reblogging this from myself bc I don't want to put anyone specific on the spot, and I'm sure no one this applies to will see it but I am so tired of this trend:
every couple dozen notes or so on this post I get people being pissy and self-deprecating. 'why would i do it then', 'why would i do it for someone who sucks,' 'no I won't' and I think people need to seriously consider why they feel the need to voice that kind of self-loathing publicly.
this isn't a "You should feel good about yourself" post. this is a "You are the person who will live with the consequences and benefits of your actions forever" post. this is a "You need to learn internal motivation because if you pin your motivation on something external you run the risk of running out of road if that thing leaves.'' this is a "Some things will only ever apply to you, and if you don't do it for yourself, it will not happen. So do it. For yourself."
and the "You" that you do it for doesn't have to be the you, now. it can be a younger version of yourself. it can be a future version of yourself. it can be a hypothetical version of yourself you may never be but want to.
no one is saying it'll be easy. no one is saying it'll be fun. it is totally fine and cool and reasonable to talk about how it's hard, about how you are trying to figure out how, about how you are trying. in fact, those are some of my favorite notes to see in my notifications. doing it screaming and crying and through gritted teeth and clenched fists is normal!
but when you hard stop "No I refuse to improve," you're not benefiting anyone, least of all yourself. when you verbalize how much you suck or how annoying or worthless you are, that is actively making yourself worse. whether you want to frame it in psychotherapy terms of reinforcing negative self-talk, or more spiritual ideas like manifesting, or however you want to think of it, saying that shit is hurting yourself and other people.
so learn to Do It For You đ«” or shut up.
