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17, aspie, sweden. this is a side blog

[dovand]

me be like: *is 5-50 different marginalised/discriminated against groups at once*

[transgenderjordanpeterson]

Let me guess race isn’t one of them

[weenie-kun]

[parkchanwoohoo]

The last panel contains more emotion than anything you could find in a museum

[bicth-and-in-that-order]

See shit like this is why y’all need to shut up about bi lesbian discourse because it’s seeping into real life and straight men are co-opting wlw terms and pressuring lesbians into relationships/sex. I’m not about to tolerate men pursuing me ANYWAYS because they don’t know if I’m homoromantic or whatever. And yes , straight men were already self entitled enough as it is, but y’all don’t need to add fuel to the fire

[oedalis]

What the ever loving fuck.

Maybe I'm just old but lesbian definitely means you are woman identified and only attracted to woman identifying folks.

Otherwise, you're bisexual/pansexual.

Even if for some reason someone is only MOSTLY attracted to femme folks and wants to identify as a lesbian, dudes, you should not be trying to make moves, like, what.

[same-sex-attracted]

lesbians are the female sex and attracted to the female sex. it's not about gender conformity at all. some of the most famous lesbians didn't identify as women, like leslie feinberg. you're disappointed that men would approach lesbians but you're trying to redefine lesbian to include them once they change their pronouns. don't encourage these creeps. gay ppl aren't attracted to gender, we like our own sex.

[nonbinaryperspectve]

“society teaches women that’s it’s perfectly ok to only like pussy” is a totally bonkers statement that no matter what point in history you’re saying it in.  anyone, no matter what their political leaning, will probably recognize as false.  but when someone says “cis lesbians have been strongly socialized to only like pussy and this needs to be unlearned”  there’s a layer of obfuscating language there and because of that, people are duped into thinking ‘huh, i guess that’s true!’ even though the two statements point towards two entirely contradictory versions of society.  there’s a time and a place for talking abt trans issues, but if your language is being used to create scenarios that - if reconstructed using non-academic language - become untrue, or if it’s being used to demonize other marginalized people who aren’t actually diminishing your quality of life, then you’re not actually looking for social justice - you’re just using it’s language for your own selfish purposes.

[mexicanjesuschrist-deactivated2]

Just something I noticed 😊😊😊😊

[latina-and-rad]

Homophobia

[theunwomen]

Meanwhile, TRAs and conservative men shake hands in agreement that women should have zero ownership of her own body and sexuality.

[fallopium]

[athenabutevermore-deactivated20]

They’re the same

[afronerdism]

The conversation surrounding cultural appropriation has been so severely mutilated by white “allies” that the original intention behind that conversation has become almost unrecognizable in most social contexts.

[afronerdism]

To explain what I mean, the conversation around cultural appropriation was started by black and native people to discuss the frustrations we feel at being punished socially and financially for partaking in our cultural heritage while white people could take, I.e. appropriate, aspects of our culture that we are actively shamed for and be heralded as innovators. It was about the frustrations we feel when the same white people who shamed us would take our culture and wear it as if they were the ones who created it while still actively shaming us for doing the same.

The original push behind naming cultural appropriation and having these conversations were so that we as a society could evaluate why we were punished for our heritage while white People were not. It was supposed to be about seeking solutions. The idea was to create a society where we could celebrate our cultures with impunity. It was never about telling white people that they “weren’t allowed” to do certain things. We did ask that white People stop doing certain things because they weren’t doing them respectfully and were not invited to do them, but the primary reason we asked them to desist was to reclaim the things they had stolen and to reassign them culturally back where they belonged.

White “allies” saw these conversations happening and instead of trying to aplify our own voices or even try to learn about the complexities behind why we were saying what we were saying, they instead began screaming over us and creating a narrative that was hardly even the bones of what we originally set out to say. It was like they took the conversation we were trying to have, completely decontextualized it, and stripped it of all it’s nuance in order to gain social currency by seeming progressive.

So the conversation around cultural appropriation went from “This aspect of our heritage belongs to us and we find it egregious that we are shamed for it. What steps can we take to address the racism that’s creating this situation as well as rehome the things that have been stolen” to “you’re not allowed to do that because if you do that you’re racist, we don’t really understand why that’s racist but you’re not allowed to do that and if you do that you’re a klansman no exceptions. So you’re not allowed because because”

At the end of the day, did I like the fact that sally was wearing dreads? No. But my primary concern was not that sally was wearing dreads but rather that sally could wear dreads and I couldn’t. THAT was the intended focus of those conversations. It was about addressing the inequality. It was about us. Now the conversation is just about sally and were completely forgotten.

White People are always asking me what they can do to help. You want to know? Stop talking. Aplify our voices and shut the fuck up because you all have pretty much derailed this conversation and many more like it to the point that we no longer are trying to make steps to understand and dismantle the racism around cultural appropriation and instead are just using it as social shaming tactics.

[afronerdism]

TL;DR: read my post. Most things worth learning about can’t be summarized in the bullet points of a buzfeed article. Don’t come into academic circles and complain because everything hasn’t been conviently summarized for you. Stop pretending that things aren’t accessible to you because you refuse to do the intellectual labor that is learning.

[wildfem-deactivated20200822]

conversations with libfems b like:

“are women oppressed?”

“yes”

“why are they oppressed?”

“because they’re women”

“what makes them women?”

“they identify as women”

“what are they identifying as?”

“women”

[wildfem-deactivated20200822]

alternatively:

“are women oppressed?”

“yes”

“who are they oppressed by?”

“the patriarchy”

“who’s the patriarchy?”

“people that oppress women”

[leftgender]

really do not like jokes that equate gay to liking dicks and lesbian to liking pussy. 😐

[gaymenaredivineincarnate]

Really do not like when people act like gay dudes making jokes about liking dick is some form of moral failing.

Makes you forget we live in a world where a gay man saying he likes dick openly can lead to violence. 

[leftgender]

and as a trans person I don’t like being constantly reminded that I’ll never be a real man and I’ll never be fully welcome in mlm spaces but I guess we can’t all get what we want

[kazjazzhandsbrekker-deactivated]

did you really just compare facing violence for your same sex attraction to simply not being welcomed into a space that isn’t for you? Tough shite op, being gay is about exclusive attraction to the same sex. It’s not a personality trait or a political stance.

Gay people were not beaten to death, stabbed to death, forced into conversation therapy, correctively raped, targeted by terrorists, mass murdered in shootings, allowed to die from aids because it was a “gay disease”, thrown in prison, chemically castrated, fired from jobs and not allowed to marry for your entitled arse to turn around, call yourself a man and then get pissy at gay people making jokes about our same sex attraction. The woke homophobia is astounding.

[lovefuzzed]

But seriously having appearance or ‘sexual attractiveness’ brought into irrelevant situations (eg. Being called ‘gorgeous’ or strangers saying ‘thanks for the view’ when you give them directions, being honked at etc.) leads to this really persistent and uneasy feeling of being watched everywhere you go and it amazes me that people still don’t understand how constant and negative that feeling is

[anthyhime-deactivated20210201]

The “sex and gender are different” theory that cisgender people invented so they can grasp trans identity while still erasing it is toxic. It translates into “your gender may be ____ but biologically you are _____” which normalizes the concept that genitalia validates your gender. Its nothing less than bullshit.

[oudeteron]

It also creates this patronizing linguistic construction where you can just replace “biologically” with “really” and that’s the actual sentiment here, isn’t it? They’re humouring you, that’s it. Truth is that sex is as much a social construct as is gender, but admitting that debunks the status quo in a way that the simplistic sex/gender distinction doesn’t, so of course it hasn’t caught on yet.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

sex wasn’t a social construct when men decided that women were inferior because of their bodies. sex isn’t a social construct when men decide who they want to rape, traffick, and abuse. sex isn’t a social construct when women and girls are required to be in menstruation huts. sex isn’t a social construct when yound girls are forced to go through female genital mutilation and have their breasts ironed.

if you think that sex is a social construct you are erasing the lived experiences of women across the world, since the dawn of time.

[homopsychology]

Also, sex and gender being different is the theory trans activists used for years. It was promoted by almost all trans advocacy organizations. This new “nothing means anything” theory only became widely popular recently

[ddrvbiblgigb]

I guess when women were men’s property and men could beat his women whenever he felt like it was due to her intangible gender identity. Which begs the question, why didn’t all of these women that were chained to subjugation by the hands of men, just identify out of it?

[twoxliberation]

i really have no patience for tras who are delusional and think that their movement is inherently good and wholesome and sweet. they can’t fall back on the “most of us aren’t violent, it’s just a small percentage of us!” excuse anymore because everyone saw what happened to jkr. it was literally tens of thousands of these freaks threatening a woman with rape and murder, spamming a twitter thread intended for children with pornography and then blaming jkr for not cleaning it up fast enough, accusing her of being a fucking pedophile, lying about what she said and twisting her words to make her seem like the violent one and to make their own unhinged threats to choke her to death with ladydick and set her on fire were somehow justified.

tens of thousands. damn near every major leftist publication did the same shit, minus the graphic threats. when trans activists celebrated publications mocking jkr for being a domestic abuse survivor and interviewing her abuser and giving him the front page - fuck all of them.

they know what their movement is really like. they can’t play dumb anymore.

[anti-your-woke-homophobia-deact]

Gen Z really took the loving and admirable concept of "Accept everyone for who they are, you have no right to judge" and turned it into "don't question anything at all. If someone tells you what to believe you absolutely must believe them. Don't even think about pointing out or expressing any concerns cause then you're a horrible and hateful bigot."

[femclasscirce]

They confuse being non-judgemental with being non-critical.

[pronounrejector]

tbh generational finger pointing, especially at the generation that just barely entered adulthood if at all, is getting old. it’s really only skimming the surface of a bigger issue. gen z grew up with the Great Recession, trump, and Covid being defining events of their youth. in my generation I see a lot of young people who are passionate about doing the right thing in a world where the wrong people are in power. I think that desire for justice is often misguided by not only a developing mind but also liberal adults who pushed lies onto us. we were all children when this attitude started. don’t blame us for being manipulated into it.

[homosaccharide]

very that. i see so much of the "damn kids" attitude from the older gens like bro where do u think we got these ideas? i was in between middle school and high school when i was introduced to trans heavy rhetoric. i was a kid lol i wanted to help people and later learned that i was being lied to the entire time. u wanna be mad at someone? be mad at your fellow millennials and gen x'ers that came up with this shit n sold it to children as a form of moral purity.

[anti-your-woke-homophobia-deact]

I mean, I am a Gen Z kid myself lmao. I still have "teen" attached to my age and I'm not excluding myself from my post. Gen Z, in my experience has a very "fuck what older people say, we're far more accepting and we're gonna put a stop to a lot of the shit that plagues our world!" and that's...not true. You say "adults manipulated us" and like, I don't disagree, but also, if Gen Z is gonna have the mindset of "I'm going against what adults want and believe" when that's not true at all then we deserve to be called out.

We may be kids and barely adults but our words still matter. You say blame the older generation but they were once kids too and nobody checked them for their ignorant beliefs, everybody stood by in hopes they'll eventually grow out of it (or worse, actively encouraged it), and the same thing is happening again.

Yes, adults influenced us but we're now becoming those adults and it's time we start to examine why we believe what we do.

Also, it's in my experience that the idea of "completely accept everyone, regardless of who they are" is very much a young generation ideal which is why I called out my generation (and you're free to extend my post to millennials). We don't want to be like the older generation full of racism and sexism and homophobia. We want to be loving and accepting and full of justice, and that's admirable but we've allowed that to morph into "fuck anyone who disagrees or questions me." and that's not okay.

My post wasn't necessarily meant as a "those damn kids" but more so as a "we think we're being radical and loving but it's the opposite."

[xyfarfromthetree]

Being a weird girl don't make you a f*g and being an incel who can't get laid doesn't make you a lesbian and it's very offensive that you think it does.

[aterfstolemysalad]

Is there any terf violence? Like assaults or something? Looking for news articles or crime reports, if they exist

[pronounrejector]

Self-Described “Radical Feminist” Seattle Woman Charged in Assault of Transgender Woman

[ianthomasmalone]

Gender criticals hate Lana Del Rey because they don’t want trans vaginas to taste like Pepsi Cola

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

what does this say

[magneliotrope]

You spelled "fecal bacteria" wrong

[hygienequeen]

gatekeeping the taste of pepsi cola from trans pussy is very high on the gender critical agenda

[bitterbadfem-harpy]

I had to read this like four times what the fuck is op talking about

[kant-deactivated20190908]

true 2000′s nonsense was finding an amv with a cool song and revisiting the amv for the song instead of actually looking it up

[yieldsfalsehoodwhenquined]

it just sounds better on the amv idk what to tell you

[matriarch-kshadh]

Bored with cisnormative folk who inadvertently fetishize people of different body types/colors by occasionally having sex with them but really only date ppl prolongedly who basically look like them or have their body (type). And there are plenty of you. Especially white lanky androgynous looking folk who acquire nominal cred in their politics but barely have stepped foot in the hood or a poor community enough to know what’s up and get to see into the content of others unlike them embodied on a personal level vs just like validating potential attractibility from afar.

[pronounrejector]

if we remove the pretentious jargon from this post we’re just left with a kwēare who is triggly wiggly about xir inability to get laid

[shitqueer]

Bored with cisnormative folk normies who inadvertently fetishize people of different body types/colors by occasionally having sex with them who who have sex with who they want but really only date ppl prolongedly who basically look like them or have their body (type). but don’t date me. And there are plenty of you. Especially white lanky androgynous looking folk who acquire nominal cred in their politics people who are more attractive and liked than me but barely have stepped foot in the hood or a poor community enough to know what’s up and get to see into the content of others unlike them embodied on a personal level vs just like validating potential attractibility from afar but won’t fall in love with me, which is classist.