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Random pieces of advice

The world is less scary and chaotic if you lie down on the floor

Noticing different kinds of light (stars, candles, sunshine or city lights) can bring back the feeling of wonder and hope

If you can’t shower, washing your hands and face will help you feel better and cleaner

If you can’t clean anything else, changing and/or washing your bedsheets can do wonders

Fresh air and being outside in general can help with depersonalisation

Spending time around animals can help you recognise what’s important and calm anxious thought cycles

Techniques for emotional regulation in children can really help adults too

Putting random asortment of food on a plate without creating an actual dish still counts as a meal

Drink something warm

Delete that app

Treat yourself as if you were a kid. Buy yourself a toy, play around, learn about cool new things

Fast paced life isn’t morally better and it’s not good for everyone

There is no good reason to keep yourself hungry

Singing to your full lung capacity can be a great way to let out built up emotion

Tension in the face can cause headaches. Try to massage your face regularly

Nothing is as important as your health

You are a whole person on your own, you don’t need someone else to be there to deserve love and attention. Your life can be full as long as you are present

You should cry things out whenever you feel like it

Slow walks are still movement and they do count

It’s never as bad as you imagine it

Try changing your toothpaste flavor if you hate brushing your teeth

Anything can be a stim toy - one of my favourites is a heavy dragon necklace that has a complicated surfice. It’s fun to touch and hold and it’s not even “actual” stim toy

Procrastinating and feeling bad about it is true waste of time. Learn to truly rest. It takes the same amount of time but it is useful

Sometimes you have to force yourself to do the things that make you feel better

Don’t trust the thoughts you have after not sleeping for a while

Friendships don’t have to be forever to mean something

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Some helpful maxims for life (and mental health)

Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to your best friend (no more self-deprecation allowed!)

Start as you mean to continue (as best/where you can)

Go where you're wanted

Guard and savor your joy

Do not set yourself on fire to keep others warm

Your best is whatever you can do in each moment, not everything you are or were or are theoretically capable of

Work to cultivate the life you want to live

Shame is a social emotion (so there's no point in feeling it in private)

It's only embarrassing if you're embarrassed

Cringe is dead, be free!

If beating yourself up worked, it would have worked by now

If you do not schedule time for maintenance, your equipment (body) will schedule it for you

Play and rest are both necessary to recharge your brain

Tell your friends you love them

It's not stupid if it keeps you alive

You are a child of the universe, as much as the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here

These are things I've found to be very helpful and/or true, anyway

Add your own? Let's make a collection

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dandelionsresilience

Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)

positivity-rocks

I hope July is kind to you. And I hope that this July, you are kind to yourself.

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identitty-dickruption

the thing is. knowing someone experiences hallucinations or trouble reading facial expressions or communication difficulties or any other symptom CAN help you to understand their behaviour and respond to it appropriately. but knowing someones diagnosis is never as helpful as it is to listen to them when they talk about how they can best be accommodated. and if “can you please speak slower” (for example) sounds like a ridiculous request from someone without a diagnosis and a reasonable one from someone with a diagnosis. well you’re the dick in that situation

chaumas-deactivated20240115

last night my partner held a somber little passover seder to show me what it’s about and when they got to the part where they were supposed to open the door for elijah they paused, frowned, and said “oh. huh. there is a clown.” and I looked out. and sure enough. there was a clown.

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chibird

I used to have those glow-in-the-dark stars in my bedroom, and honestly part of me is thinking of bringing them back so I can see where the light switch or door is in the dark. 😆

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chick-it-out

happy you are here 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜

yourbigsisnissi

You have to learn how to say no without you feeling like you’re being mean. Setting boundaries is how you see who does and doesn’t respect you, your time, or your emotional well-being. Anyone who sees your boundaries and thinks your being mean or tries to push that boundaries is not a person you owe your time or attention.

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adrasteiax

“When will you have a little pity for every soft thing that walks through the world, yourself included?”

— Mary Oliver, from Pen And Paper And A Breath Of Air in “Blue Pastures”

sproutlett

people will still love you despite it all!! they will love you with some pimples on your face. they will love you if your stomach is bloated. they will love you if your legs aren’t shaved. they will love you even if you stutter or if you’re weight has fluctuated or if you aren’t the best version of yourself. they will love you despite it all.