Curious Little Minx.

My name is irrelevant. I'm just a 20 something year old woman trying to discover who she is. TN. NSFW Unless I claim it, it's not me or mine. Over 18 only please.

[desires-of-a-dominant-man-deact]

BDSM Links And Resources

I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.

If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.

Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.

Websites:

Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.

Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.

DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.

Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.

Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.

Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.

Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.

The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)

Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)

Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)

How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)

Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)

Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)

Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)

BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)

What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)

An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)

Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)

Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)

Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)

Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

[masterpandy]

Great list! Please note that collarme is now collarspace.com - it changed a couple of years ago due to a falling out of the site owners.

[troykingauthor-deactivated20181]

Ring gag and tongue depressor in one lethal combination. Go ahead, stick anything in her mouth, she can’t stop you.

[grosslyabnormal]

[deleted-removed-inactive-deacti]

A wonderful picture, and strolling is healthy indeed. :)

[theblackomen-deactivated2020012]

[vaginalchastity]

How every pussy in the world should be, without exception.

[eveadams01]

“Yes there are thinner ones on the market but the point of it is to remind you that it’s there. That your unable to touch yourself. So a wide uncomfortable one is the way to go”

“Is it really necessary?”

“Is it…… you know it is. You lived a life of sin before me. With your slutty behaviour and your wanton ways”

“I hate it when you say I was slutty.”

“You agreed that you used to…… ‘masturbate’ daily. I love you baby but you were a slut. Touching yourself for nothing but pleasure, uncontrollably orgasming every day. It pains me to think about. But with this. And a little sacrifice you can redeem yourself. You did say you wanted this”

“I do. Well I want you to respect me”

“I do. I respect your willingness to be good. To be better. To be pure. To wear the belt. I want you to respect yourself.”

“I understand. But now we are married… what about sex? I mean it’s my responsibility to make sure my husband is satisfied isn’t it? You said that it was my role now”

“Yes. Yes that’s right. Don’t worry. There is a hole in the back.”

“The back?”

“Yes over your sphincter.”

“My….. what? My ass?”

“Language. Yes. I have bought some plugs to help you open for me. I know I know you’re going to balk at the idea but it’s the way forward and I’m not going to argue about it. Your job is to keep me sexually satisfied and until I can be reassured that your slutty ways have been rectified this is how we will have sex. Ok?”

“Ok. I’m sorry. You’re right. What’s the little ball thing for?”

“That slides inside your pussy. Let’s get it in and lock you up”

“Ok. But what does it do?”

“It’s for me. Without access to your pussy you may find that your sex drive rises at first. Making you crazy with arousal. But over time it may dip. You may lose interest in sex without any stimulation. This egg is remote activated. I can turn it on and it will vibrate turning you on, making you want sex. So basically I can turn you on when ever I am horny. I will leave it on until you are aroused enough to make love to me either with your mouth or with sex.”

“Oh. That’s clever.”

“Yes. But don’t worry. I will turn it off before you reach an orgasm. I promised you I would help you beat these sinful wanton ways and I mean it. No matter how horny you get. No matter how much you beg. I am dedicated to helping you be better. A wifes duty is to prove sexual pleasure not demand it herself.”

“I understand. I want to be a good wife.”

“Not a slut?”

“Oh please I hate that”

“You hate being thought of as a whorish slut who masturbates for her own selfish pleasure?”

“Yes of course please stop saying it.”

“It’s important to talk about. The more you hate it the more you’ll want to be good. I am just helping you to stop being a slut.”

“I find it hard to hear, it’s embarrassing and I want to be a good wife. Please. Help me be a good wife”

“I will. Let’s begin the stretching of your new pleasure hole. My fingers first. I want to be the first thing inside you. Then the plug. And soon we will be enjoying a full and satisfying sex life as I orgasm inside you over and over every day. Me satisfied. And you my chaste good good girl”

[sklaven-markt]

[degradeableslut]

Nice device

[femsubdenial]

“… and speaking of ‘training not punishment’, I think I’ve figured out a way to help you with your gag reflex even though you can’t stop yourself from squirming away when we practice. After each session, you will remember to thank me. Understood?”

[onelittlekingdom]

Our Current Structure

* I wake her up almost every morning. She gets snoozes if she asks. (She always asks) 

* When she sleeps away, I pick her panties from what she has given me as a selection the night before. When she sleeps with me, I reach into her bag and pick one. 

* Every morning she wakes elsewhere, I get devotional pics of her wearing the panties I’ve chosen for her that day.

* When she sleeps with me, I pack her morning bowl.

*When she sleeps with me, I pack her food to take to work. 

* When she gets morning wake up calls, the final call ends with me telling her, “boots on the ground little soldier”. 

* When she spends the night, we share a cigarette before we part to head to work. 

* She gets medicine reminders at 9am and 9pm every day. They are always, “Take your medicine little girl.”, to which her response is always, “Thank you Daddy.”

* Whenever we leave each other I text her emojis within minutes to remind her that though she has gone, she is still being thought of. 

* In eating food three times daily, she reports her food intake with me throughout the day. 

* Each day she hits all the beats in her structure, she earns a sticker at the end of the day. 

JD

[2kinkie]

Disobedient bitches should always be made to sob standing up!☺

[fuckiamsexedout-again]

Taking a shower with a locked chastity belt. Poor Sub cant touch her tits or pussy for a little while longer.

———— from http://fuckiamsexedout-again.tumblr.com/archive

[eveadams01]

THE ONE (part three)

Part one and two found here

https://eveadams01.tumblr.com/post/169361688716/the-one-pt-2-part-1

“I can’t wait to get all this off in a few weeks”

“Off?”

“Yes when we go on our first date. Can you believe I’ve been in this chastity belt for nearly 21 months! That’s nearly two years.”

“Yes it’s been a long time since you’ve been able to touch yourself. Do you miss it?”

“Yes! Very much. When you have girls over and I hear you having sex, hearing her orgasm, god I miss orgasms.”

“But you’ve managed without them for so long. Surely you’re accustomed now”

“It’s comes and goes. Sometimes it’s unbearable and other times I don’t think about it”

“Huh…. and during the unbearable times what gets you through?”

“Knowing it’s for you. Knowing my sacrifice is all so we can be together. So that I can be pure for you the way you deserve me to be”

“You have no idea how good that feels to hear. I know we are only two weeks away from our first date. But you’re so close to making two years. That would be such a goal to achieve. Don’t you think?”

“You want to add another three months? But it was only meant to be a year.”

“I know. And I am so so proud of you. Just think on the day we get married I will be able to look at you and say wow she really understands my needs. She knows how to please me and put me first. Her devotion to me is second to none. You want me to feel like that about you don’t you?”

“Oh yes yes I do. Yes three more months is ok. Let’s make it to two years. I can’t wait to be your wife.”

“Well lets make it to two years and then we can go on our first date as a couple.”

“I’m so excited.”

“Me too. I wonder how many dates we will go on before I decide we are ready to kiss.”

“We won’t kiss on our first date?”

“Of course not. You’re not that kind of girl. We need to take this slow. I won’t rush you into anything”

“But we’ve lived together now for nearly a year, you’ve seen me naked when you watch me shower without the belt. You watch me pee and use the bathroom. I am not allowed out or to wear any clothes. I’m always naked around you apart from the belts and cuffs and chains”

“I know. And you have no idea how much it turns me on. Seeing your naked flesh all day. Seeing your sex hidden away unreachable even to you. All sexual pleasure forbidden. Watching you all the time, not allowing you any privacy. Especially with the cameras fitted.”

“Cameras?”

“Yes. I fitted cameras in every room so I can watch you wherever I am. To keep you safe”

“Oh. And all that turns you on?”

“Like you wouldn’t believe. In fact…. no…. no… you wouldn’t agree”

“Agree? To what?”

“Well you’re so used to the belts and cuffs now, you never see your friends anymore, you don’t leave the house, you don’t need orgasms any more and it all makes me so happy I just thought….”

“Go on.”

“Well even once we are dating. I don’t want things to change”

“You… want me to keep them on?”

“I do. Very much. In fact I think I’d like you in them forever.”

“Forever? But what about our life together?”

“We would have one. Like this. You’d belong to me. My stay at home wife. But you’d be pure. Forever. No orgasms. No vaginal penetration. I’d have a orgasm free Virgin wife.”

“But…. what about sex?”

“You have a mouth. And when you’re ready you have an ass. Both would satisfy me”

“You wouldn’t miss pussy sex?”

“You know I don’t think I would. With proper training you could learn to take me into your throat and deep up your ass and I would be a very very happy man.”

“But how would I be able to cum?”

“You’ve lived without orgasm for nearly two years. You don’t need to cum any more. And I much pr get girls who don’t cum. You see I wanted you chaste for a year before we went on a date because I believed you were the one. My one. My forever one. And I really thought that you could be what I have been searching for. Are you? You have three more months to think about it. Then you can decide. I will either remove the belt and you can move out and we will never see each other again. Or keep it on, stay, go on dates and eventually build up to be mine forever. Be my wife. My pure virgin chaste wife. Cooking and cleaning our home, serving me, and making me happy. Stay chaste or leave”

“I don’t need to think about it. The answer is yes. I want to be yours. It will be hard. But Please don’t leave me”

“As long as you always do as I tell you, I never will. Now let’s get these little locks on all your cuffs. They are there for good now”

“Ok.”

“Then we will have a good and happy life. So there’s no rush for the first kiss or the first touch. Is there?”

“No I guess not.”

“The longer you wait the more sure I am that you’re THE ONE!. Good girl”

[theblackomen-deactivated2020012]

[vaginalchastity]

How every pussy in the world should be, without exception.

[eveadams01]

“Yes there are thinner ones on the market but the point of it is to remind you that it’s there. That your unable to touch yourself. So a wide uncomfortable one is the way to go”

“Is it really necessary?”

“Is it…… you know it is. You lived a life of sin before me. With your slutty behaviour and your wanton ways”

“I hate it when you say I was slutty.”

“You agreed that you used to…… ‘masturbate’ daily. I love you baby but you were a slut. Touching yourself for nothing but pleasure, uncontrollably orgasming every day. It pains me to think about. But with this. And a little sacrifice you can redeem yourself. You did say you wanted this”

“I do. Well I want you to respect me”

“I do. I respect your willingness to be good. To be better. To be pure. To wear the belt. I want you to respect yourself.”

“I understand. But now we are married… what about sex? I mean it’s my responsibility to make sure my husband is satisfied isn’t it? You said that it was my role now”

“Yes. Yes that’s right. Don’t worry. There is a hole in the back.”

“The back?”

“Yes over your sphincter.”

“My….. what? My ass?”

“Language. Yes. I have bought some plugs to help you open for me. I know I know you’re going to balk at the idea but it’s the way forward and I’m not going to argue about it. Your job is to keep me sexually satisfied and until I can be reassured that your slutty ways have been rectified this is how we will have sex. Ok?”

“Ok. I’m sorry. You’re right. What’s the little ball thing for?”

“That slides inside your pussy. Let’s get it in and lock you up”

“Ok. But what does it do?”

“It’s for me. Without access to your pussy you may find that your sex drive rises at first. Making you crazy with arousal. But over time it may dip. You may lose interest in sex without any stimulation. This egg is remote activated. I can turn it on and it will vibrate turning you on, making you want sex. So basically I can turn you on when ever I am horny. I will leave it on until you are aroused enough to make love to me either with your mouth or with sex.”

“Oh. That’s clever.”

“Yes. But don’t worry. I will turn it off before you reach an orgasm. I promised you I would help you beat these sinful wanton ways and I mean it. No matter how horny you get. No matter how much you beg. I am dedicated to helping you be better. A wifes duty is to prove sexual pleasure not demand it herself.”

“I understand. I want to be a good wife.”

“Not a slut?”

“Oh please I hate that”

“You hate being thought of as a whorish slut who masturbates for her own selfish pleasure?”

“Yes of course please stop saying it.”

“It’s important to talk about. The more you hate it the more you’ll want to be good. I am just helping you to stop being a slut.”

“I find it hard to hear, it’s embarrassing and I want to be a good wife. Please. Help me be a good wife”

“I will. Let’s begin the stretching of your new pleasure hole. My fingers first. I want to be the first thing inside you. Then the plug. And soon we will be enjoying a full and satisfying sex life as I orgasm inside you over and over every day. Me satisfied. And you my chaste good good girl”

[thesecretforest]

Cute relationship idea

you’re a stupid girl who is bad at life, so i control everything in it and make all of your decisions for you. you appreciate it and happily do exactly as you’re told, always.

[fuckedup-sadist]

Dumb little babies shouldn’t be left to choose by themselves anyway.

[dominicthadom]

[cruel--gentleman]

I’m sick and tired of listening to you bitch, whenever I stuff my unlubed cock in your ass, slut. I don’t give a shit if it hurts. Maybe these piss-soaked panties will get you to shut the fuck up. 

[italianbikerdom]

[keira-cd-dl]

[helplesslyregressed]

Time-out should really be a time to re-focus and calm down, not a punishment.

So my wee girl is asked to sit and watch the crotch of her diaper until it changes color, a ritual that helps her calm and takes her mind off the reason she was naughty.

Then the punishment starts.

[mrteddyandthepolarbearprincess]

[helplesslyregressed]

Don’t cry, little one.  I’m sure Mommy will feel like changing your diaper instead of adding another layer tomorrow … or maybe the next day.  Cheer up, duck, and do your nighttime rubbies – no one ever died of diaper rash!

(artist credit?)

[naughty-schoolgirls-zone]

[helplesslyregressed]

At her new school, straight-A students are allowed to pull their panties up.

B students wear them at their thighs.

C students wear them at their knees.

D students wear them around their ankles.

F students can be hard to tell from A students until they bend over, since you don’t see panties below the hem of their skirts, but soon you’ll notice the uncomfortable way an F student walks …

And of course, girls who fail to keep their panties at the correct level are subject to punishments inflicted on both their bottoms and their GPAs.

[sircane]

[helplesslyregressed]

Corner time will continue until you can give Mama a satisfactory list of every single thing you’ve done wrong this week!

[helplesslyregressed]

If you have something to say about the way you’re disciplined, young lady, you just come right out and say it.  Right now.

Make sure you use good elocution, too, so it comes out clearly – and so that your teeth and tongue are moving plenty on your soap bar.  If you find you can’t make yourself understood, well, then, that’ll be a few more finishing-school lessons for you.