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@indiecasper
I just opened up a check in the mail, went to the ATM & found 20$ 😭 I’m not passing these shits up NO more on my mama!
Even if I do not receive money or good news, I did smile at seeing this smiling Buddha.
Is jolly.
A bright spot. Seriously that face. You can’t not be happy around it.
We have matching undies :) @defyinggalaxy
Just a dumb bean
My wife ❤
i cannot wait to have a wife to watch movies and cuddle up with every single night
Why…don’t fathers know how to apologize. Why can they never apologize and admit they were wrong why are all fathers like this
patriarchy and toxic masculinity
One of the best feelings ever is to have someone who respects you, gives u attention and wants you just as bad as you want them.
@sexual-texts (via sexual-texts)
when you go from a bad situation into a better one you may collapse exhausted and unsure what to do and full of grief, you may need time to regain the ability to do things as yourself or motivated by anything other than terror, you may need time to process or mourn or fall apart in ways you could not before,
and people may use this as proof that the old situation was better for you, proof that you need to go back, and it is not proof that it was better for you or proof that you need to go back
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It’s so incredibly common to “fall apart” when you’re finally safe. You no longer need to stay so tightly coiled in on yourself, you can finally leave survival mode and process your trauma. You’re not holding yourself up by sheer terror anymore and suddenly the damage that terror has done to you becomes immediate and obvious.
This is so important. Don’t go back. Things are already getting better, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
This is a documented phenomenon with abuse in particular. I’ve had a number of people ask me why they’re falling apart now after they’ve moved into a safer home, or they’re in a less dangerous area, or they’ve left an exploitative job, or they’re in a healthy relationship for the first time. Generally, it’s because they made that positive change.
When we’re still in the midst of crisis, we’re often too overloaded and physically/emotionally unsafe to really feel or process anything. So for most of us, everything gets pushed down/repressed/dissociated until later, when we’re safe and supported. The threshold of safety at which processing begins to occur varies from person to person. And the mental calculations used to determine “safety” usually happen on an unconscious level. Very few of us have the conscious thought “I’m safe now, so I can process what happened to me.” Instead, the subconscious realizes some level of safety has been achieved, and so it just dumps a load of suppressed stuff.
Sometimes, it’s contrast to past experiences that makes us realize something was traumatic at all. In such cases, it’s not that we’ve reached a level of safety and can thus begin to process, it’s that we finally have a basis for comparison to know that what went before was unacceptable.
I love it when you smile, it’s beautiful. I could look at you smiling forever. Your smile makes me smile.
Leohearts (via leohearts)
Your smile makes me smile
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IMAGINE BEING ATTRACTIVE LIKE HOW COOL WOULD THAT BE
once i get comfy with someone i get so annoying
I am always annoying
you literally never have to ask me “can we cuddle” because the answer is always yes
ITS ATTRACTIVE AF WHEN SOMEBODY SAYS THEY WANT YOU & PROVES IT & DOES EVERYTHING IN THEIR POWER NOT TO LOSE YOU.
This might come as a shock but I’m Not Feelin too good my dudes
Date a cutie who makes you the happiest person alive
What I remember most about emotional abuse is that it’s like being put in a box. How you end up in there is the biggest trick – I never managed to work that one out. Maybe you think it’s a treasure box at first: you’re in there because you’re special. Soon the box starts to shrink. Every time you touch the edges there is an “argument”. So you try to make yourself fit. You curl up, become smaller, quieter, remove the excessive, offensive parts of your personality – you begin to notice lots of these. You eliminate people and interests, change your behaviour. But still the box gets smaller. You think it’s your fault. The terrible, unforgivable too-muchness of you is to blame. You don’t realise that the box is shrinking, or who is making it smaller. You don’t yet understand that you will never, ever be tiny enough to fit, or silent enough to avoid a row
It’s time to make emotional abuse a crime - Lauren Laverne (via ninja-suffragette)
holy fucking shit this exactly what happened to me
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I stay alive for like 3 people lol
