There was a study done on this!
They paired people into Allistic-Allistic, Autistic-Autistic, and Autistic-Allistic pairs and had them work on a communication task in those pairs. It was a blind test, as no participants were informed of the neurotype of the person they paired with.
It found that same-neurotype pairs communicated more accurately and reported greater mutual rapport than mixed-neurotype pairs - demonstrating that it’s NOT Autistic people having “bad social skills”, it’s a MUTUAL communication gap because they can’t understand us either. So we may not have good allistic-speaking skills, but they have equally terrible autistic-speaking skills.
This is a very easily replicable study, and bears out patterns I’ve noticed IRL.
(and like… if you’re not Autistic but a ton of your friends are and you vibe so much more easily with them than your Allistic friends? Maybe double check that ‘not Autistic’ thing just in case. You can still be a ‘bilingual’ Allistic, of course! And Autistic masking is a thing, where you put a lot of background brain effort into decoding and mimicking Allistic patterns so you pass for one of them but then end up very very tired because you’re putting a LOT more work into the conversation than they are.)
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