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@heruwrittencanvas
Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing
~herunwrittencanvas~
Mothers who takes their sons and daughters away from their fathers for revenge are the most VILE AND EVIL human beings to have been put on earth. Utterly disgusting.
Some mother in laws are NARCISSISTIC MONSTERS IN LAW!
THEY HAVE A DEGREE OF BEING A SELFISH DELUDED HUMAN BEING. ALL THEY CARE ABOUT IS THEMSELVES!
Desi mothers are something else, a special kind of breed. And that’s not even a compliment. Don’t be proud of your shitty behaviour.
The scholars of Islam need to make a video for toxic and abusive mothers to not use Islam as a justification for their bad behaviour.
Just because you’re a mother to your sons doesn’t mean it’s alright to use Islam to get your way. NO NO NO! Not only do you do things on purpose you do it deliberately all the time then when your child reacts you simply say the famous lines of …
“I weaned you for 2 years gave birth to you in pain carried you for 9 months bla bla bla”!
Please every woman who became mothers go through the same thing you’re not special your mothers went through the same thing so did your grandmother ect ect ect this toxicity needs to stop.
You can’t do and say disgusting things and expect one to take it over and over again for years!
Take your narcissistic behaviour elsewhere.
So true!
Happy wife, happy life is bullshit .. it should be happy wife, happy husband = happy life
~ herunwrittencanvas ~
I've been receiving more anonymous emails and messages from people who are really struggling in their marriages. Some are on the brink of asking for a divorce, and others are just exhausted and blindsided by the problems and unsure of the future.
When we consider that marriage is the union of two individual human beings, two physical bodies, two souls, and two egos, we realize that most "marital problems" are quite normal and par for the course. What else should we expect besides some degree of challenge when two people who have lived distinct and separate lives, and have different temperaments, cultures, and upbringings are paired up and live completely enmeshed lives in every possible way?
Aside from extreme marital problems including infidelity or any type of abuse, the way forward for any couple whose marriage is strained with increasing tension and who may have tried different forms of help in the past (therapy, couple's counseling, spiritual guidance, etc.) without much success is for each individual to come to terms with some basic facts:
1. This is dunya, not akhira, so your marriage will never be perfect here. The best way to get over any "ideal" is to accept what is REAL. Work with what you have, don't wallow in what you want.
2. There are some aspects of your husband/wife that you must accept are part of their own individual spiritual challenges (mujahada an-nafs) in this life and not necessarily something you need to or can ever fix. Instead of personalizing their behavior, or trying to force change through rebuking/shaming them, make du'ah for them and find ways to help them through other resources. As counterintuitive as it may sound, sometimes the best thing for a spouse is not to focus on the needs of the marriage or where their partner is lacking as a husband/wife, but rather to magnify their partner's individuality; increased validation and empathy can do wonders for any marriage far more than anger, shame, or blame can!
3. Are you (and your children) safe? Do you have shelter and food? Are you healthy? Do you have savings? Do you have family and friends? If you are generally happy and settled in your life, even if you feel like your marriage isn't as fulfilling as you may have hoped, then isn't that more than enough to be grateful for? Isn't it better to focus on all the positives and show gratitude than to keep looking at what is missing and allow resentment, ingratitude, and rancor to fill your heart?
Divorce will always seem like an easy answer when you've endured the vicious cycles so common to marriages today, but the grass is RARELY greener on the other side. Yes, there are valid and legitimate reasons to divorce, but far too many people today are ready to throw in the towel because their marriage just isn't as good as they expected.
For lack of a better analogy, it's a form of buyer's remorse that has become far too acceptable today as more couples are willing to discard their marriages over petty squabbles and differences. They may feel relieved temporarily but are unaware of the much greater remorse they'll soon feel in the metaphysical sense. We are responsible for our actions and choices, and those who cause greater harm to others for some personal benefit will face their Creator eventually.
This is why we are taught that "law min ashaitan," which means "'what if' is from the devil." In other words, if something is decreed for you, accept it and be content with your lot in this life. Resisting, denouncing, rejecting, and spending years frustrated over what has been decreed for you is not just a fool's errand, but a devil's one.
*Disclaimer: The advice above is for those who are dissatisfied with their marriages or even frustrated and feeling burnout and are entertaining the idea of divorce; it does NOT apply to those who are in any type of abusive situation. For those people, please seek professional help!
Sister Hosai Mojaddidi
Maturity is realizing that happiness is a choice. You really have to be very mindful and shift your perspective regularly, because life will always present a reason to be unhappy. Waiting for perfect circumstances to allow yourself to be happy is robbing yourself of present joy.
And if you get married make sure to have your own space/ home .. make that a priority!
As-saalamu ‘aaleikum waa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuhu dear sisters.
I thought I’d make this blog, to show you all that you can still be a modest, respected Muslimah and still be fit and fun. I am a single mother of five, and if I can make my everyday life work, then so can you. I’ll take you with me through my ups and my downs, to show you and maybe inspire you on how to be or not to be a mom, daughter or sister.
I am no where near being perfect. But I know a lot of sisters out there struggle with the whole concept of being this perfect mom, that at the same time has to learn to take care of herself.
You might help me more, than I could help you.
I ask Allah to let this be of benefit for all of us.
Please be open-minded dear sisters, and don’t hold back if theres anything you feel like you need to know or clarify.
Your sister.
Ya akhawāt, follow this precious sister of ours and be part of her journey.
You’ll see how beneficial it’s gonna be bi’itnillah, especially when we all can be there for each other and help each other grow. ❤️
I’ll would advice a sister whose interested in getting to know someone from the indo/pak region to always, always look into the background of their supposed family to be. Many people are great pretenders especially in this day and age.
Speak to close family members or friends or ask the community there about how they are not those who will be biased and hide the reality of people.
Because sometimes you don’t know who and what you’re marrying into.
It could be a make or break situation ….
Always be cautious
🤭😅🤣☺️🤲🏽 Alhamdulillah
When you miss a person terribly, but she’s too busy with everyone else ….
Teach your sons to preserve their masculinity, and your daughters to preserve their femininity.
Incompetent mothers and fathers encourage their offspring into the path of rebellion but then later behave dumbfounded when their sons turn into weak submissive males, and their daughters have become independent whores.
❤️❤️❤️ 🐱❤️❤️❤️