Flame Communication: Ancestors and Deities
Introduction to Flame Communication
Flame communication is a form of conversing with deities or the dead. I usually consider it as a safer version of the ouija board, as you are not actively touching the communication material, and also because you’re not contacting strangers. When I communicate via flame, I talk to deities I know well (like Gaia) and any of my dead ancestors, especially my great grandparents.
How to Communicate Via Flame
A surface that is not directly flammable (I use a plastic folder on top of my desk, but if you have anything completely fire proof then use it e.g. a thick plastic chopping board)
A candle that can stand on its own and a fire source like a match or lighter
Banish any unwanted spirits.
Light the candle on your fire proof surface, and cast a spell with the intention that only the person/deity you intend on talking to can enter the room.
Say, out loud or in your head:
“My name is [your name (use a name that your ancestors/deities are used to. If you have a new name, introduce it during the talk)]. I would like to talk to [deity’s/ancestor’s name], if you would like to and have the time. Please give me a flicker to let me know you’re here and willing to speak with me”.
If the flame flickers, the deity/ancestor is willing to speak with you. If the flame is still, they don’t want to speak to you at this current time. Try leaving them an offering, or come back to it another time. It might be worth considering that you might have offended them or made them mad at you, in which case you should probably express your gratitude for them and leave them an apology offering.
After your flame flickers, greet the deity/ancestor in a pleasant manner. Then, you may start talking properly with them, mostly in yes or no questions as that’s how flame communication works. A still flame means no or a negative response, a gentle flicker means yes or a positive response, and a really active flame means HELL YES, or an extremely happy and passionate response. Sometimes, the deity/ancestor will not know how to answer the question, so the flame may get lower or higher if they are confused or cannot answer with a simple yes or no. You might need to explain some words to your deity/ancestor to get them to understand.
When you are ready to close the session, say in your head or out loud:
“I would like to close this session now. I thank you for the time you have spent conversing with me”.
If the flame flickers, they are okay with you leaving the conversation. If the flame is still, just remind them why you need to leave and continue.
“Goodbye [deity/ancestor’s name], and thank you for your time. [Add any personal messages here]. On the count of three, I will blow this candle out”.
Count to three slowly, then blow the candle out in one go. Put your candle back where you usually keep it.
Advice For Candle Communication
Use different coloured candles for different deities/ancestors. I use orange for Gaia and blue for my great grandparents, usually.
If an ancestor/deity is point blank refusing to talk to you even when you’ve left them lavish offerings and worshipped them, give them one last chance to participate in talking to you. If they truly aren’t interested, say out loud that you have received their message and won’t try to talk to them again.
This might be hard, but this was the case once I came out as transgender to my deceased grandad from my mum’s side of the family. To be honest though, I did find it kinda upsetting, when someone who had seen me grow up this way every day since he died, rejected me. But then again, that’s just how life works and I have moved on.
If your deity/ancestor is too demanding and asks too much of you, you must say so. Some aren’t even aware that they’re pushing you too much, and would want to know if they were affecting you negatively in any way. If after talking to them about it, they are still too demanding and don’t seem to care, you may need to tell them to cut contact with you. Again, this may be hard, but your wellbeing is overall more important than satisfying their every need and want. You need to take time for yourself too.
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