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[blingdiva34324]

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[skystonedclouds]

Autism & cutting off in conversations.

I seen a lot of people here and there reblog posts like “If you see someone being interrupted don’t let it happen just put the person in their place”. This kind of scares me and other people I know who have autism. We literally have a hard time reading the context and telling when someone is finished speaking or just paused. This is especially a problem in group settings where we accidentally cut people off a lot thinking they were finished. 

Of course we stop once we realize they weren’t finished. Often we go to the extremes where by the end of the conversation we ended up never getting a chance to speak in fear of cutting someone off or we accidentally cut someone off because of a misread pause. This is a great source of anxiety because either we leave never having said a word never sure if we could speak or we are seen as rude for accidentally misreading the situation.

So if a person with autism cuts someone off… just maybe try to help them out instead of lecturing them on their terrible social skills. Give signs to show when you are willing to “pass the microphone” per say (even just for comments/relating about the story). That or at least don’t lecture them or give them a mean look to make them feel like a bad person for misreading the situation. You can say like “Oh I wasn’t done I’ll open up the floor for comments with a nod” or something lol. It sounds silly but literally can’t even tell the difference between a pause and an end.

[sleezykryptonite]

My psychologist told me that allistic brains subconsciously pick up on when someone is about to finish speaking and subconsciously prepare to begin speaking then while autistic brains do not

[autisticjoy]

…really??

[id: a screenshot from a show of two men facing the camera and a third man shown from the behind. the caption reads: “That doesn’t sound right, but I don’t know enough about allistic brains to dispute it.” end id]

[demiiboy]

According to my linguistics professor, the tone at which someone is speaking drops when they are almost done speaking. Allistic ppl can pick up on this tone shift, most autistic people can’t.

[annethecatdetective]

However, this goes in reverse– allistic people CANNOT tell when autistic people are about to be done speaking. Because we don’t always give off the same tonal indicators and often have a slower rate of speaking or leave a gap without making filler noises to indicate we are not done, autistic people often find themselves getting talked over and being unable to rejoin the conversation.

Which, of course, is a vicious cycle thing, because to us, it seems like allistic people interrupt ALL THE DAMN TIME, but suddenly when we do it it’s rude.

[zigraves]

There was a study done on this!

They paired people into Allistic-Allistic, Autistic-Autistic, and Autistic-Allistic pairs and had them work on a communication task in those pairs. It was a blind test, as no participants were informed of the neurotype of the person they paired with.

It found that same-neurotype pairs communicated more accurately and reported greater mutual rapport than mixed-neurotype pairs - demonstrating that it’s NOT Autistic people having “bad social skills”, it’s a MUTUAL communication gap because they can’t understand us either. So we may not have good allistic-speaking skills, but they have equally terrible autistic-speaking skills.

This is a very easily replicable study, and bears out patterns I’ve noticed IRL.

(and like… if you’re not Autistic but a ton of your friends are and you vibe so much more easily with them than your Allistic friends? Maybe double check that ‘not Autistic’ thing just in case. You can still be a ‘bilingual’ Allistic, of course! And Autistic masking is a thing, where you put a lot of background brain effort into decoding and mimicking Allistic patterns so you pass for one of them but then end up very very tired because you’re putting a LOT more work into the conversation than they are.)

[raiii-bee]

You ever just wanna take your brain out and

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Fight the urge to numb or escape from unpleasant emotions. You gotta learn how to sit with them and work through them or you'll have to keep running from them.

[infjaddicted2mbti]

Ughhhhhhhhhhh!

[did-you-know]

“Baby brain” is a real thing. Studies show that when women are pregnant, their memory and cognitive function is noticeably worse than non-pregnant women. 

(Source, Source 2)

[infjaddicted2mbti]

I sincerely hope that ppl still value pregnant women instead of treat them like they’re stupid

[prettycolors]

[slavicafire]

weekend? more like weakened. let me rest

[happyheidi]

lazy days of summer by EdwinaFran

[thenatsdorf]

Wait for it.

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[infjaddicted2mbti]

I also hope that when you get your real estate license, that you make SURE to check that the places you sell don’t have flooded basements that hide dog fecal matter under the water. 🤢🤮 Maybe you were thinking that the less they know, will bring you $? I never understood what this emoji meant 🤑 until my experience with you. Good luck getting me rate you as a real estate agent! I’ll just be honest 🧹

[infjaddicted2mbti]

Not happy that you sold me a crappy dishwasher. No problem. I’ll just scrub everything multiple times & keep hoping 🤦🏼‍♀️

[infjaddicted2mbti]

[infjaddicted2mbti]

[nightlyquotes]

“Not everyone deserves to know the real you. Let them criticize who they think you are.”

— Unknown