Speaker + Co-founder of @ezibota

|| alchemist. Aligning self-with-soul. catalyst. Enabling transformation || ezibota.com

[writerswritecompany]

Lists Of Lists

Source for comic: Harold’s Planet

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“A healthy relationship is where two independent people just make a deal that they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.”

— HPLYRINKZ.COM

[godlydating101]

When God says He’ll give the desires of our heart, the Bible also said if we delight in Him. You can’t delight in God without laying aside your motives and pursuing His plan.

[chescaleigh]

i don’t really post about my personal life on here anymore, but i wanted to share something in hopes of offering encouragement to others. 

i’ve been dealing with serial harassers for years now. it’s a big part of why i’ve pulled back from social media and no longer share certain aspects of my life with the internet. folks have attempted to dox and defame me because they’re threatened by the work i do and/or are just generally unhappy with where they’re at in life. some of them are actually people i know, others are strangers half way around the world. people i’ve never spoken to or met. there’s really not much i can do about it because taking legal action is time consuming and expensive and ultimately drives traffic to those people which is exactly what they want. and as much as i enjoy social media, these platforms really don’t give a shit when it comes to dealing with harassment.

instead, i would put too much time and energy into running around the internet trying to defend myself and win the approval of people who don’t like me and have never liked me. it was exhausting and a complete waste of time. it was also unfair to the people who support my work, to my husband and to myself. i was miserable. i cried a lot. i felt awful. my hair started falling out from the stress and i dealt with constant insomnia. anytime i had something worth celebrating i was instead consumed with worry, imagining all the hateful and untrue things people would say about the opportunities i’d worked so hard for. last summer i decided i was done. i deleted the social media apps off my phone. i bought an old fashioned alarm clock so i didn’t have the excuse of using my phone as an alarm. i started charging my phone in the kitchen overnight so i wouldn’t be tempted to look at it in the middle of the night. when i decided i was ready to go back on social media i stopped responding to hateful messages and i even enabled parental controls on my phone and desktop so i could block specific websites. i unfollowed people that made me feel bad about myself and i was liberal with the mute and block buttons. i made a commitment to invest in myself and my mental health. which meant going back to therapy and repairing my relationship with myself. i realized i needed to close the door a bit in order to regain control. that meant living in the moment instead of capturing the moment for everyone else. that meant working on me instead of what everyone thought of me. It hasn’t been easy. some days i fail. i had one of those days just this week. BUT. A year later I can see a vast improvement in my productivity and how I feel about myself and the work I’m doing. I’ve accomplished a lot this year and I know for certain I wouldn’t have been able to do half of those things if I continued worrying about those toxic people who’re STILL worrying about me. 

The point is, there will always be people who deal with their unhappiness by projecting it onto you in hopes of distracting you and ultimately dragging you down with them. Fuck them. Your happiness and well being are important and no one deserves a say in how you feel about yourself, your life, or your accomplishments but you. 

[iambesala]

Sucks that you had to deal with that from those who know you and those who don’t. Celebrating your resilience ✨

[letfreedomrain]

my escape

[gahdamnpunk]

She’s so badass!! I love her

[princessakuba]

I love her so much 😭

[newagerasta-deactivated20180702]

Some stars burn brighter than others. Some people are here to shine bright. She got dat prem gas.

[chauiee]

Feinstein: You’re a big, powerful man. Why didn’t you [gestures pushing motion]?

Crews: Senator, as a black man in America [sigh]…

Feinstein: Say it as it is. I think it’s important.

Crews: …you only have a few shots at success. You only have a few chances to make yourself a viable member of the community. I’m from Flint, Michigan. I have seen many many young black men who were provoked into violence, and they were imprisoned, or they were killed, and they’re not here. My wife for years prepared me. She said, “If you ever get goaded, if you ever get prodded, if you ever have anyone try to push you into any kind of situation, don’t do it. Don’t be violent.” And she trained me. I’ll be honest with you it was the strength of my wife who trained me and told me, “If this situation happens, let’s leave.” And the training worked because I did not go into my first reaction, I grabbed her hand, we left, but the next day I went right to the agency. I have texts, I have phone conversations, and I said, “This is unacceptable!” And I told them how -you know- I almost got violent, but I didn’t. And I said, “What are you going to do about this predator that you have roaming your hallways?” And -you know- I was told, “We are going to do everything in our power. We are going to handle this Terry. You’re right. It is unacceptable.” And then they disappeared. Nothing happened.

[chescaleigh]

The guy making faces in the background really bothers me…why is he smirking? 

[anti-capitalistlesbianwitch]

Tweet by Waterstones Uxbridge (bookstore):

I’ve worked here for… well… a very long time. 

In all that time, never has a woman said to me, 

“I don’t read books written by men." 

However, at least once or twice a month, a man will say that he’ll not read a book by a female author. 

Men are ridiculous creatures.

[books-of-insanity-blog]

Today I got lost in a bookstore made up of five separate buildings

[bookmania]

Wonderful!! ☺️

[blackinmotionpictures]

THE TOP 10 HIGHEST GROSSING FILMS IN BLACK CINEMA

[abookishravenclaw]

Resisting Temptation

Me: If I can get out of this bookstore without buying a book, I’m gonna buy myself a book

Bookstore: …

Bookstore: YAY!!

[worshipgifs]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“She is a beautiful piece of broken pottery, put back together by her own hands. And a critical world judges her cracks while missing the beauty of how she made herself whole again.”

— J.M. Storm

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”

— Oscar Wilde

[kid-with-plans]

[phoenix-ace]

Things i want to happen this Juneteenth:

1. People stop using the immigrant myth when they talk about the U.S. it was not built by by immigrants, enslaved black people didn’t come here willingly.

2. People stop acting like America was fine until Trump. We were literal property.

3. People stop saying that African Americans are “just like white people”. You know damn well that the context behind us exploring African cultures isn’t the same as a white person. You know we would be connected if we could. Stop. Or pay up to help us find out.

4. People learn African American history. Learn that those confederate statues don’t just stand for something generic. Learn about how white people tried their damndest to keep us in slavery like conditions even after they couldn’t own us legally, and a lot of these laws you hate were put on the books to control us.

5. People learn about us as a group. Learn about the origin of terms like “wlw” or “poc”, learn how we built communities, learn how resilient we were. But don’t reduce us down to pain and social justice. Learn about black cowboys. Learn about black soldiers, about black artists, about the Harlem Renaissance, etc. Learn how diverse we are. We are comprised of so many sub-ethnic cultures and so many people assume we have nothing when we have so much.

6. Stop normalizing black death. The dehumanization we deal with now is the direct result of our enslavement.

Anyone have anything to add?

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Other peoples’ opinion of you is their problem, not your”

— Unknown