may i please comfort headcanons for Giselle Gewelle, Tatsuki Arisawa, and Nanao Ise? like, how do they ask for comfort and what things comfort them most?
Ah I had been waiting for someone to request Giselle! Good choices, all of them. I feel like they’re three different flavors of “has no clue how to ask for help”, to be honest.
While she definitely puts on a front of being cute and harmless, she hides when she has actual problems. Looking vulnerable is one thing, but actually being vulnerable? There’s no way. And while she is surrounded by the other female quincies most of the time, they’re not exactly the type that make her want to spill all her problems.
You’ll have to coax it out of her. Make yourself someone she can trust and let her guard down around. Handle her gently, but not with kid gloves. Make her feel like she’s safe letting herself be vulnerable around you. Eventually, she’ll come around.
She still won’t ask directly though. She’ll probably be euphemistic about how she’s feeling, or she might ask for physical affection without explaining why.
On that note, physical affection is definitely one of the things she seeks out to quell the bad feelings. Lots of hugs and cuddles, but also even just being held or being able to feel you there helps.
If you somehow do manage to break down her defenses, she may be receptive to talking - but definitely not before. It’s a relief to her to have someone she can actually tell about her problems without having to worry about them hurting her or brushing her off.
Also definitely struggles with being open about having a hard time. She sees herself as having to be strong for others, and actually showing that she has problems is showing weakness and means they can’t rely on her.
She may cover what’s really going on with being more snippy and irritable with people. Ultimately what they’re doing is never what’s really bothering her, but she can’t admit that.
You’ll have to talk it out of her. She might try her best to deflect or insist she’s fine, but eventually she’ll give in and tell you what’s wrong.
Hug her. Do it. She’ll probably cry on your shoulder, but she didn’t realize just how badly she needed that hug.
Talking it out with her and giving her the affection she needs will calm her down a lot. She’ll genuinely thank you for it too.
Make sure she knows she doesn’t have to be strong all the time. Sometimes, you can be strong for her instead.
Is used to bottling up her problems, as a rule. She just doesn’t have time to deal with them, nor does she have anyone she trusts enough to let them out to - with the exception of you, but it’s still a learning process for her to open up.
As a result, she’s very high strung. Like Tatsuki above, she’s likely to get snippy with people because she just can’t express what the real problem is.
She can be reasoned with, though. Sit her down and talk with her. She’ll make a token effort to deny and insist she’s fine, but really she does want to be able to let it out.
Then, be ready to listen. She probably knows what can or can’t be done about it and might not really need advice, but she really needs to be heard and know she doesn’t have to shoulder this alone.
Also, make her some tea. Not only is it a nice gesture, but because it’s normally something she does, it’s pretty meaningful. Like you’re taking some of the burden off her shoulders and taking care of her for once.
In short, make her comfortable and offer her a listening ear and it will go a long way. She has a lot of stress on her shoulders, and she’ll be so thankful if you can ease it.
