Lesbian here from a 3rd world country whose friends are not chronically online. I have to say among my friends, the most normal ones were the actual homosexuals. I don't know enough lesbians to say for sure (the ones I've met were polite and sweet) but I can say that it has always and only been bisexuals that kept breaking my boundaries and being downright misogynistic and homophobic. Gay men irl actually mostly keep to themselves (probably because theyre not even remotely interested enough to harass you) apart from maybe being gushy about their partners.
I've had bisexuals trying to use me for experimentation, I've been unicorn hunted (got away safe goddamn), and I've been verbally/physically harassed the most by bisexual women after heterosexual(or bisexual who fucking knows) men as a butch lesbian.
i'm so sorry. and i relate. the most consistent homophobia i've experienced irl is from bihets and their moids too, so i'm never surprised to see it happen again online. problem being the ones on radblr actually think they're radical feminist.
i've been used as a secret by bi women, i've had stranger bisexuals force kisses on me while out... assuming i'm totally down and have no standards/subjective attraction as a lesbian, i've had bi women try to lure me into threesomes w her disgusting moid, i've had them say shit like "i could kiss/fuck a woman but never date one," i've had them completely pretend like they don't experience same sex attraction once with a man and start talking shit about gay people, i've had them agree w their men they can kiss women and it not count as cheating (but they cant kiss men) as if it doesnt completely devalue same-sex attraction and lesbianism and, most commonly, i've had them choose their moid over their female friends time and time again. i told one friend about her bf cheating on her (he told me!) and she chose her moid to the point of ignoring me if we saw each other out because he wanted her to. it is not my responsibility to be mother mary to these women and constantly forgive and forget. it's a pattern and it reveals their osa power. straight women do less of this shit publicly bc bi women think they get a free pass due to being bi. nah. if you centre moids or act as sexist/lesbophobic as one towards me then you're dead to me.