Travel Partner Compatability
I recently experienced my first July 4th weekend on Martha's Vineyard and it was almost perfect. The only downside was a little travel partner drama. I invited a couple of really cool friends to join me on the Vineyard for the holiday because its one of the best weekends here, I have my own place and room to spare. One friend committed a week in advance the other committed a day in advance, but I tried my best to make it work given I only have a 2-seater vehicle and a studio cottage. Well, I'll just say things didn't go over as smoothly as I would've hoped. As much as I love my nearest and dearest friends, for some of them we just don't have travel compatibility. I'm a very independent, self-sufficient traveler who likes to bounce around and do stuff rather than lounge around all day. I don't have an issue with travel partners who prefer the more relaxing, restful vacation over action packed adventures and long party nights. The only time conflicts arise are when the expectations of the roles/responsibilities of your travel partner(s) differ greatly.
Have you ever experienced inviting friends to join you on an epic trip that you really didn't want to go on alone, but by the middle of the trip you almost wish you would have gone alone? Here are a few tips that I think will help you have a better group travel experience:
Before the trip, establish what type of events/activities/attractions your travel partner(s) may or may not want to do.
If you all differ on certain activities, put together a tentative schedule that outlines which things you'll do together and which things you'll do apart.
Pick destinations and accommodations in locations where it is easy for everyone to get around and do their own thing. Its no fun for anyone being "trapped" in that remote log cabin in the mountains regardless of how beautiful the view is.
Be very transparent about the rules & plans for shared resources (e.g., car, gas, house, food, alcohol, etc.). One group I hung out with this weekend had an informal "house meeting" whenever decisions that affected everyone needed to be made like inviting over guests late at night.
Be as flexible and patient as you possibly can. After all, these are probably your friends and you don't want a vacation to end that relationship. It can be more difficult to adapt to someone else's agenda when you've spent so much money and time to take that much-needed vacation, but in the end you'll appreciate the good company more than that museum you just HAD to see. It'll be there next year.
Hoowenware actually provides great tools to make things like this a little bit easier. By allowing everyone to post arrival/departure info, different activities/events and get RSVPs everyone can view and build their own schedules. Try it out! Travel on!