Gralphael

They/Them | Anti xenosatanism | No DNI, I block freely

[ex-radqueer-confessions]

I’ve been trying to find out what are really harmless TransIDs, but I haven’t been convinced yet.

My line is if it hurts anyone unconsensually. Like transblueeyes isn't hurting anyone with blue eyes. But transrace is idealizing and almost always stereotyping the race they believe they should be.

My issue personally is not transIDs, but the transitioning, since not all transID users transition. Atypical dysphoria is a real thing, that doesn't get talked about enough and sometimes identifying can help but transitioning is harmful.

[domisakura]

happy pride month everyone 🏳️‍🌈

friendly reminder that the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for asexual, aromantic and agender, NOT ally!

[dogpuppy]

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

--{-T}{e --{-QYick --{-Brown --{-Fox --{-JYmps --{-Over --{-T}{e --{-Lazy dog-}--

[thisisparamisia]

I'm a trans person who's also a pedophile. I'm scared that being open about the latter will hurt other trans people, even if I've mostly accepted it in myself. It sucks!

The fear of people finding out is a result of paraqueermisia.

The stereotype of all trans people being child predators (while misusing the term "pedophile") has done so much harm to trans people, minor-attracted paraphiles, and especially those who are both.

Not all trans people are pedophiles, and pedophilia =/= child predator [link.] Most child predators are not pedophiles, the same way that most men who rape men are heterosexual. [link.]

I wish more people were willing to learn this, but even so-called trans allies demonize trans people the *second* they find out that they're pedophiles.

[thisisparamisia]

not paramisia but do u have any resources for trying to tell the difference between (insert paraphilia here) and para-related OCD? ive been trying to figure out if im a zoo for forever, long before i even knew i have OCD, and im really at a loss at this point... ive gotten to a place where i no longer feel ashamed of it, ive found safe outlets especially through alterhumanity, i more just want to Know yknow. thanks for running this blog :)

Honestly it's a bit hard to differentiate them, especially when it's a non-sexual paraphilia, but I'll give you some of the more general information.

With paraphilic OCD on its own, there is no desire. It's all just intrusive thoughts and distress over those thoughts. There isn't any desire to explore it, they want nothing to do with it. There might be arousal non-concordance (ie; unwanted wetness or erections), but it doesn't co-exist with any desire.

For paraphiles who experience internalized shame, desire is present alongside that distress. There is a desire, but the person feels distress over that desire, and either attempt to internalize it or feel guilty while indulging.

For paraphiles with attraction/arousal non-concordance, the person experiences distress towards the thing they are attracted to or aroused by, but not necessarily by the status of being a paraphile.

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Let me use an example here with dogs.

Zoophilic OCD: Person A is paranoid about being a zoophile. This paranoia causes sexual thoughts about dogs to pop into their mind, which only reinforces their distress, causing a cycle. Their body may have an unwanted response (arousal non-concordance) to it, but there is no internalized feelings of longing, and the physical response is purely from paranoia.

Zoophile with internalized shame: Person B experiences all of the same cycle of distress as person A. However, person A does have internalized feelings of longing.

Arousal non-concordant zoophile: Person C experiences terror or repulsion of dogs. However, person C keeps experiencing attraction or arousal towards dogs, which causes distress. They may not care about actually being a zoophile, they just wish they'd stop having these thoughts/feelings about dogs specifically because of their terror/repulsion towards them (ie; they might think "if I am a zoophile, I'd rather be a zoophile for [insert animal here], because at least I'm not afraid of/disgusted by that animal.")

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Overlaps between person B & C can exist - such as a person who has internalized shame about their paraphile status and also has arousal non-concordance simultaneously.

For example C, sometimes arousal non-concordant paraphiles experience obsessive-compulsive features, and thus the only difference between example A and example C is that people in example A there is no yearning, and in example C there is yearning - they just dislike it.

And an additional note is that people with internalized shame may also develop (or just coincidentally have) moral OCD, and if they're under the impression that their paraphilia makes them a bad person, then that could cause an overlap between A & B too.

In the end, it all comes down to "well, what are your underlying feelings about this thing?"

The questions to ask yourself are:

-Do you experience any actual desire, or just paranoia (which may sometimes cause a physical arousal response)?

-Does the OCD center purely around paraphilia (paraphilic OCD), or do you have OCD about morals in general (moral OCD)?

-Does your paraphilia have obsessive compulsive tendencies (arousal non-concordance), or are you just ashamed?

[mars-coining]

Aegolove

(or Autochorislove)

Aegolove: Someone who only enjoys love when they themself are not involved. They may enjoy love theoretically, how it is presented in fiction, or have loving fantasies without actually wanting to experience them in real life.

@radiomogai

@tophats2o I wish I had an emoticon that was :P + :3

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

IF(N) INFP so/sp4w5-sp/sx7w8-sp/sx9w8 IEI ELVF /R/lU(E)[I] Phleg-Chol

IF(S) INFP sp/so4w3-sp/so6w7-sp/so9w1 EII EVFL2342 RXUAN Phleg-Mel

IF(S) INFP sp/so4w5-16 EII EVFL RLOAI Mel dom

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

DELTARUNE: SOULblazer is lowkey platonic KriSOUL media due to truce stuffs

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

There's more but can you see??

It's KriSOUL here!

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

DELTARUNE: SOULblazer is lowkey platonic KriSOUL media due to truce stuffs

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

They/It 🧡💛🤍🩵💙 🩷💛💙

They/Them 🧡💛🤍🩵💙 ❤️🧡🤍🩷❤️

Pangenderflux Pan Aroace

Transfem Nonbinary Lesbian Aroace

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

Never understand how Kris x Reader is popular but Kris x SOUL isn't

[allnightsong2]

"America first!" He shouts at his iPhone as he eats a banana from the Dominican Republic.

"America First!" Proclaims the bumper sticker printed in China there on the back window of his Subaru.

"America first!" He says as he stands in shoes made in China wearing jeans made in Vietnam, a shirt made in Bangladesh, underwear made in Ghana and a MAGA pin made in Guatemala. He's not rich. He cannot afford to pay big money on everyday items. That will change when all the manufacturing jobs come bsck to the US, he tells himself as he books a vacation in Cabo San Lucas.

"America first!" He says to himself as he sneers at the videos of people protesting ICE raids. "Love it or leave it!" He says out loud as he is watching bleeding heart liberals condemning the loss of 'rights'. "These freeloaders have to go!" He says as women and children are arrested. "It's because of people like this that my brother's social security disability has been cut!." People who deserve it don't receive it. How can his brother be expected to work? Sure he's only forty-two, but he's obese, has diabetes, and high blood pressure! He's an American dammit! His brother has a RIGHT to that disability!

He doesn't trust doctors and scientists and professors. Over-educsted effete soyboy libtards and bull dyke bitches trying to tell HIM how things are? He doesn't trust anybody claiming to be an expert, he tells himself as he reads the latest QAnon Deep State thread. The man posting that was obviously telling the truth. The man worked for the government for thirteen months. Until he saw how deep the corruption in the highest layers of government went.

"I don't need experts anyhow. I have common sense!" He congratulates himself as he enters his bank information to spend $79 for a 24k gold plated $5 commemorative coin (Sure to increase in value! Not legal tender) to show his support for a billionaire. "Promises made, promisss kept!" He tells himself and ignores a phone call from his brother-in-law. He doesn't need to hear about how rough it is on the farm what with the tariffs and cuts to subsidies and labor shortage. Small problems for small people.

"People don't appreciate that this is the greatest country on earth! He says and then curses at the email telling him that he owes $14,500 for his hernia operation because he hadn't gotten three pre-approvals beforehand. "Goddamn commie insurance bastards!" He snarls "Fucking doctors! Think they deserve all that money! They think they're so fucking smart!"

"I'm as smart as them!" He says to his smart fridge (Assembled in Costa Rica, unit includes at least 17% components sourced in the USA) as he gets out his all natural male enhancement supplement. He hasn't seen the results yet but it's only been three weeks. Maybe the warm water he drinks each night so that he can lose thirty-seven pounds of fat in his sleep is washing it out. Or maybe the diarrhea he's been having lately (probably because of contaminated Mexican lettuce or something) is fucking up the program. When that supplement kicks in and his penis grows by at least six inches and he has the stamina (to please any woman, all night, guaranteed!) he'll call up the ex-wife. Send her a dick pic, let her see what she's missing out on by being such a bitch.

He puts on his lenslesa reading glasses to read the label on the supplement bottle but the print is so damn small! He doesn't have the promised better than 20/20 visiom but he forgets to use the glasses sometimes. That's probably why they haven't worked yet.

Everything is fucked up because the country caters to minorities and perverts and fucking immigrants who have no business coming here. Liberal needed them as voters, because any intelligent American knew that liberals were destroying America's greatness. His grandad had had a good damn job working 12 hour shifts in a textile mill until some Liberal Commie fucking union activists had come along demanding better pay and working conditions. Because of those bastards his grandad had been out of work for three years. Nana Ruth had had to pick up weekend work and any overtime she could just to keep things afloat after the mill shut down.

His dad had always told him that you had to keep the blacks in their place. Let em know where they stood. He said that you let blacks or Mexicans move into your neighborhood, that neighborhood would go straight to Hell. Well, America was HIS neighborhood and it certainly was going to Hell. Crawling with so many Mexicans that his favorite restaurant, Dos Hermanos, was too crowded with them on Fridays for him to tolerate. And the blacks bitching about the police. Law abiding citizens who complied never had a problem. Criminals got what they asked for. Innocent black men? If they were innocent then why were they being stopped by the police?

This was a white and Christian country but you'd hardly know it. He doesn't go to church himself becausw fuck is it boring, but he wears a crucifx. He's a goddamn Christian! Things will get better now though. The right man is in the White Houss. He's gonna put White people, white MEN, back in the driver's seat.

Yeah. No more of these smug and arrogant bitches judging HIM. No more of these stuck-up cunts calling him a crude and obnoxious creep. Trying to claim complimenting a woman's ass was sexual harassment. He was supposed to respect them when they showed no respect to him? They dressed like sluts and then screamed rape when you looked at what they had on display.

Women were skanks. Teases. They could get away with it now. That was bullshit. Fags had it easy. Two giys? Queers were still guys. Guys always want it. They never say no. He looks around his condo. Decorated in proper alpha masculine style. He's been on 4chan repeatedly. To see if he's missing something. Something must be wrong because it doesn't feel right. It doesn't feel like...home.

Strange how happiness feels so empty and lonely.

It's probably because he hasn't found that proper true woman. That first conquest to vindicate his efforts. It doesn't matter. Not really. He has everything he needs. Everything. He's happy. He must be. He must be. He's followed the checklist. Every box marked. That means happiness.

[white-trash-apollo]

refer to yourself in the plural. refer to yourself as we and us. sound ominous enough to make people wonder if youre just an ancient being playing human

[imsotiredwiththisapp]

We're tried and that's so cool!!

[alicelufenia]

"It's called Mancountry because there's a man here" has got to be the strongest evidence of the fandom's willfull ignorance of Kris Dreemurr's character, and the idea of transfem enbys in general

You're telling me the place that looks like a retro Game Boy game, where the first thing you see is Kris now having changed to their Light World appearance wearing the striped shirt that is Toby Fox's visual language for childhood and age regression, and the first inhabitants are all artifacts of Kris's childhood, that knew them when they were smaller (ie. younger), with slogans around like "It's a Man's World" and "This is a World Heritage Site" and "Non-men are a-ok too" and they colored in the 7 Flying Aces from a photocopied playing card and "Maybe the pink Ace was suspicious", where the man gives you an egg and says "There's no shame in an egg"—is called "Mancountry" because of the Forgotten Man, and no other reasons?

[thecommunityoftrustworthysinks]

in an effort to better explain separately what i meant before:

feminism didn’t include trans people for like, decades, right? it STILL doesn’t always, and wider society absolutely doesn’t adhere to trans friendly or feminist standards. recently, trans inclusion has been a lot better in places.

the problem is that model is still based on the decades where it only accounted for “man” or “woman” with little to no nuance. the model of early feminism at its most basic was this:

so feminism addresses the oppression of women through things like sexual assault, murder, forced pregnancy, objectification, abuse, and so on—all things we’re familiar with, and many of which happen to trans women, and worse than to cis women. that’s one major assertion of trans feminism: trans women and cis women share the experience of being a woman, and have more in common than most cis people think. (in ways beyond oppression too of course). so moving forward in trans feminism, integrating that concept is conceptually relatively easy. women are harmed by the patriarchy. that’s the basic concept of feminism. that’s something trans and cis women share. so you get some sorta thing that looks like this:

but what happens is then much of the conclusions that get drawn from these models reflect that. AND when you try to work in nonbinary people it gets even worse. we’ve seen that with these bastardizations of language trying to articulate this concept:

and all the discourse about who can be lesbians in relation to men or not, and trying to determine where nonbinary people fall in anything, and then a lot of trans men went “wait, actually most of these oppressive forces against women also affect us, but we’re not women, so we don’t fit in this image” as notably in ‘non-men’ which if memory serves is the timeline about people started talking about anti trans masculinity as a concept. and i think that for a lot of people, there’s a strong resistance to working towards altering their model. not always even out of malice, but just because it’s simpler than something like this, which more reflects reality:

you have to be *both* male *and* cis to unlock the benefits of the patriarchy. if you don’t have both of those, then you’re something inferior. don’t get distracted by it being called the patriarchy, because the people who coined that were not thinking of trans people at all. and therein lies the problem, because the very language and structure of feminism is built out of that basic man vs woman model, populated by primarily cisgender experiences. disentangling that and figuring out new theory and understanding is difficult, will be difficult—but that’s never not been the case with such things. we’re learning as we go.

so for a lot of transmasculine people like me see the primary discussions in transfeminism frequently communicating “women, both cis and trans, face danger from men” as the core point of transfeminist understandings, we’re telling you that doesn’t have the full picture. we are not the “men” that are the danger. and we are *also* in danger. we’re not telling you we have it worse than women, we’re not telling you cis men are oppressed. we’re telling you that your *model of how gender hierarchy and oppression work is flawed.* we’re saying, this doesn’t reflect reality, here are reasons why from my own life. the basis is the ask: “i don’t want to be misgendered to talk about my oppression, but current models only allow my oppression to happen to women, which i am not. i also don’t want to be always aligned with the group of people that enforce the system that oppresses me.” your transfeminism has to allow for trans men. you have to figure that out. because you cannot support trans people if you’re neglecting trans masculine people. “man” is not as simple and straightforward a gender or social position as you think. expand your understanding of masculinity and men by listening to transmasculine people. don’t tell transmasculine people their experiences are wrong because it doesn’t fit your understanding of masculinity and men.

sorry for the awful drawings i made them in snapchat in bed

(and this doesn’t even really begin to get into nonbinary and genderqueer people and exorsexism)

[sentienceoverload-29]

See I think my main beef with tma/tme as terms is that they aren't particularly useful. They aren't good labels generally. They tell me nothing about you, nor your actual experiences. But I especially dislike the idea that certain very broad groups of people are and aren't targeted my transmisogyny.

Because, realistically, anyone can be affected by transmisogyny.

A while back, Imane Khelif, a 100% cis woman, was harassed to hell and back by transmisogynists. This was a cis woman being negatively affected by transmisogyny. Ergo, she would be considered TMA.

A cis man who likes to dress femininely could be harassed by people who assume he's a trans woman. That would be a cis man being targeted my transmisogyny. Guess what? He's now TMA.

A nonbinary person seeking a "feminizing" hormone therapy or surgery could be affected by laws that were made to target trans women. They would be affected by transmisogyny. TMA

The list goes on, really. Anyone can be affected by transmisogyny. And yeah, it DOES affect transfems the most. I am not saying that it doesn't. But I am saying that TMA/TME are kinda useless fucking terms that add nothing to a discussion.