Women who are seeking/in a relationship with a male partner: Here's a fun game to play called Would He Do It For You?
The rules? Simple. Take an aspect of your life or relationship and ask if your male partner would do the same as you're willing to do. Here's some examples.
You decide to try not shaving your legs, but he asks you to continue your usual weekly shaving routine. He likes the "smooth, silky" feeling of your legs, he claims. Okay, fair enough - you like the way smooth legs feel too. So ask him to shave his for you.
No? He won't do it? Ask him why. And when he spouts off some reason, ask why again. Ask why as many times as you need to.
And then ask yourself if this is the ~only~ area that he's not willing to treat you the same way you're willing to treat him.
He likes when you keep your hair long. Okay, sure, you're willing to let it grow out, even though you kind of like how much easier it is to shower and get ready when your hair is cropped short. Ask him to keep his hair and/or beard long and groomed for you, since you also like the way it looks on him. Wait, he's not really interested in doing that? Why?
You can play this game with more than just looks and aesthetics. Take this scenario, for example.
He asks you to pick out a birthday gift for his mom next week, since you have such a good eye for it. And you think, sure. You like his mom, you know what kind of gifts she would enjoy receiving. So you go shopping on your own and bring back a great gift. Then, your mother's birthday rolls around and you're busy with a project at work, so you ask him if he would shop for her this week and pick out something she'd like. Would he do the same for you? Or would he whine, moan, make excuses, give in, and then call and text you a million times until you wish you had never asked him to help in the first place?
You're getting married to a man you truly love! He loves you and treats you as an equal in everything. You've found one of the good ones. Then, it comes time to plan signing your marriage certificate, and he makes a little remark when you say you're keeping your name. It turns out, he wants you to take his name - it will be easier, he says. Matching last names on bills, bank accounts, and of course, the kids. Yeah, okay, maybe the idea of matching names sounds nice - so ask him to consider taking your last name instead. Would he do the same for you?