Her Thoughts

A safe place for advice and thoughts.

[incleoseyes]

What made you get the ick from a partner?

[wetheurban]

I'm sorry if someone's behavior caused you to doubt your capacity to be loved.

[skyla-radfeminist-deactivated20]

notice how every beauty standards men have on women is either pedophilic or extremely unrealistic?

shaven legs, pussies, armpits- hairless is only found in prepubescent girls, and there is no reason to view it as ugly

short, petite women- while not always pedophilic, wanting the smallest woman you can, is wanting a woman who resembles a child

submissive- wanting a woman who listens to every word you say is just unrealistic, and it's wanting a childlike girl.

no wrinkles, no stress lines, perky boobs, young looking- society's obsession with women's youth is pedophilic and is also unrealistic, women age and this is natural and normal, and is a blessing

virgins- wanting a woman who doesn't know what typical sex feels like, and will not know what to do, is unrealistic and feeds men's ego of being "her first".

there's even more, but this is a pretty good summary.

[ur-daily-inspiration]

[graceetarot]

Affirmations

•I am way bigger than any obstacle thrown my way.

•I am worthy of all things that my heart desires.

•I am choosing my

• happiness over everything.

• I align my soul with divine will & justice serves me through time

• I only have space and energy for things that are meant for me.

•I release anything that is not serving me anymore.

•I am worthy, and Committed to my self growth and self love.

• what belongs to me will find me.

[incleoseyes]

Let's talk friendship part 2

Part of the reason I started this blog was to act like a journal and if I can help someone through my experiences, great! This is to help me heal and to help anyone going through similar situations.

Since I was young, I was able to make friends fairly easily. The problem was keeping them. I was always able to make friends easily but once those friends met it became one friend group and I was always left out.

It was fine when it was one on one but add more people into the mix I was xast aside.

Today for example

I have about 5 friends and every time we are all together, I am always left out like I am not the one who introduced them to each other. Today in class I sat alone all day, I didn't say a single word to anyone because I had no one to talk to.

And honestly that's okay!

And I couldn't care less that I am leaving my old friends behind because this is the time for me and healing, you attract what you are!

It's okay to be alone! Being alone is sooo much better than being around people who clearly and obviously can't care enough to even say hello to you!

My darling you should feel embarrassed for letting people treat you like dirt for so long. Why keep energy you don't need around and why keep people who for one don't know how great you are and two friends that don't even care enough to talk to you.

Being alone is not the worst thing in the world when you can use that time to better yourself, focus on your hobbies and health instead of entertaining people who don't care.

I know it's not easy but isn't it better than being ignored? being left out> being cast aside?

Have a backbone and put yourself first.

No one is coming to save you other than yourself.

Make peace with yourself and watch the universe align for you.

There is nothing sexier than putting yourself first, being confident and knowing your boundaries!

All my love

-Cleo

[incleoseyes]

Words Hurt!

For the longest time I have been told that what people say about you shouldn't matter and yeah it shouldn't matter.

It does matter though especially when those words lead to someone being hurt.

Words can do irreversible damage.

But what happens when the hurtful words said were spoken at the most vulnerable time in your life. What happens when those words are spoken to a pre-teen trying to find their place in the world?

It's hard enough already trying to fit in but when your peers, the people you seek validation from, begin to point out all your flaws it becomes a whole different story. Well in this case words do matter!

The things said to someone at their lowest and most vulnerable will stick with them for who knows how long. The teenage girl starting puberty you call ugly or too unattractive to be liked by a boy or whoever it is they like will forever remember those words.

HARMFUL WORDS STICK WITH PEOPLE!

Your entire self-concept can be damaged and altered for a long time just because someone made one comment that they thought meant absolutely nothing!

YOU ARE TOO TALL! YOUR NOSE IS TOO BIG! YOU ARE JUST OVERALL UNATTRACTIVE

You aren't attractive enough to be given a sideways glance but somehow even being considered attractive can be such a hard thing.

You may think these words mean nothing when spoken but it means a lot to the person receiving these words.

Why is it that people who are unattractive are too ugly to be treated like a human and someone who is attractive is also unvalidated?

'They are too attractive to have any problems going on in life' and comments like this makes them feel unvalidated, like they aren't even human nor worth the validation.

In that case I'll say it we are human perfect doesn't exist!!

Words carry weight! In a world where being unkind is so prominent please always choose to be kind!

As someone who was considered unattractive by my own peers and sometimes made to feel awful about my weight and appearance by friends and family that shit stays with you. I am 19 almost 20 still struggling with self-acceptance and self-love because of comments made when I was 12 about my appearance.

With that I will always choose self love and acceptance. Grow my darling leave the past behind and be someone YOU are proud of! Validate your own feelings because no one can help you other than yourself.

Don't stay trapped in that bubble of insecurity, love. It'll only ruin you. You are beautiful, smart, kind and sooo much more than what the rest of the world thinks. Life begins when you choose to take charge of your own and put yourself, your needs and happiness first.

There's no room for self-hatred or self-sabotage in your life.

If I could go back in time and tell you how beautiful and worthy you are I would because you deserve it more than you know.

Love yourself more than anything, there's only one you.

All my love

-Cleo

[incleoseyes]

Let's talk friendships.

Why do you constantly put yourself in situations where you feel left out?

Why are you allowing yourself to be the friend that walks behind the rest of the friend group while they giggle and talk amongst themselves?

Why do you allow yourself to be with people who use you to feel better about themselves?What for? The name of friendship?Acceptance?

That loneliness you think you'll feel being alone is it any worse than sitting in a crowded room while everyone else forgets your existence?

The period in time where you're alone is for growth. It's for you!

What if one day you just disappear for a whole and you just come back better? Better mental health, better physical health just better overall.

You're going to leave this earth alone, you do realize that right? So why are you wasting your time with people who couldn't care less if you were around or not.

My darling, there's always going to be someone in your life who'll truly adore you at your lowest and best.

Someone has to be the one to tell you those people you keep hanging out with aren't your friends. In a friendship do you think you're supposed to feel left out? Used? Abandoned? Absolutely not!

You're such a beautiful soul and you do not need someone else to validate it! Once you validate yourself you'll attract the people who are best for you!

Like the wizard liz once said 'you have not met all the people that will love you yet'

I know it's easier said than done but trust me finding happiness within yourself will absolutely set you free.

It's not easy to heal, it's not easy to step away from what feels familiar to you, it'll never be easy but 5 years or so down the line you'll be soooo proud of yourself, love.

All my love

-Cleo