If you're dating a trans girl, there's a good chance she's going to ask you to not throw her away or abandon her. Depending on the girl she may say it outright, or she may talk about her lowest lows and ask for affirmation, she may also frame it as kink, wanting to be owned, or kept as a pet.
If you are to love trans women, you need to say you're in it for the long haul, because otherwise you're simply a timer waiting to ring.
I didn't realize this was so common with trans girls. The abandonment fears have not diminished as I've gotten older, because I've experienced more abandonment. I've started trying to let people know this about me up front, because I want some sense of commitment, especially the longer a relationship goes. These are some of the things I've said to people I've been interested in.
I just have this gut fear of abandonment.
I tend to hide when I’m emotional, have my whole life. I’m not sure the last time I felt safe enough to let all my sadness out in front of someone. I think because of worries over abandonment. Like who would want to stay with me?
I have a dumb fear that anytime I share something with you, it will be one weird thing too many for you to want to date me (I have issues with abandonment)
I have a history of having stronger feelings than the other person, and if I mention my fears they seem more likely to leave me. So I usually try to not. I really do have abandonment fears, based on past experiences.
I can feel myself falling for you and it scares me, because I worry you won’t feel the same way (thanks fear of abandonment).
I’m avoiding saying the thing I’m not saying also because once I do, it will increase my attachment to you.
A lot of my blog is hornyposting, but underneath I'm a trans girl with a lot reinforced fears of people leaving me.






















