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By och.life

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180512 // yaaay another weekly spread post 😆 I tried to really keep it to a minimum than that unicorn hit me and I was like “yaaay sparkles” 😋

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6.12.2019

today is finland’s independence day and i’m going to celebrate it by baking gingerbread cookies with my siblings! 🇫🇮

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Art by MI LU

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Photos Of Animals And Their Parents That Will Melt Your Heart

[jennpar]

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nah I think we should really stop glorifying cigarettes

[dirty-sparkletini-no-olive]

you sound boring.

[psiioniic-miracles]

You sound like you’ve never had the scent of cigarette smoke ingrained in your clothes to the point where people in middle school thought you smoked at eleven because your parents couldn’t be bothered to go outside. You sound like you’ve never had your mother flick cigarette ashes out of the car window and have them fly into your face. You sound like you’ve never been kept up at night by the sound of your dad hacking up a lung because he has to get up for his midnight smoke. You sound like you’ve never had to run into a convenience store to get your mother cigarettes as soon as you turned eighteen and cringed at touching the box because you know they’re not only killers but government sanctioned killers because they can not only tax the shit out of them but ensure people buy more at the cost of young lungs and a once beautiful home now plagued with the smell of smoke and ash. You sound like you’ve never had a great grandmother who stopped smoking 30 years before her death who still got lung cancer and subsequently died. You sound like a Fucking ignoramus. Smoking isn’t Fucking cool, it isn’t fun to glorify, it’s disgusting and makes not only you but your children smell bad. Makes not only you but your children cough, get cancer, get sick.

You sound like a Fucking moron. Smoking isn’t cool. Grow the Fuck up.

[adrunkensailor]

No, you grow the fuck up. There’s mountains of constant judgment when it comes to smoking. How about you leave people alone and let them do what they want with their bodies.

[yourladyindank]

There is a REASON. It’s not just their bodies they’re fucking. It’s never just their bodies with something fucking airborne. Especially when you have CHILDREN AND PETS.

[surfeit-of-stoats]

My grandfather smoked in his house decades ago. We moved in. We started working on it. After just one day of having the AC off so it could be worked on, I could no longer stay in the house because the smell was coming out of the walls <I>so strongly</I> and triggering my asthma to the point where I couldn’t breathe. My grandfather is dead and his smoking still managed to effect me that negativity. It is not just their body.

[justbecauseyoubelievesomething]

My aunt took up smoking in secret as a coping method for her depression. My cousin found out and she was so scared for her mom’s health that she hid the cigarettes. But when my aunt noticed they were missing, do you think she had a calm conversation about the whole thing with my cousin? Nope. She stormed into her room in such a rage, my cousin was too scared to even argue. She just gave the cigarettes back and prayed for her mom to leave the room. There was no explanation for why she took up smoking, for why she was trying to hide it, no reassurance for her worried daughter, not even a question as to why my cousin took them… there was just addiction-fueled anger. Directed at a child who had no control over her environment.

And then there’s my own mother, who has never taken up smoking, but who grew up with two chain-smoking parents. My mom who has permanent lung and throat damage from a lifetime of breathing in smoke that she didn’t ask for. My mom who now takes daily medication so her throat doesn’t ache.

But, tell me again how smoking only affects your body?

[anti-stupidity-capaldi]

I grew up breathing not only my step-dad’s cigarette smoke, but all his friends as they’d frequently hang out in the living room together creating a cloud of smoke that permeated the whole house. I got asthma at 10. I found a growth in my left lung at 30. I now have 1 lung. 1 lung and I’m still asthmatic. Fuck people who smoke around children.

[fathercryptid]

If you can’t agree with this, then fucking unfollow the shit out of me. Too many people in my family have died. My grandfather lost his wife to Lung Cancer. He still smokes though. And my dad who stopped cold turkey when my oldest brother was born and went through hell to make sure his first kid wouldn’t have to also. But did it help? No. Because his mom didn’t care that she had a newborn inhaling her goddamned secondhand smoke. Don’t you dare say it only affects the smoker. Don’t you dare.

[xxrabbitfacexx]

Don’t smoke around other people. Don’t smoke around pets. Don’t smoke in places folks /have/ to frequent. Nothing with lungs and a nose should have to be affected by your habit. That goes for vaping as well.

[maphatingcharacteroftheday]

Don’t smoke in public places, like restaurants and parks.

[roomba-with-knives-taped-to-it]

This includes smoking weed too

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WHEN WILL PEOPLE FUCKING REALIZE THAT

MEN

ALSO

ARE

GIVEN

UNREALISTIC

EXPECTATIONS

DO YOU HAVE ANY FUCKING IDEA

HOW IMPOSSIBLE IT IS

TO LOOK LIKE THIS???

IT’S 100% FUCKING ILLOGICAL TO EXPECT MEN TO HAVE THIS RIPPED SIX-PACK ABS AND BE SKINNY AND HAVE PERFECT SKIN AND FACIAL COMPLEXION!  MEN ALSO EXPERIENCE BEING UNCOMFORTABLE WITH OUR BODIES ALL. THE. FUCKING. TIME.

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I’m bringing back the REAL post.  For those of you who care enough about how body image issues effect BOTH MEN AND WOMEN and how ignoring men with eating disorders or who have depression or deep insecurities because of their body image is not just ignorant, but it’s horribly insulting.  Making fun of this post means you are telling men who feel degraded that they should feel bad about themselves and that they don’t mean anything.  For everyone who reblogged the posts that made fun of this original post, shame on you.  I’m very disappointed.  Please share the original because this is an important issue.

Also raised to my attention is I neglected to add people of color to this post, I am sorry for my negligence so I shall add bonus images here of unrealistic expectations for men of every race, I chose Men’s Health Magazine because it’s extremely popular in telling men how to look:

[emile8]

No, guys, you don’t understand. I just got so relieved seeing this original post again that I nearly cried.

[nicthefanboy]

Bless the blog that brought the original back!

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Here’s the original post without some of you asshats changing the pictures

[ladywordfighter]

This is actually the VERY FIRST TIME I’ve seen the original post, which goes to show how quickly people turned it into a joke. I confess that I did laugh at some of the absurd replacement images in the other versions, and I feel guilty for that now because I, like many, was missing an extremely important message.

To all of my male followers who struggle with self-esteem: I support you too. Even though I’m really quiet and have a bad habit of going weeks or months without posting, I WILL be there for you if you come to me wanting to talk or just vent. That’s a promise.

[xxleondraxx]

Another thing to note that in all, ALL, of those pictures the men are actively flexing. And often such defenition for shoots is exaggerated by dehydration, airbrushing and photoshopping. That chiseled look isn’t a look you can acheive at rest without literal implants. Here are 2 examples of flexed vs relaxed:

And you know what? Dollars to doughnuts none of the above muscular looking guys are as strong as these men:

These are strongmen. These are the bodies of men that train for strength, not defenition. These guys can practically lift cars and drag trains.

So men of the world that get depressed about not looking like you just stepped off a magazine cover, relax. You don’t have to look like that. You are handsome, beautiful and fantastic the way you are.

[randomslasher]

To all my beautiful boys <3 Please read and heed. You’re amazing, and you don’t have to look any particular way. This goes for transboys too. You’re handsome no matter what!!!

[sea-anon]

This is so important!! Like my dad looks fat but he’s mostly super strong

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its posts like this that make me wanna keep on living and still feel a little good about myself

[smooththegoofyshark]

6 pack abs are out, viking/barbarian bodies are in

[heathersobsessers-deactivated20]

Guys, you’re beautiful or handsome, whichever you prefer no matter how you look and I’m so sorry that anyone ever told you or made you think that you weren’t.

[captjackdiscourse]

I actually struggle w this a lot…I’m really skinny and kind of treated like a baby for it, I guess because I’m also trans but I feel like I have to be big and buff to be heard yfm?

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Moon lover

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