Alright, time for you to get some knowledge on college (yes, that was intended).
This weekend my baby brother was watching An Extremely Goofy Movie, and so I would see bits and pieces of it while I was watching my own show on my tab. In this movie, the main thing that bugged me (other than that one scene where it totally looked like Goofy was on drugs, surrounded by rainbows, happiness, himself in a rainbow wig and wacky sunglasses. That was just weird) was how badly college is depicted.
In the movie, Goofy’s son Max is going off to college with his pals, and they’re planning on participating in the College X Games, which is a skateboarding contest. There was a 5 time champion group that they really wanted to beat, Gamma-something-or-other. And then, in a sad twist of fate, Goofy loses his job and finds out that he has to have a college degree to get a job now, so he goes to Max’s school.
Alright, first thing first: If you choose to go away to college (you really do have a lot of choices! Get a job, trade school, overseas, out of state, far away but in state [depending on the size of your state/country], community college. It’s all there. You can do anything. You can even join the military, and they’ll pay for you to have an education after you serve. One option is even to just live with your parents, jobless or not, but I personally don’t recommend that one. You’re going to want to get out of the house eventually) and your folks don’t want you to leave, like Goofy with Max, talk to them. They need to understand that you’re a responsible adult now, and you need to learn to live on your own. If you’re a teen, it’s still the same thing, but you might be living with them or another trusted adult. Don’t let your parents convince you to give up your dreams, unless that is what you really want. Listen to them, talk to them, convince them.
Second thing: if you’re parents are like Pete, and they can’t wait for you to leave and get out of the house, you need to talk to them too. Make sure they realize that you’re still their kid and you’ll need their help. They can’t just toss you out into the world without a lifeline. Not cool man.
Third: focus on what’s most important to you, but make sure to leave enough room for everything else. Max did good (at least in the bit of the movie I watched, haven’t seen the whole thing in ten years) by keeping up with his studies, and focusing on skating at the same time. You’re at college to learn, that’s what colleges are for, what you’re paying a ton of money for. Don’t focus solely on the extra activities.
Fourth (there is going to be a lot of points in this post, sorry): if your parents choose to go back to school at the same school you go to, establish boundaries. You’re all adults, you have your own lives, but you can still be parent/child. My parents decided to go back to school, and it happened to be at the school that I go to now. It’s great, it really is. Last semester my dad and I had lunch together every Tuesday and Thursday, it was a great way to spend time together since we don’t live in the same house (or town) any more. This semester my mom and I found that we pass in the hall between classes every Monday and Wednesday, so we stand and talk for a few minutes before I go to class and she goes home. There is nothing embarrassing about hanging out with your parents at school. There really isn’t. Also, mom and I share a teacher and a classmate. That was cool.
Fifth, and this one is super important: Bullies. In the movie, the Gamma skating people were obviously bullies. The leader was super stuck up, one of his goons shot spit balls at Max in class, people made fun of Goofy’s 70s outfit, and so much more. Read this next part carefully. This. Doesn’t. Happen. At college, we’re all adults. We don’t make fun of one another, at least not normally. Now, I’ve never had any interaction with Greek groups, or party stuff, but at school itself, this doesn’t happen. At college, everyone either ignores each other or gets along well.
Sixth: While college is super stressful, it’s not nearly as bad as high school teachers make it seem. I don’t know what crazy experience they had, but that’s not the way it is. Really. You show up one minute late to class and you fail? Naw, the teacher doesn’t give a crap. Nor do any of the other students. The only thing I have ever had a (good) teacher say about this is to make sure you’re quiet and don’t distract other students. If you miss a day of school, some teachers will say that you’re in trouble for it, but literally the only ones I’ve had that are like this are the ones who shouldn’t be teaching for a multitude of other reasons. All of my teachers this year just want me to send them and email within the next day and let them know that I had to miss class, maybe a quick reason why. No doctor’s note needed (though, I have had teachers who require that, but once again that was a terrible teacher whom other teachers dislike).
Seventh: Dress code. There isn’t really one, at least that I know of, but don’t show up naked. Seriously, don’t. Wear clothes that you would be okay with your best friend’s grandparents to see you in. Basically, clothes acceptable for the public eye. Sometimes parents bring their children with them to class, and we don’t want that kid to be scarred for life. But again, there is no dress code, unless your school is weird. You can wear tank tops and hoodies, you can wear leggings and show your shoulders (*gasp!!!*). Some places might even be cool with crop tops, but they’re really not practical. Understand that some individual classes may have a bit of a dress code, but not often. For my speech class, it’s strongly recommended that you wear semi-professional clothing, basically a nice shirt, clean, dark jeans, etc. I have seen some business students walking around that have to wear a suit and tie, nursing students have to wear scrubs, dental students too. Don’t freak out. Also, you can show up in sweats and a giant, comfy sweater and no one will care. No one. We all understand the stress, sometimes wearing super comfy clothes is what you need. You can wear them all the time.
Now, I have a crap-load more to say, but I’m going to post this now so it isn’t super long. Love you all, bye.
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