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suck, and i cannot stress this enough, my cock to the fucking base
oh no! i dropped this screenshot that explains how to bypass this with a free adblocker! you shouldn’t reblog this or anything; it’d be terrible if people used this advice to watch ad-free youtube!!
Dungeon Meshi Episode 17
long post but catch me at anime north with @masasei !
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my mental health is dwindling but here have some calming moon pictures
félix madrigal icons
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↠ couldn't decide which of the family members i want to keep as my icon so i made icons for all of 'em!
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Hey did you know I keep a google drive folder with linguistics and language books that I try to update regularly
**UPDATE**
I have restructured the folders to make them easier to use and managed to add almost all languages requested and then some
Please let me know any further suggestions
….holy shit. You found the holy grail.
….. is this a DIFFERENT person keeping gigabytes worth of language books on google drive? Holy crap.
This. This here. Is why I love Tumblr.❤️❤️❤️
dam…….. that website “you feel like shit” (it’s like a questionnaire / troubleshooting guide for when you feel like shit) really works………………….. im not even all the way thru it and i even half-assed a lot of the suggestions and i already feel loads better
We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.
For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.
There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.
Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.
I’ve never even heard of this??
Me neither. :(
Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.
So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later.
One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken.
Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x
Brent Weeks included a character with vaginismus in his fantasy series, The Black Prism. It’s plot relevant (she needs to consummate a political marriage–to a husband she sincerely loves, no less), and she’s treated as a well-rounded character who it’s just one aspect of, and Weeks included an author’s note that was like “btw, this is a real thing. Here are resources on the topic. You’re not broken and you can get help.”
Which, like, from a male author? That’s pretty neat.
Vaginismus is psychosomatic and often is caused by anxiety. It’s also very real and quite painful.
It can be caused by sexual assault, but it can also be caused by just plain lousy sex. In some cases there’s no apparent cause.
It can occur during sex and/or during pelvic exams. Some people (hi!) experience it only during pelvic exams or pap smears. (Mine was caused by an incompetent medical professional who didn’t pay attention and used a speculum that was too large). And, as mentioned, some sufferers can’t insert tampons. I’d imagine it’s not impossible for somebody to be fine with sex but have problems with tampon insertion. I’ve also heard of people being fine with a penis but not with toys and vice versa. (Lube, people. Lube).
Vaginismus is a major cause of dyspareunia (painful intercourse), but there are other causes, which can include:
* Not producing enough natural lubrication. This can be a result of insufficient/bad foreplay, but some people never produce enough and levels of lubrication can drop during and after menopause, after childbirth, and while nursing. It can also be a side effect of medication. Lube exists, and some people have to use it. Vagina owners should always use water-based lubes.
* Injury down there, often as a result of childbirth complications.
* Yeast or bacterial infection.
* Ezcema
* A deformed vagina (this is rare, but it does happen. It’s generally connected to a chromosomal abnormality or a condition such as AIS)
* Scarring from pelvic surgery.
* Stress.
* Ovarian cysts
* Pelvic inflammatory disease.
* Ectopic pregnancy
* Some STDs, such as genital warts
* Vulvodynia - pain in the clitoris, labia and vaginal opening. This one’s even worse…we do NOT know what causes it.
* Latex allergy if using condoms. If using lube causes more pain, you may be allergic to the lube.
* Cystitis
* Uterine problems such as fibroids or endometriosis
* Cervicitis (inflammation of the cervix)
Many of these can be treated or worked around. Sex is not supposed to hurt. And if it does, you and your partner need to address why. Many doctors actually recommend sex therapy as a couple if you have vaginismus. If you have an infection down there, it can be treated. If your vagina is too dry, you can use supplemental lube. But you need to talk to your doctor if at all possible.
Again.
It’s not supposed to hurt.
No, not even the first time.
Always reblog.
Vaginismus isnt always psychosomatic it can also be caused by conditions such as vulvar vestibulitis from a hypertense pelvic floor- which is either caused by over active pain receptors or can cause them to become hyperactive. It certainly can also be caused by psychological trauma such as rape but just like erectile dysfunction it can also be biological in origin
I had this, but didn’t know what caused it or what it was called…. but for me it turned out to be Depo Provera. I’m glad it’s gone now, since being off that injection, but holy shit, I know of so many women who have experienced this and no doctor could explain it!
This is something to be aware of!
-FemaleWarrior, She/They
While we’re at it, folks with vaginas, your menstrual cycle may be worse than normal, too.
There is a Lot they never bother to teach us, and if sex or your menstrual cycle hurt a lot that is not normal and you should be working with a doctor to find out why. (And if your doctor doesn’t take your pain seriously you are allowed to fire them and find another because fuck that noise, our pain is real.)
This article is a liiiiittle bit off-center for this topic, and it was published in 2018 in response to the backlash to the woman who wrote about her experience with Aziz Ansari, but it goes into a broader discussion of how pain and discomfort are appallingly common experiences women have during pain, and how we’ve been conditioned to ignore them, and then drops this bit of information, that’s haunted me since I first read it:
These days, a man can walk out of his doctor’s office with a prescription for Viagra based on little but a self-report, but it still takes a woman, on average, 9.28 years of suffering to be diagnosed with endometriosis, a condition caused by endometrial tissue growing outside the uterus. By that time, many find that not just sex but everyday existence has become a life-deforming challenge. That’s a blunt biological reality if ever there was one.
Or, since sex is the subject here, what about how our society’s scientific community has treated female dyspareunia — the severe physical pain some women experience during sex — vs. erectile dysfunction (which, while lamentable, is not painful)? PubMed has 393 clinical trials studying dyspareunia. Vaginismus? 10. Vulvodynia? 43.
Erectile dysfunction? 1,954.
That’s right: PubMed has almost five times as many clinical trials on male sexual pleasure as it has on female sexual pain. And why? Because we live in a culture that sees female pain as normal and male pleasure as a right.
from The female price of male pleasure, Lili Loufbourow
ANOTHER CAUSE for pain when anything is being inserted (sex, tampons, gynecological tests) is endometriosis, which can grow in the vaginal canal. I was told by THREE gynecologists/complete assholes that my intense pain during pap smears wasn’t a real thing, that I was dramatic or straight-up lying.
As a result, it took me eight years to be diagnosed with endo, which by that time was all over my abdomen, womb, tubes, ovaries, AND bladder. While I had to co-existing conditions, endo isn’t even rare. Doctors can just be major asshats.
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A quick little something I knocked together, the patented tragic backstory generator ™ is the easiest way to give your character a mythically horrible origin.
(actual tragedy may vary, results are final and non-negotiable, i am not responsible for any tears you may shed while imagining the sad life your character must have led up to this point)
Roll this for every single character in your campaign
Well, I finally did it; I gave into temptation and spent hours making a version of my worn mossy cobblestone path based on Denim2_mori's beautiful and brilliantly designed dirt path.
All 12 pieces are available at my creator code in addition to the older version of this same path.
train tracks by @pokemori428coco on twitter [x]
