Not money, not a fry, not even a salt packet, but you know he's gotta be hungry. So, what do you do?

Guy Friend: Do I have any money?

Me: Yeah. You have enough for you and another meal.

Guy Friend: Duh, I buy him lunch.

Me: Okay, cool. So, like you said, you buy him lunch. You buy your lunch and you buy his lunch and you go over and hand it to him. And, he says, "Wow. You know, that's really nice of you, but I wasn't gonna ask anyone for lunch. I was probably just gonna wait until I got home to eat." And, then you say--

Guy Friend: Nah, it's cool.

Me: Exactly. You say, "Nah, it's cool. I'm just being nice. It's a gift." And, Will says, "You know, that's awesome. You're really nice, bro." And, after that, you guys start hanging out. You guys are like really good buds. You are always hanging out and laughing and just having a good time. So, you guys are friends for a few months, and it's tons of fun. Then, one day, you go up to Will and you say, "Hey, Will, you know, I've been thinking, and I kinda want that five bucks."

Guy Friend: What five bucks?

Me: Hold on. I'm getting there. So, Will says, "What five bucks?" To which, you reply, "Well, we've been hanging out for a long time and it's been really fun, but like, I've done a lot of really nice things for you. Like, I'm always nice to you and I always listen and do things you wanna do, so I was thinking that because I've been so nice, you should pay me back that five bucks I spent to get your lunch right before we started really hanging out."

Guy Friend: What? Why would I--

Me: I'm not done yet. So, then Will looks kinda hurt and he says, "But I thought you were just being nice. I thought that was just a gift." So, you say, "Whether or not it was a gift, don't you think you kinda owe me that five bucks since I've been so nice to you?" And, Will says, "No. I don't think I owe you that!" And you get mad, so you say, "Well, I think that you do, so I think you're being really shitty and stuck up about this and I feel like I've been completely wronged."

Guy Friend: Oh, my God. That's so fucked up of me. I would never do that to Will. Will was nice. We were buds. That's way screwed.

Me: I know, right? Hey, just wondering, have you ever heard of this fictional place called "The Friendzone?"

Guy Friend: Well, yeah, but...

Guy Friend: ...

Guy Friend: ...

Guy Friend: oh

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[handcuffed-in-the-kitchen]

I see posts like this, and I don't completely disagree. 

Men should be upset that women are constantly living in low level fear. They should be offended that women feel the need to cross the street to avoid them. They should be offended that women plan dates in public places in an effort to avoid violence and rape. Men should be offended that women alter their dress, their language, their tone, their bodies for protection from men. 

As a man, you have every right to be offended. If you're not offended, you're part of the problem. If you see no issue with women not being themselves out of fear, you are part of the problem.

But instead of making posts like this, why not have a dialogue with the men and women in your life? Why not establish what healthy boundaries are, what behavior makes PEOPLE uncomfortable and work to correct those? 

You have every right to be offended by our fear, but in the current society we have every right to be afraid.

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