Insomnia Given Focus

[nosongunsung11]

collection of posts for a very specific dynamic

[mscheckacheck]

Height gap

[asksloyxp]

Maybe if I just work harder, this empty cup will pour again

[shinyrock6498]

Maybe the cup needs a bit of time to rest and refill?

[asksloyxp]

Maybe the cup needs to lock the fuck in???

[zanqii]

Doodle - remember to recharge

[zanqii]

Belle wants her fic

[subspaceskater]

stelle

[fairycosmos]

your problem is you think if you communicate with clarity and earnestness that people will actually understand you

[catbritta]

i love listening to song on repeat!!!!! reblog if you love listening to song on repeat!!!!!!!!!

[catbritta]

i love listening to song on repeat!!!!! reblog if you love listening to song on repeat!!!!!!!!!

[drenched-in-sunlight]

let’s hang out with mama

[leari]

if I could write you a song and make you fall in loooove

[muuutant]

You ever just realize how lucky you are that you did that weird thing that led to you being friends with the people you are friends with?

[remotetrash]

I drew Robert as a woman so my lesbian friend could understand the hype

Started out as a joke. Accidentally locked in. Enjoy!

Stupid ref imagine under the cut

Lmfao

[annspaghetti]

Be gay, do crimes ~ <3

[annspaghetti]

Be gay, do crimes ~ <3

[whatbigotspost]

We would be in a significantly better place as a people if “old” and “fat” could be neutral descriptions of fact and not seen as insults by default.

[whatbigotspost]

Just in case I need to say it, thin/young people can and should feel free to reblog this. That’s kinda my point.

[consortofsassgard]

I agree with this, and also would like to add that this makes “she’s not old”/“he’s not fat” into neutral corrections.

Like nowadays if I’m like “She’s forty, she’s not ‘old’,” people think I’m being defensive or feeling offended on her behalf or something. And it’s like. No! “Old” is a neutral or even a positive label, but a forty-year-old does not fit under that label. She’s middle-aged. If you’re a lot younger you can affectionately call her an old lady, the way freshmen called me an old man when I was 22 (fair enough!), but that’s goofing around. If we’re celebrating old ladies in media let’s spotlight some actual old folks, like the Golden Girls and Maggie Smith and… okay, we need more old lady folks, but you get the idea.

Meanwhile there’s nothing wrong with being fat, but also there’s definitely a skewed perception people have of what it means to be “fat” or what kinds of body types count as “fat”. That guy isn’t fat — he’s just not currently flexing his abs! This other guy actually has an average body shape. Nicola Coughlin (sp?) legitimately is not fat, and while I’m really glad fat people feel represented/seen by her performance, it would also be good to have more actual fat actresses playing romantic leads in visual media.

Anyway, it would be great if we could all see these as value-neutral terms, and that would also make it easier to have these conversations about “okay yes this person is perceived as old/fat/whatnot, but they are not actually older/fatter than average; the line is actually over here”

[whatbigotspost]

I totally understand your points and the overall sentiment. And I’m not mad you added it. But it’s not really in line w/ my original vision in bringing this up.

So to be clear, I’m 41 and I’m a “mid fat” (US size 18/20) and I wrote this because people get mad when I call myself fat or old.

Too many people think that because I’m on the “borderline” of both of those things, it’s better to err on NOT calling me old or NOT calling me fat, and that choice is steeped in the exact assumption I am speaking out against: it’s not bad to be fat or old. So why would it be bad if I call myself those things?

From where I’m coming, I’ve earned every one of those years of wisdom and growth. I WANT a 25 year old to think I’m “old” because that means I’m much more grown than them, as I should be.

And my whole life my body has been policed for being too much, too fat, etc. I’ve been mocked, discriminated against, and abused in medical settings. I’d rather align w/ fatness as a statement of my truth than to try to cling desperately to the marginal privilege I have over folks who are super fat. I feel closer aligned to their experience than I do a thin or “”“"normal”“”“ size.

SO all that to say: what you’re suggesting isn’t bad. To an 80 year old I’m not "old” I’m middle aged, but if I come out and own oldness and fatness with pride and someone tries to relabel that and gloss over my experience in process, we have a problem. Ya know?

[whatbigotspost]

We would be in a significantly better place as a people if “old” and “fat” could be neutral descriptions of fact and not seen as insults by default.

[whatbigotspost]

Just in case I need to say it, thin/young people can and should feel free to reblog this. That’s kinda my point.

[consortofsassgard]

I agree with this, and also would like to add that this makes “she’s not old”/“he’s not fat” into neutral corrections.

Like nowadays if I’m like “She’s forty, she’s not ‘old’,” people think I’m being defensive or feeling offended on her behalf or something. And it’s like. No! “Old” is a neutral or even a positive label, but a forty-year-old does not fit under that label. She’s middle-aged. If you’re a lot younger you can affectionately call her an old lady, the way freshmen called me an old man when I was 22 (fair enough!), but that’s goofing around. If we’re celebrating old ladies in media let’s spotlight some actual old folks, like the Golden Girls and Maggie Smith and… okay, we need more old lady folks, but you get the idea.

Meanwhile there’s nothing wrong with being fat, but also there’s definitely a skewed perception people have of what it means to be “fat” or what kinds of body types count as “fat”. That guy isn’t fat — he’s just not currently flexing his abs! This other guy actually has an average body shape. Nicola Coughlin (sp?) legitimately is not fat, and while I’m really glad fat people feel represented/seen by her performance, it would also be good to have more actual fat actresses playing romantic leads in visual media.

Anyway, it would be great if we could all see these as value-neutral terms, and that would also make it easier to have these conversations about “okay yes this person is perceived as old/fat/whatnot, but they are not actually older/fatter than average; the line is actually over here”

[whatbigotspost]

I totally understand your points and the overall sentiment. And I’m not mad you added it. But it’s not really in line w/ my original vision in bringing this up.

So to be clear, I’m 41 and I’m a “mid fat” (US size 18/20) and I wrote this because people get mad when I call myself fat or old.

Too many people think that because I’m on the “borderline” of both of those things, it’s better to err on NOT calling me old or NOT calling me fat, and that choice is steeped in the exact assumption I am speaking out against: it’s not bad to be fat or old. So why would it be bad if I call myself those things?

From where I’m coming, I’ve earned every one of those years of wisdom and growth. I WANT a 25 year old to think I’m “old” because that means I’m much more grown than them, as I should be.

And my whole life my body has been policed for being too much, too fat, etc. I’ve been mocked, discriminated against, and abused in medical settings. I’d rather align w/ fatness as a statement of my truth than to try to cling desperately to the marginal privilege I have over folks who are super fat. I feel closer aligned to their experience than I do a thin or “”“"normal”“”“ size.

SO all that to say: what you’re suggesting isn’t bad. To an 80 year old I’m not "old” I’m middle aged, but if I come out and own oldness and fatness with pride and someone tries to relabel that and gloss over my experience in process, we have a problem. Ya know?