INTP atypical

Grumpy INTP, over 35 years old. Likely neurodivergent. She/her. Thoughts, quotes, books, used to blog mbti but not anymore.

[intpatypical]

By preventing our affections from becoming yet another thing to be bought and sold, we are taking the first steps of resistance.

Why women have better sex under socialism - Kristen R. Ghodsee

[intpatypical]

Ma, allo stesso tempo, sei consapevole che se dovesse ripresentarsi una primavera come quella, pur sapendo ciò che sai adesso, finiresti per fare una scelta simile ad allora. Come quando alle elementari giocavi a palla prigioniera e, dopo avere agilmente evitato il pericolo fino a che non rimanevi l'ultima della tua squadra, dovevi raccogliere la sfida e prendere la palla. Come quando i tuoi piedi ti condussero nella piazza, attirati dal canto squillante delle giovani donne sull'autobus, anche se sapevi che lì c'erano dei soldati armati. Come quell'ultima notte, quando chiesero chi volesse fermarsi fino alla fine e tu alzasti la mano in silenzio. Non dobbiamo accettare di diventare delle vittime, non dobbiamo permettere che ci trattino come tali, aveva detto Seong-hee quella sera di primavera, con l'occhio vigile della luna che osservava in silenzio le ragazze riunite sul tetto. Chi era stata a infilarti quella fetta di pesca tra le labbra? Non lo ricordi.

Han Kang, Atti Umani

[intpatypical]

Dopo la tua morte non ho potuto tenere un funerale, e così la mia vita è diventata un funerale.

Han Kang, Atti umani

[intpatypical]

Stia attenta a coloro che con la veste della "morale" si accodano a lei per la chiusura: loro non la vogliono perché ci sono in mezzo per sfruttarci e non credono ad un nostro riscatto, quello vero, quello di cui mio padre sempre parlava: loro ci vogliono mandare a messa tutti i giorni come ci andava "l'avvocato potente" e dicono che ci riscatteremo in paradiso. Signora, noi il nostro paradiso lo vogliamo sulla terra, perché siamo giovani e il nostro paradiso è una casetta con un marito e dei bambini che non abbiano sempre fame e che non incontrino mai più uomini come ho incontrato io, questo è il nostro paradiso!

Cara senatrice Merlin - Lettere dalle case chiuse - a cura di Mirta Da Pra Pocchiesa

[intpatypical]

Il padrone fiuta da lontano la bella ragazza che ha bisogno, fiuta da lontano chi non ha più nulla da impegnare ed ha fame, fiuta da lontano chi è ingenua e non ha più nessuno che la protegga (chiedono, ha fratelli, ha padre, ha qualcuno?...).

Cara senatrice Merlin - Lettere dalle case chiuse - a cura di Mirta Da Pra Pocchiesa

[intpatypical]

Ed allora signora lottate, lottate perché questo triste mercato cessi, chiudete chiudete queste tombe dei vivi.

Cara senatrice Merlin - Lettere dalle case chiuse - a cura di Mirta Da Pra Pocchiesa

[intpatypical]

Lena rarely smiled, she rarely had a kind word, but her careful upright respectful dealings with these women - many of whom were used to gross mistreatment and abuse at the hands of men - was a far more welcome thing than smiles and kind words which might, after all, be only feigned.

Michael McDowell, Gilded Needles

[intpatypical]

You could not pay me enough money to go back to being seventeen. When I was seventeen, my talent was all potential and no proof. The world was a giant set of unknowns, barely any past to pull from. I am so grateful, right now, for every match and every win and every loss and every lesson that I have behind me. It feels so good, right now, to be thirty-seven years old. To have figured at least some things out. To have the ground underneath my feet.

[sonpat-rides-again]

[ihavenocluewhatiwanttobecalled]

Can someone who understands psychology explain why this makes someone "rude"?

[alex51324]

Phatic discourse, a subset of affiliative signaling.

When Co-workers do things like ask about weekend plans, chat about non-work topics, eat lunch in the same room, they are--subconsciously--reaffirming that they are part of a cooperative (or, minimally, non-antagonistic) social group.

The other primates cement social bonds by grooming each other; we do it by making small talk.

If they solicit your participation in these rituals, and you repeatedly refuse those bids, you are marking yourself out as, at best, an outsider to the group, and thus potentially antagonistic.

This is all happening on the monkey-brain level; they have no idea what they're doing or how they are interpreting your response, so there's no way to clear up the misunderstanding.

To the ape sleeping in your co-worker's DNA, either you are part of the grooming circle, or you are an outsider who, for all it knows, may be coming to steal all the bananas.

Even if you would prefer not to socialize with your co-workers, it's generally worth it to set aside 5 minutes a couple times a week for phatic communication. You don't have to answer your co-workers' affiliative signals every time, but it's less trouble in the long run if you respond to a few of them.

[punkrorschach]

if you are the type of person who really just wants to be left alone to do their work in quiet: it is actually easier to achieve this as part of the in-group. when you enter a new space, in this case, a job, make it your GOAL to make everyone Know Who You Are. introduce yourself to everyone you meet. literally everyone. "hi I'm Jack I'm New." this helps burst the awkward bubble. you are now one of the monkeys.

at some point, either in response to an invitation, or just in the natural course of conversation, you can add in that you are a "quiet type" who "needs their silence" or what have you. customize to your personal needs. i find it helpful to imagine a well dressed elderly woman describing the sort of peace she needs to manifest.

roughly once a week if you see a group of people chatting, engage with them. keep it pleasant. it can be superficial. word will travel that you are Nice and Quiet and Not The Chatty Type protecting you from group lunches etc. if you have an office with a door that you keep closed a lot, putting up any kind of decor will also send positive signals.

humans are monkeys! for better or worse!

[tlbodine]

Pro tip: try to make a note (write it down if you have to) about some inconsequential thing that your coworker mentions so you can ask about it later. Kids and pets are great for This. As are hobbies. One guy in my office zoom called in from his house and I saw he had an arcade game in his office so I asked him about it later and he lit up like a Christmas tree. Another coworker has a pet pig and I ask every couple months how the pig is doing. This is a great strategy for pivoting conversation away from you and will make them think you are the friendliest monkey in the pod.

[queeranarchism]

The grooming circle also serves a very practical purpose. Getting to know each other - even superficially but regularly - makes people more likely to feel comfortable asking for something they need, more likely to say yes, and more likely to trust each other with sensitive information. All of this makes people better fellow human beings to each other.

It means my coworker is more likely to feel safe enough to tell me "Can you take over my shift tomorrow?" and I'm more likely to say "yes" even when I don't want to, because I care about his well being and he also takes over shifts for me when he doesn't want to.

It means my coworker is more likely to ask me for help if they experience sexual harassment at work, or if they think they're being underpaid, or if they're actually very lonely and need someone, anyone, to go to their Mom's funeral with them.

And maybe this ritual of trust-building feels unnecessary to you. Maybe you would do all these things for random strangers, but your coworkers won't know that unless they get to know you a little, so they won't know that they can ask you for help.

[queeranarchism]

#take part in the grooming. become one of the ingroup. band together to demand more bananas from your zookeeper aka your boss#monkey together strong or something

YES. Unionize your monkey grooming circle.

[intpatypical]

(...) I made him stay and talk about himself. It wasn't easy. Not because he was secretive, but because he seemed to carry no connected idea of his life. Experiences floated loose in his mind, and it was necessary to ask many little questions. He was oddly passive.

V.S. Naipaul, Among the Believers

[intpatypical]

But the woman learned to face him, the rapist who hated and loved her with such passion. She learned to use her darkness to create light. She would make the divided, white and black, external and internal world into wholeness. She would “lean on Jesus,” reaching out to help and for help, and would gather around her children and kin to help them make the world whole and livable. She would mother all the children—black and white—and serve both men—conqueror and conquered—knowing “all there was to know,” for she could not separate the color from the woman.

Barbara Omolade - Hearts of Darkness

[autolesionistra]

Caso Almasri, qualcosa non torna in scarcerazione e rimpatrio del torturatore libico - Radio Città Fujiko

Il ritardo di Nordio e la solerzia di Piantedosi nella vicenda del torturatore libico Almasri destano sospetti su un favore fatto dal govern

stanno accadendo talmente tante cose abominevoli che concentrarsi su una sola pare riduttivo; questa mi pare abbia comunque quell'aura di schifezza completamente indifendibile anche per l'attuale governo (ed è una soglia qualitativa ben bassa)

[intpatypical]

'Country' is your reality as much as it is your dream, whether it is a burden to be carried in foreign lands, or the weight of feeling like a foreigner in your homeland. It is the history you were taught, or the past that doesn't always make it into the history books, and all the possible and impossible futures you are allowed or not allowed to imagine. A country is too big and too shapeless to be owned completely or disowned entirely. But one thing is for sure: with every departure of a citizen, that individual's past and future are removed from the narrative, and the territory the gangsters can invade is enlarged, until it becomes entirely their country in the end.

Ece Temelkuran - How To Lose A Country

[intpatypical]

Idk if there are Syrians reading this, but I want to wish all the best to Syria after Assad's fall. I'm very worried about what comes next, but I've seen those videos of prison doors being smashed and prisoners calling their families after years and there's no scenario where this is not beautiful, no scenario where the fall of a tyrant isn't right. I hope you get time and resources to rebuild and be free as you deserve.

[intpatypical]

Tbh criticism about stereotyped strong female characters have a huge point, but inasmuch as they treat the idea of “femininity” as a monolith with a positive connotation, they’re easy to exploit for reactionary purposes. No, women don’t need to be violent to show strength, but the fact that so many people are disturbed by women showing brute force or wielding actual power (not power based on their actractiveness in the eyes of somebody else), EVEN IN FICTION, is not exempt from criticism in itself.

Violence is not OK in general and power can be a source of corruption, however measuring a woman’s strength by the pain she can bear or the affection she is able to give no matter what isn’t revolutionary or even progressive. It’s what the dominant ideology in patriarchal cultures gives to women as a model. This doesn’t mean that peaceful, resilient or forgiving women are weak; it means that some kinds of subversion are so subtle that they tend to get mixed up with simple tradition.

[sanguinewolves]

if there were a universal basic income where you lived, would you work?

yes, to make extra money

yes, bc i like working in certain fields

yes, bc i feel it’s my duty to contribute to society

yes, for another reason

no, bc i dislike all work

no, bc i cant (disability, etc)

no, for another reason

Voting ended onMay 30, 2024

assume for the sake of this poll that the ubi is a comfortable living wage and that you can get a job in any field you’d like.

also if you picked ‘for another reason’ pls put why in the tags/comments im curious :]

[intpatypical]

Tbh UBI would make looking for meaningful/interesting work much easier and I would have been far less tempted to default to plan Bs and Cs just because they were more attainable.

[incognitopolls]

How many languages can you speak (well enough to have a basic conversation)?

1, just my native language

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Voting ended onApr 13, 2024

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