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[sayruq]

[cbs-scorpion-coffee-shop]

I want this map everywhere. Pin it on all your blogs.

[farahhaboub]

Can you donate to save my sister from death ?

Yes , I can

No , I can’t

Voting ended onMay 31

Deadline 31 May

Subject: Collecting the cost of my sister’s treatment

Current process:

USD 15,550 / $16,041

Vatted by @90-ghost

Vatted by @sar-soor

Vatted by @fairuzfan

Donate to Gaza Family Left With Nothing Help Them Start Again, organized by Rania A

In the heart of Gaza, a family of four clings to survival in the shadow of… Rania A needs your support for Gaza Family Left With Nothing Hel

$491 is all that stands between my sister and the medicine that could keep her alive. Her condition has become terrifyingly worse, and every moment in the ICU feels like we are waiting to lose her. I cannot describe the pain of watching my sister suffer, weak and exhausted after her surgery, while we are unable to afford the treatment she desperately needs to survive.💔

I begged for help everywhere until my heart and soul became exhausted. I cried, pleaded, reposted, and hoped someone would care enough to save her, but the donations barely come while my sister is slowly fading in front of my eyes. Please, don’t let her die because we are poor and helpless. Imagine if it was your sister fighting between life and death while you stood there unable to save her.😔

We urgently need the remaining $491 before it becomes too late. Even the smallest donation could help save my sister’s life and stop this nightmare from taking her away from us forever.🙏😔💔

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[farah-family2]

Please donate whatever you can and share the post 🙏

[save-the-child-lama]

If my sister dies, you are not innocent. Remember that you saw this and did nothing to save her. My sister urgently needs a surgery that could save her life. Right now, my sister is taking her last breaths while everyone remains silent. Please, I beg you, do not let my sister Lama die

DONATE HERE

[save-the-child-lama]

My sister Lama is dying before my eyes right now.

She urgently needs surgery today. We need $1,500 to save her life, but only $100 has been raised.

I beg you, please don't let my sister die while there is still a chance to save her.

[depsidase]

[drdarine]

My little baby sister Maryam may not survive if the war or famine returns again. Her tiny body can no longer endure all this exhaustion, hunger, and fear.

[drdarine]

I can't sleep because of the overwhelming fear and dark thoughts haunting me. I keep imagining what could happen to Maryam if we are forced to go through all of this again.

💳 Please donate - ✅️ Vetted # 15

[drdarine]

Maryam deserves safety, warmth, food, and the chance to live like any other child. Instead, she wakes up every day surrounded by fear and uncertainty. Please do not look away from Maryam and help her have the chance in a safe and peaceful life.

[kdotlover]

Please help Maryam and her family.

[gazavetters]

Maryam is an innocent child who was once full of life and energy, until the war in Gaza changed everything.

If Maryam is not worthy of help, then who is?

[depsidase]

[save-the-child-qais]

PLEASE DON’T IGNORE THIS… MY BABY QAIS IS SLOWLY DYING IN FRONT OF ME.

Tonight, his body became so weak from bleeding and hunger that he could barely lift his head while I held him and cried helplessly beside him.

[save-the-child-qais]

The doctors told me today that severe anemia and malnutrition are destroying his tiny body, and without urgent blood units, treatment, and proper food, he may not survive much longer.

[save-the-child-qais]

I beg you as a devastated mother in Gaza living every moment terrified of losing her child forever. Please, don’t leave my baby Qais alone in this nightmare—Donate now and help save his life before it is too late.

Gofundme - Vetted#679

[baeddel-voruna]

please help Qais and Esraa, please donate!

[depsidase]

[depsidase]

[depsidase]

[aquietwhyme]

That's why they exist. Their purpose is to hurt and oppress us while perpetuating the problems that keep us divided and ruleable. It's why they were created, and why in the US (and other authoritarian countries) they are lionized by the major political parties.

[whatifsandspheres]

Not just why they (the enforcers) exist, but how all those other systems are planned, designed, and constructed.

Crime is predictable. They use the lie that crime is an aberration and outlier of unhealthy minds in an otherwise healthy society and systems. The truth is that crime is the logical and predictably measurable outcome of an unhealthily structured and dysfunctional society.

You can debate about whether the design is intentional or the result of ineptitude and narrow perspectives, but that's a separate topic. I argue it's fully intentional, even if not all the enforcers, planners, builders, and regulators ever consciously are aware of it. It's not as if anyone is physically preventing them from walking an isle or two down the library to find the thoroughly documented research and studies confirming it. But nobody is enforcing healthy design and planning. There's profit to be made in uncertainty. There might be a dozen ways to design and plan healthy urban development, but there are millions of ways to cut corners and fake it. A million ways to sell it, and then a million ways to haggle and weasel the profit margins.

Modernity, or the subjective illusion of it largely worsens the problem.

The honesty in the styles of paleolithic technology is that a hand axe was a consistent and reliable design for very real material and chemical properties. You look anywhere to buy a product or a place to live and it all becomes so simple and simultaneously convoluted and confused by the same single simple factor-- money. Not the geography, not the material properties, not the actual availability or logistics. There's not a dozen models for the same type of vacuum cleaner, there's thousands and thousands-- and if there were: people would easily be persuaded to complain about the limitations to their options, and persuaded to ignore all the room for corruption, deception, and engineered obsolescence. Dozens of different labels for plastic bottled tap water.

When an urban planner makes one neighborhood a certain way he's not thinking necessarily about trying to make it a criminal hot bed-- but since he's only considering his and his benefactor's interests, that's exactly what he ends up doing.

They ignore core principles like Gini Ceofficient, access to services and transportation, density, green space, commons public space, infrastructure access. In the end they splurge on the considerations for the exclusive and elite even when the inefficiencies are opulent while they design spaces for the poor as if they were battery cages for chickens and other factory farmed animals.

Predictably, the result of this is crime. Especially when the animals in the cages become aware of how the pampered classes live.

[parkchanwoohoo]

Hey guys, friendly reminder that job interviews are psychological mind games and you should not be truthful and instead arm yourself with Important but Not Easily Verifiable Lies and practice delivering them until they're off the cuff.

- If someone asks for weaknesses, they're not really looking for weaknesses! They're looking for a combination of self-awareness and indications of self-improvement. Don't say "I'm bad at time management" and just leave it there. Imply that's in the past tense and talk about all the stuff you did to get good at it. Follow up each weakness with some bs answer on what you're doing to address it

- When I say like, Not Easily Verifiable Lies, I mean like, obviously don't make up shit wholesale, but like. If someone asks you your 5 year plan, they can't PROVE you're lying if you say "Oh I want to be the head of my own department, I want to be supervising my own team, etc" other corporate ladder shit. What they don't wanna hear is "Uhhhh idk" EVEN IF IT'S TRUE AND VALID. They can't disprove that you love working with customers to find cost effective solutions. What they CAN do is feel suspicious about how much you mean what you say, which is why practicing until you can make that shit sound natural is important

- (With that specific example of where you wanna be though, be careful lmao. If they think you plan on using them as a stepping stone before moving on, they might question the value of hiring you since they'd just have to start the process over again. Try to strike the right tone of "I want to succeed and grow with the tools you give me, of which there is surely an abundance")

- I can see when you are reading off another screen. It's very visible. If you're gonna do chatgpt shit to come up with answers at least do me the courtesy of keeping the window leveled wherever my face would be on the screen so it looks like you're staring at me the whole time

- Do not talk about how your last company sucked. It's a company. Of course it sucked. This company you're applying for probably sucks just as much if not much worse. Even if you're leaving your company because your boss spends every day attacking you with throwing stars, make up a different reason. Preferably something about seeking growth or some shit

- If you can't think of a reason as to why you'd be excited to join a particular company (and let's be real. Why the fuck would you literally ever), find something else to feign excitement over. "I saw that this new role has X responsibility which I never got to do, but always wanted to learn" or "I saw that you were planning on opening two new branches and I've always wanted to be involved in the growth of blahblahblah vomit". It doesn't have to be true, man. On that note

- Google the company. Look up what they do. Look in the news. You don't have to be able to recite a complete company history or anything but it helps to kow What They Do. "This one seems really obv--" YOU'D BE SURPRISED. If they don't ask you outright what you know about the company, bring up something you learned when it's time for you to ask your questions.

- Have questions to ask, btw. But these are not mere questions of curiosity! Because, again, who could possibly give a shit about their practices and whatnot!! These are instead opportunities for you to show off how diligent you are and tell more anecdotes about what a great employee you would be. "Oh, I had a follow up question about the software you use! When I was training my coworkers how to use this, I came across this issue a number of times, how did you guys deal with that? I did X but that solution probably wouldn't scale for a department your size" <- Okay stop yawning and look. See how nobody gives a shit but now you can brag about knowing it so well you taught others, identified solutions, and recognized the limitations of those solutions? Bragging opportunity.

- You know that archetype of person who only ever talks about themselves and how great they are and everything you bring up only serves as a platform for them to talk about themselves? That is kind of what a job interview is.

"This sounds miserable!" It is!!! People who do this well are worms who have gained extensive experience in stuffing their faces into the excrement of hiring managers. If you're having a good time you're doing it wrong or YOU'RE WEIRD

"But even after doing all that work, I still might not even get the job?" Yes!!!!!! It sucks!!!!!! The goal is to minimize what qualms a person may have and present yourself as a specialized tool for their problems, which is why it helps to know what those problems are. "But that sucks!" NOTHING ABOUT THIS PROCESS DOESN'T SUCK, INCLUDING SUCCESS

[gothiccharmschool]

Speaking as a manager who just ran a bunch of interviews for a new position on my team: this post is ACCURATE. During an interview, I’m thinking about how well you deal with the nonsense questions that are part of the interview process that I have to follow. Am I pissed about having to do this? Of course I am, anyone with a shred of empathy would be. But it’s part of the process that I have to follow.

To add on to this, if after you’ve gotten the job and have been there a while you suspect your manager isn’t doing their best to keep petty bullshit out of your way, they’re not doing THEIR job. That’s what a good manager does: takes the billions of meetings and deals with status updates so you, the person doing the work, has the room to do it.

[dungeonmastersconsortium]

"Scam" you mean people are fighting back against housing discrimination??? I don't think these people know what the word scam means

Scams are designed to trick someone into giving up money based on lies. This is just.. asking for information then legally enforcing the law??

Fuck landlords

[that-gay-jedi]

"Are you illegally discriminating against disabled people?"

"Yes."

[depsidase]

[fulda-gap-express]

who is the Toronto baseball warlock

[parkchanwoohoo]

I'm weeping on the bus rn

[agayworthfightingfor]

On Dentists

So I can’t brush my teeth. Like, it’s the worst kind of hell. I went to the dentist for a cleaning today and I told the hygienist this, and she was wonderfully helpful.

There are some incredibly soft toothbrushes available- namely, post-surgical brushes. Running them under hot water makes them even softer.

She told me that you don’t really need to use toothpaste- it’s mostly marketing. The foam gets to me, so that is really reassuring.

She gave me two particularly soft brushes and some xylitol gum. Trident is a market brand of xylitol gum, which helps with your teeth and can make your breath smell better.

The whole purpose of brushing is to disrupt plaque buildup. You don’t need to brush twice a day, every day with toothpaste if you brush correctly- little circles, focusing on near the gums (where most plaque builds up). So if you’re having a bad sensory day and can’t brush at all, it’s not the end of the world.

Hell, you don’t even need a toothbrush if even the post-surgical ones are too harsh. Going over your teeth with the same motions using a washcloth is enough.

She wants to find a fluoride rinse that has a taste I can stand (peppermint is the only mint I can stand) but she’s not particularly worried about it.

I go to Dr. Barr in Chicago. If you can get to the State St. Macy’s, his office is nearby. He’s very kind and patient and really understanding of my needs as an autistic person. The hygienist, I don’t know her name, announced everything she was going to do before she did it, and stopped frequently to see how I was doing.

This is really the only positive dentist I’ve ever had- past dentists have been too rough and not bothered to help find ways I can actually brush.

Basically this is a glowing recommendation for Dr. Barr’s office if you’re autistic, afraid of dentists, or have sensory needs. This is a recommendation even if you don’t have any of those things.

[huhnerkopf]

Im actually crying i feel like this post was reblogged for me oh my god oh my god oh my lord thank you

[lascapigliata]

You can also dilute your mouthwash and use it to swish around if it burns. My dentist does this so consider it dentally approved

[spoonie-living]

If you were feeling guilty about your brushing habits, either due to sensory issues, pain, allergies, executive dysfunction, or just plain fatigue, here’s what you need to know about what is and isn’t necessary if your dental care!

[charismat1c-megafauna]

Post-covid, I got really horrible shit going on with my gag reflex where for some reason the mint flavor of toothpaste (and only toothpaste) would make me gag so hard that I’d throw up. Then I found a kids toothpaste that’s like strawberry flavored or something, but it has the proper adult amount of flouride, so it works for me and I don’t gag much anymore. Here’s an article with some options if you’re like me lol

Best Non-Mint Toothpaste For Adults — Dr. Gemma Wheeler

Dr. Gemma Wheeler lists best non-mint toothpaste options for adults. The list includes those that are truly non mint, without oils or aromas

Also for the people who can’t stand foam, the ingredient you’re looking to avoid is called SLS.

[bisexualbaker]

I share this frequently, but I had a very difficult time making myself floss because I hated the way that standard floss digs into my fingers when I use it. I switched to floss picks, and boom: A hated activity instantly became entirely neutral. Much easier to convince myself to do! If you have the same problem with standard floss, this might be worth a try.

Also, my most recent trip to the dentist, I was told that xylitol is a very effective treatment for dry mouth! And also that dry mouth is bad for your teeth, because it can disrupt the PH balance in your mouth, making your teeth more susceptible to cavities. While you want to be very careful to keep any xylitol products away from dogs in particular and probably pets in general, if you have dry mouth, you can try checking for products with xylitol in them.

[bisexualbaker]

Of note: My brother endorses the OraNusre brand of flavorless toothpaste; he says it “tastes like toothbrush”. My mom, meanwhile, is a fan of the Hello brand, which comes in different fruity and sweet flavors. Both of these are listed at the non-mint toothpaste link above.

If you prefer a toothpaste or a mouthwash for dry mouth, I use Biotène; it’s not cheap, but brushing once a day with it, a tube of Biotène toothpaste lasts me around four to five months. As far as I’m aware, it’s only in mint flavor.

[unconventiononthelawofthesea]

like, okay, consent does literally just mean agree. which is what enables this little rhetorical trick. because there's all this cultural emphasis on sexual consent, which is just expressed as consent, a lot of phrases whose intended meanings are "rape is bad" can be taken literally to mean "i should get to agree to everything that happens in my vicinity."

[unconventiononthelawofthesea]

for an example, "i didn't agree to seeing you wear that shirt" is straightforwardly a fucking insane thing for someone to say, but people regularly make use of this trick to make the (functionally identical) statement "i didn't consent to seeing that"

[unconventiononthelawofthesea]

the reverse also happens, where when you say "you don't have a right to agree to other people's outfits," someone will say "So you think consent doesn't matter?" Of course, in this context, the literal answer is yes! I don't care if you're cool with what I'm wearing. but obviously, what's meant to be implied is "you think rape is okay?"