This Is Paramisia

Pro-recovery (not conversion therapy, but safe consensual outlets), pro-kink, anti-contact (that includes incest.) Please send submissions in plain text (no bold, no italics, no colored text, no enlargened or shrunken text, etc) so that I don't have to transcribe it. Plain text allows people who use screenreaders to be involved. Also please send image IDs if you submit a screenshot - if you don't, I will write one myself, it'll just take a longer time for me to get around to answering that ask.

[thisisparamisia]

Introduction

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Join my 18+ and SFW paraphile servers! (on Element) [link]

Important:

[PT: Important]

NOTE: This account is strictly anti-contact, pro-kink, and unjudgemental of people who engage in their paraphilias in safe controlled consensual environments (ie; a pedo who does ageplay to cope with attraction, a zoo who consumes content of fictional sapient animals or feral content, people who read dark romances, a biastophile who does CNC, etc, etc, etc.)

NOTE 2: The reason why I tag "cw pedophilia", "cw zoophilia", and "cw necrophilia" is because some paraphiles themselves have obsessive-compulsive tendencies, and wish to avoid content related to their paraphilia, as to avoid having mental health episodes and spiraling. It is not because I believe the "big 3" should be censored or silenced, but rather to protect the wellbeing of certain disordered paraphiles.

Here are some posts I recommend looking over:

Blog-relevant terminology [link] (if you're confused about what's being discussed.) Myths about paraphiles [link.] Paraphilias can be nonsexual [link.] Children can be paraphiles [link] OCD vs Paraphilia [link] Why "paraphiles who don't act on it are fine" is still a paramisic statement [link.] Incest, inbreeding, and the issues with incest [link] Zoophiles vs Teratophiles vs Beastiality [link] Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference? [link.] "MAP" is not a term for "child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community." That is a myth [link.] Most child rapists are not pedophiles, just as most men who rape men are not queer [link]. Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos [link] The issues with corpse desecration [link.] Behaviors to avoid online [link] Tips for coping with paraphilic disorders [link] Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with sexual fantasies [link] Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with fiction [link] "Proship vs antiship" - an argument that is not actually helping anyone [link.] Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations? [link] What makes a paraphilia queer vs nonqueer? [link.] Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩[link]

Here are some resources I recommend checking out, if you're struggling with your mental health:

General:

Get Self Help [link] Therapy Worksheets [link] Project Lets [link] Fireweed Collective [link] The Wildflower Alliance [link] Stronger U/Stronger Together [link] ^These four are non-carceral support for suicidal folks. (Non-carceral means they won't call the cops to forcefully institutionalize you.) Self-harm resources [link] (Check out the "first aid" and "anatomy" information on the top of the screen for further advice about harm reduction.) Also recommend checking out @thisis-suicidism, @support-for-the-suicidal, and @self-harm-harm-reduction for further resources and support.

MAPs (though non-MAPs may find it helpful too, by just exchanging words like "minor" for whatever other thing):

Self-help modules [link] Advice, safety planning, and FAQs [link] Stop It Now UK [link] / Stop It Now USA [link] B4U-Act [link] ASAP International [link] VirPed [link] Global Prevention Project [link]

OCD & intrusive thoughts:

OCD worksheets [link] Grounding techniques for intrusive thoughts [link]

Sexual trauma:

Survivor's Toolkit [link] (Mainly recommending the worksheets there) Care Package for Survivors of Sexual Trauma [link] (mainly reccomending the "managing common reactions to trauma" segment.) Online Communities for Survivors (of sexual trauma) [link]

Who owns this blog?

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Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am intersex transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.

I run five other blogs, known as @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (dedicated to oppression of genderqueers & sexqueers), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (dedicated to oppression based on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-anti-masculinity (dedicated to oppression of atypical masculinity), @androqueer-struggles (focused on the struggles and/or oppression of intersex mascs, peritrans mascs, butches, etc), and @this-is-deformimisia (dedicated to oppression of people with deformities and/or disfigurements.)

What is this blog?

[PT: What is this blog?]

This blog is dedicated to spreading awareness of the oppressive/negative experiences faced by people who have paraphilic attraction (kinks/fetishes), especially paraphilic disorders. You can submit your own experiences, or things you have witnessed happening to other people (so long as you respect their privacy.)

Am I welcome here?

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This blog is safe for people of any religious and spiritual practices, so long as said practices aren't used to excuse bigoted behavior.

This blog is safe for people of all races and ethnic backgrounds.

This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.

This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)

This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.

This blog is safe for alterhumans.

This blog is obviously safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.

This blog is safe for sex workers.

[thisisparamisia]

The fact that people understand "rape is about violence, not sex, you don't hit someone with a spade and call it gardening," until it's about paras. Then suddenly rape is only about attraction, never about violence, and the only people who rape are evilly attracted to their victims and aren't just enjoying the power it gives them

This is paramisia.

[thisisparamisia]

i can't find a post answering this, so i assume it didn't go through because i sent it a while ago

is it paramisic to be triggered by certain map symbols?

due to paramisia against me as a child, i looked for support in horrible communities, where i'd see people using childlove symbols often. horrible as in pro-abuse/pro-contact.

and i just. can't help but still associate those symbols with pro-contact views. i've seen the symbols occasionally being used by anti-contact paraphiles before, and i feel bad for having to block and avoid them just because of how badly the symbols trigger my ptsd.

even when they're used innocuously, like the spiral sun symbol being used to just depict a sun, i have to close whatever site or app i saw it on.

Trauma responses are not paramisic. It is not like youre using it as an excuse to be bigoted towards people who do use the symbols. You're just avoiding symbols that trigger episodes. There's a difference.

I highly recommend you check out @/this-is-a-trauma-response for people with similar experiences.

[thisisparamisia]

not paramisia, but needed info

i saw these four greek letters on someones blog and they listed them as their paras

ζ, μ , 𝛎, ω

i recognise the first as the zoo symbol, but dont know the others. would you be able to tell me what they mean? (im sorry for any mistakes, english is not my native language)

I unfortunately have no idea.

[thisisparamisia]

Not paramisia, just wanted to apologize for random people harassing you in the comments of my post, I'm sorry you had to deal with that!!

- Triadic of paraphilic joy

No worries, I deal with this shit often, I don't get very bothered by it 99% of the time. I appreciate the worry! /gen

[thisisparamisia]

No clue if this is paramisia but......

I'm a disordered paraphile (biastophilia) who just happens to also have psychosis. I avoid shipcourse like the plague because it actively triggers my delusions super bad. But I recently got called paramisic in my inbox because I... avoid proship spaces... and "you can't be pro para if you don't like proshippers" and it made me panic super bad....

I do really like this blog though thank you for having it!!! It feels super impossible to find paraphillia spaces that aren't centered around a specific end of shipcourse......

Avoiding proship vs antiship debates doesn't make you "not pro para", because proshipping doesn't actually indicate a person is pro para in the first place. I've seen tons of proshippers who are INSISTENT that fictoparaphilias aren't actually paraphilias, and that they're "the good ones" compared to "actual paraphiles." (Which is ridiculous, because they clearly don't know the actual definition of paraphilia. Paraphilia includes ALL kinks, fetishes, and atypical attractions/arousal.)

For example, fictozoophiles who insist that being attracted to fictional animals isn't a paraphilia (which, again, is a ridiculous misunderstanding of the term), and that they're "not like those disgusting zoophiles."

I also see a lot of proshippers who claim that fiction doesn't affect reality, which just ignores the lived experiences of many people with psychosis, people with OCD, people with behavioral addictions, fictionfolk, etc. It also ignores the impacts of propaganda spread through fiction.

I am against antishippers because they are pro-censorship, but I am fully neutral on proshippers because proshipping just doesn't tell me if they 1. Are pro-para and 2. respect people who ARE impacted by reality.

[thisisparamisia]

Paramisia is when you explain that pedophilic disorder (or just any paraphilic disorder in general) is a mental disorder and thus telling someone that saying all pedophiles (which is used as a slur in the context of that person's sentence) are child molesters, or saying "kill your local pedophile", or just thinking that being a pedophile is evil is actually ableist because it demonizes people with mental disorders. But then people say stuff like "You need your computer checked" or they think you're also a child predator just for trying to educate people on bigotry.

TLDR: Explaining that having pedophilia doesn't make you a bad person has people thinking you're a bad person.

This is paramisia.

[thisisparamisia]

something that pisses me off so bad is that, similarly to child predation, people basically act like the reason bestiality is bad is because it’s “gross” and “well they’re animals!” (with no elaboration), not that theriform animals can’t consent and that it harms the animal.

which leads me to a discussion that was had in a server i’m in. everyone there seemed to agree that being attracted to dragon characters was zoophilia, and were very much acting as if that was an innately bad thing. not only that, they said that justifying it with saying the dragons are sapient/act like humans was still wrong, because they… look like animals/are feral, i guess?

and by default, there’s already nothing wrong with people being fictozoophiles (or zoophiles in general). i didn’t mention anything about how paraphilias =/= causing harm though, because i could tell the server wasn’t a safe space. but what really fucking gets me is that that discussion so obviously displays a complete lack of understanding as to WHY bestiality is wrong (not that FICTIONAL depictions are wrong, they’re fine, but i hope you understand what i mean).

i’m sorry, but if any nonhuman animals could communicate perfectly with humans and had full sapience irl, the concern of bestiality is *completely removed* because that animal can consent in that situation.

but nooo wanting to kiss big dragon who can speak to me and consent is BAD and zoophiles are BAD and should DIE /heavy sarcasm

This is paramisia. I need people to start thinking critically about WHY something is wrong. Why would it be wrong to hypothetically engage with a fully sapient animal capable of consent? None of their reasonings hold up.

The plain and simple of it is that it wouldn't be wrong. What is wrong about bestiality is that animals do not have the ability to consent to you.

If you base your morals purely on what you deem to be "gross", then you are not really any different than bigots who decide certain marginalized groups are bad because they feel "grossed out."

[thisisparamisia]

This is paramisia, adultism, and physisensory ableism.

[thisisparamisia]

Paramisia is the way the system and/or plural community treats paraphilia holders, paraphilia embracers, and other roles related to paraphilias. So many plurals act like any member whose role is focused around a paraphilia is inherently a persecutor or inherently a “negative” for system. While paraphilia-related headmates *can* be persecutors, that definitely is not always the case.

This is paramisia.

[thisisparamisia]

Kinda a rant but there's this creator I really like because he makes animal plushies that are more on the realistic side, (I'd love to commission him some day), but he usually has the plushies in funny poses that could be seen as suggestive, so people are usually calling him gross and accusing him of being a zoophile (and those people obviously mean animal abuser).

I find his plushies attractive and if he does as well, that's no reason for him to receive hate.

Plushies have always been the safest way for me to cope with my sexual urges, I don't get why out of all things, people have to be hateful towards something safe to do stuff with. Most of my feelings as a zoo are towards realistic plushies so the hate just feels worse🙁

This is paramisia and objectumphobia. I am so tired of people acting like you can be a predator towards objects and fiction. If he is a zoophile, so what? Plushes are a great way to get out those feelings.

[thisisparamisia]

People have cuteness aggression where you wanna crush a cute thing and they don't do it. It's perfectly acceptable

but when you get aroused by that cute thing and don't want to and don't do it then your weirdo

The double standard genuinely hurts my brain.

[thisisparamisia]

Watching videos about Armin Meiwes and hearing the most parasimic things about EVERYONE who is vorarephilic even if they havent done anything

This is paramisia. Can people *not* conflate vorearephilia with cannibalism? Even if a cannibal is into vore, it's not being into vore that made them into a cannibal.

[thisisparamisia]

seen someone calling south korea's heavily patriarchal society "pedophilic culture" because of the expectation that women should force themselves to look super young.

like- we should talk about the physical expectations that heavily patriarchal societies force upon people who are, are seen as and/or expected/forced to be women; and how a lot of times that requires forcing them to look young! we should criticise those expectations and the society that forces them! but we shouldn't be conflating those societal expectations with pedophilia. that's not what pedophilia is in the slightest. stop using pedophilia/pedophilic as buzzwords and start saying what you actually mean.

This is paramisia. I'm so sick and tired of people watering down the meaning of pedophilia.

[thisisparamisia]

This blog helped me figure out and come to turns with being a fictoMAP, so thank you.

I am glad to have helped you find words for your experience!

[thisisparamisia]

Just want to quickly thank you for this blog. We arent personally a paraphile, but youve taught us a lot and have gotten us to challenge quite a few different paramisic beliefs we've held. So thank you! Wishing the best to all the paraphiles out there, we're doing our best to learn to be a better ally.

This is solidarity!

[thisisparamisia]

anon if it breaks please

join a new group. ask "is this group against predators?" they don't understand.

make a distinction between a MAP and a predator.

"oh, Sir, we are strictly against predators only!"

look inside.

conflating predator with pedophile and worrying over a 13 year olds relationship with a 15 year old.

this is a reference to a copypasta but that is how things have been

This is paramisia.