Daddy's Ginger Princess

just silly things that strike me for whatever reason.

[melodybujo]

[his-ginger-princess]

I'm so jealous. How are people so creative!? Ahhhh

[merrybitchmas91-deactivated2019]

Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.  

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind. 

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture. 

Therefore, I present to you: 

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift 

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see. 

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in. 

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.) 

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety. 

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel. 

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless. 

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors. 

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.  

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself.  I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too. 

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

[his-ginger-princess]

Yes. Very yes. Anything that occupies that side if my mind. I've taken up the bullet journal thing. It helps me.

[his-ginger-princess]

I literally have no idea why this popped into my head but my 9 year old refuses to watch it. Lolololol

[his-ginger-princess]

The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino - But You Dont Look Sick? support for those with invisible illness or chronic illness

Please take the time to read Christine Miserandino’s personal story and analogy of what it is like to live with sickness or disability. Cl

Recently, I found this while cruising my Pinterest stream for bullet journal ideas for mental health.

I'm not physically disabled. I don't deal with chronic pain. But I do have OCD and generalized anxiety (these two are like best friends). I find that being a productive and successful adult is physically exhausting. Energy is energy. It doesn't matter how you spend it, whether it's inside your head or outside, whether it's physical activity or mental activity, energy goes down. By the end of the day, even though I've kicked ass and taken names... I'm too exhausted to really be of use to anyone in any capacity... including myself.

I'm not hip to all these new fangled ideas about mental health, but I kept seeing people talking about self care. I was like... what in the hell is self care!? I mean, intellectually, I can guess what the words mean in the context of being together, but what does it _really_ mean? And then I read this article and I knew.

Self care is how you give yourself more spoons today without borrowing spoons from tomorrow. And with that, I set out on a mission. I'm gonna figure out ways to give myself more spoons, because I want to be a functioning adult outside of work.

💪💪💪💪💪

[sadghostsclub]

Red Tears, Joanna Kenrick

[his-ginger-princess]

So tired, I've decided to focus some of this energy inwardly. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I have a good handle on what poisons my mind and I have thought of wonderful ways to chase away the clouds. Hopefully, I'll learn how to give myself more energy.

[submissive-seeking]

What Just Happened To The Tumblr App? A Lot Of Things Look Wrong

Users said on Twitter that the Tumblr app was no longer available for download from Apple's App Store. It's not yet clear whether Apple has

@instructor144 heads up!

So that’s happening.

Tumblr missing App store is apparently just the beginning of the weird happenings too.

[instructor144]

Heads up, people. If the hammer comes down, hopefully Tumblr itself will be up long enough for me to transfer my content to kinkspace.com. In fact, during the holiday season while I’m between jobs, I may start doing it proactively. I’ll keep y’all in the loop as I hear more.

[his-ginger-princess]

That sucked. I'll just post it here. Lol

Tumblr confirms app download and Safe Mode issues; here’s a fix

Update (November 16): You can also track the progress on these issues by heading here. Original story follows: We were the first publication

I wouldn't freak out about it quite yet.

[his-ginger-princess]

Defiance

Every time a person writes a Tumblr post and says, "Don't remove the caption," I instantly go, "Fuck you. I'll remove the caption if I damn well please."

..... then I don't. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[autistichalfblood]

Jodie Whittaker - BBC’s Children in Need, 2018.

[his-ginger-princess]

As much as I really hate the idea of a female doctor... I know this is why there is one... and I know sometimes things like this are the first time girls can identify with strong, assertive women.

I watched a WWE pay per view not that long ago where they went to a country where the girls wore the hijab. I have exactly no bad feelings toward women who choose deliberately to do such a thing. I respect them and their bodies and what they choose to do with them. But when I see very little girls dressed like this, I wonder how much they are being taught to be ashamed of what they are. I wonder if they will ever truly know who they are. I wonder, and it fills my eyes with tears to know that this is very likely happening to them... and if not them, certainly some little girls, somewhere.

It's ok to be you. This is a lesson I still haven't learned. Don't let others make you feel like you have to hide. You're awesome.

(I should write this is my journal.)

[iglovequotes]

http://iglovequotes.net/

[his-ginger-princess]

Oh... so I'm not the only one. That's kinda terrifying and reassuring at the same time.

[snootyfoxfashion]

Handmade Leatherbound Grimoire Journals from McCallCompany

x / x / x / x / x x / x / x / x / x

[his-ginger-princess]

Oh i love all of these.

[wendystudies]

6.02.17 / back2bulletjournaling

[his-ginger-princess]

Washi tape.......

[birchtreestudies]

[November 01, 2018]

Hello November :)

[his-ginger-princess]

Super simple... something to think about.

[ploverstudies]

100818

got a new notebook for math to replace my old one + been practicing my cursive for bujo headers. hoping today’s a productive one, happy studying! 🍁🍂

[his-ginger-princess]

I wish I had learned to do this when I was younger.

[birdasaurus]

[his-ginger-princess]

This is totally me trying to figure out my bullet journal. As an INTJ, for me, everything has to have a plan and that plan has to be flawlessly executed.

I have to work on the flawlessly executed requirement or i'll never actually start. But yeah. I'm doing this. For real.

[xxxamorexxx-deactivated20221208]

Mood right now..

…actually sick of seeing porn, I’m going to be going through everyone I follow and have a “clear out”. If i unfollow you, I mean no offence, just can’t stand seeing so much porn. There is only so many times I can see a dick in a pussy and a finger in the ass, I mean you’ve seen one you’ve seen them all.

- A xx

[his-ginger-princess]

Omg, me right now. No porn for a while. Promise.

[lovely-bruise-deactivated201309]

[his-ginger-princess]

Kitty beeeeeeeeeeeeans!

[sgrstk]

[his-ginger-princess]

😈😈😈😈