Hello Mother dearest I love this guy. He's smart, funny, caring, kind, thoughtful and down to earth. But he's with someone else. I know I should let him go, because he with someone else. Though I am truly happy for him that he has found his happiness with someone. I just wish it was with me. With the feeling of knowing that the person you love is happy with someone else. How do you get over that feeling and the feeling of always going to be alone. As if you shouldn't have a happiness of your own
First of all: I know you sent me this message before and I really want to thank you for your patience. I appreciate that you sent it in again - I get a lot of messages and so sadly I don’t get to answer everyone. Sorry I didn’t get to answer it the first time! <3
I can imagine that this is a very painful situation for you. You deal with it maturely - being able to say “I’m happy he has found happiness” takes a lot of emotional strength. But you can’t rationalize away your pain and you don’t need to.
It’s okay to feel sad and lonely and heartbroken. It’s even okay to feel jealous or pity yourself. You’re a human being, you’re allowed to feel. Bottling up your emotions will, in the end, just make them stronger.
My first advice for you is: Allow yourself to grieve. Don’t jump right into trying to get over it - you need to feel your sadness before you can get over it. Allow yourself to feel lovesick. Our brains make us go through that for a reason!
When you feel your pain, you can do something about it. You may want to pour your sadness into a hobby or activity: write poems, draw, go on walks, anything that you like to do or would like to try doing. (If you feel very sad, your first activities may be more passive: watching movies or listening to music, for example. Those are typical lovesick activities because they’re distracting and don’t require much energy, and that’s good during the “feel the sadness”-phase. After you’ve done that for a while, you can slowly move on to something more active).
It’s a overused phrase but time does heal wounds - it’ll take a while but you’ll feel better. It’ll hurt less and less, simply because life goes on.
Another overused mommy phrase here but there are plenty of fish in the sea. I’m sure he is a really great fish but you’ll find someone even better. You’ll not be forever alone, you’ll find your happiness. Probably not today or tomorrow, but you will.