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AITA for no longer reaching out to my pp best friend?
My best friend and I used to talk everyday, had weekly dinners, went on vacation together. We were inseparable, even when we had disagreements. it was us against the world. She got pregnant after years of trying, I was so excited for her, was present during her pregnancy, asked for updates, sent gifts, offered my help, tried to ease her anxiety during this time. Then she gave birth and at first we were like usual. I saw her at the hospital. I offered my help whenever we talked but she always refused, she was very happy with her newborn just exhausted as they’re not sleeping great during the night. She suddenly stopped texting and whenever I reached out she wouldn’t respond for days and every response was short and curt. I offered to come and do her chores so she could get some rest and spend time with her baby, she declined. I asked if I could come and spend time with them to get to know the baby and also catch up with her as we had not seen each other in months but she said that it was too hot to do anything (we were experiencing a heat wave). I said that I understood and that she should tell me when shes available in the future. I saw a few days later she went out to the zoo with a friend of hers and their kids. i was really hurt by this and sent her a text asking if I did anything wrong because I felt that we were drifting apart as we were not sharing anything together anymore, I told her I was very sad about this situation because her friendship means a lot to me especially right now as I’m having a tough mental heath crisis (got burnt out at work and im in mourning so I’m not working at the moment and I don’t know anyone here because My family lives in another country and all my “friends” are coworkers so I don’t see anyone outside of her.) She knows how lonely I feel yet she hasnt try to reach out once. She told me that I didn’t do anything wrong she’s just not on her phone as her baby is taking all her time and she tries to sleep as much as she can during the day.
I stopped texting her because I got sick, badly. I almost got hospitalized, lost a ton of weight and she didn’t really care… Never asked why, never asked if i was feeling okay, never even wondered if I was still alive.
Im deeply heartbroken about this. I know, even if I don’t have kids of my own that post partum is a bitch and it’s hard to raise a child without a village but all I wanted was to be her village. And she knows that . I feel selfish for complaining that she isn’t here for me when I needed her when she’s Gone through massive surgery and hormonal changes but i tried to be here for her yet she refused me at every turn. I really don’t know what to do. Should I try to continue to reach out or should I give up on this friendship ? I just wish she would tell me why she suddenly turn cold overnight …

















