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Submissions are open on the 1st and 15th of the month. For when you want answers but don’t want to ask it yourself. Polls sometimes include adult and/or sensitive topics. While we make an effort to tag common triggers appropriately, some polls may be heavy or NSFW.

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Submissions are accepted on the 1st and 15th of every month!

If there's a poll you wish someone would make, but it’s too embarrassing or awkward for you to make publicly, submit it to us and we'll post it– completely anonymously!

How to submit a poll:

Check the date! Is it the 1st or 15th? If not, hold onto your question for the next open submission period.

Include (1) a title, and (2) all of the answer choices you want the poll to list, up to a maximum of 12

Choices cannot exceed 80 characters in length, so be concise!

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Information:

If it's not a submission day, the askbox is still open for non-poll questions. The askbox being open does not mean submissions are open– check the date!

Submissions will be posted in the order received and will run for a week. Your submission may be posted weeks or months after you send it. Exceptions: if there's something obviously seasonal or a highly relevant follow-up to a recent poll, it'll probably get bumped forward, or the queue may be adjusted to space out similar topics.

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Because polls are user-submitted, poll topics and/or results do not represent the social, political, or moral opinions of this blog or its operator(s). We do our best to be mindful of others when posting polls and decline to post submissions that are visibly inflammatory or harmful, but we try to exercise inclusivity and good faith about human curiosity.

[Last updated 7/12/2025]

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Hypothetical scenario: You are talking with a friend. Your friend says, "I know this guy, she works at the grocery store."

Assume your friend is not the type to misgender anyone. This is not asking about the use of "guys" to address a group (e.g. 'hey guys'), this is talking about referring to one specific person as "a guy."

How surprised would you be to hear someone referred to both as a guy and with she/her pronouns?

Not surprised at all; "guy" used this way is gender neutral to me

Not surprised at all; I'd assume it's that person's gender expression

A little surprised; I'd assume it was a gender-neutral use of "guy"

A little surprised; I'd assume it was that person's gender expression

Surprised; I'd assume it was a gender-neutral use of "guy"

Surprised; I'd assume it was that person's gender expression

I'd find this jarring; I'd assume it was an attempt at gender neutral usage

I'd find this jarring; I'd assume it was that person's gender expression

I think it's flat out unacceptable to combine singular "guy" and she/her in this

Other specific opinion

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Voting ended onMay 23

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How much of the time do you wear prescription glasses or contacts?

All the time, they only come off if they'd be in the way for certain things

Most of the time, but sometimes I just don't wear them

Whenever I go somewhere, but not when I'm at home

Whenever I'm at home, but not when I go somewhere

Only at school/work/another specific span of time

Only to see particular things (e.g. to read a sign, then I take them off again)

Sometimes, based on some other criteria

Never, but I probably should wear them

Never, I have vision problems that can't be corrected with prescription lenses

Never, my vision is 20/20 or better

Voting ended onMay 23

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Would you consider putting something like an asterisk * after a question, if there's an explanation below the actual poll options? A lot of the time, the explanations disappear behind a read more and are thus not as easily visible, while they sometimes do result in a different interpretation of the question or answers.

In general, I put the important context up front, before the poll. That's where scene setting and clarifications about meanings go. I try to keep these concise and only state the essential information here because people don't have the patience to read an entire essay before voting on a poll.

After-poll text is usually things like the following:

A preemptive response to objections about the available poll options, i.e. a thought they may have had after reading all the options (thus they've already scrolled down to where the aftertext begins)

The reason the submitter was wondering about the topic

The submitter's personal anecdote about a problem they encountered or what they think

I'm guessing the personal anecdotes are what you're talking about. Most of the time, I try to present the scenario as neutrally as I can– preserving all the relevant facts, but without feelings and opinions that might affect the way people vote (or in "what would you do if…" questions, information that you could not possibly have), because most of the time what we want from poll results is to know what people think/do currently, not to change everyone's opinion. This setup is deliberate.

Example question:

(Answer only for misspelling common words, not obscure/hard words.) Does it annoy you when someone misspells common words? • Yes, I hate it • It bugs me a little but whatever • No, it doesn't bother me • I don't notice this — (Anon is dyslexic and English is their fifth language, so no matter how hard they try they often misspell common words. People sometimes insult them or make fun of them for this, and they wonder if everyone really feels that way.)

In this example, there's no way you could possibly know that information about everyone. The question is about how you feel in real life, not what you think would be nicest in a vacuum. It's fine if your opinion changes after reading a personal anecdote. That might be a good opportunity to reflect!

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(I was also initially confused by you saying explanations disappear behind a readmore, since I very rarely use those, and only ever for questions where the correct answer is intentionally hidden. I assume you have the "shorten long posts" setting switched on, in which case sorry, this one's getting automatically truncated too. This got longer than I meant it to. This post is an example of an explanation that could not possibly go before a poll.)

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This is asking only about paying another person in real life to do physical sex acts with you. This is not asking about buying porn/onlyfans/sex toys/etc.

Would you think less of someone if you found out that they paid for sex (actual physical acts)?

No

It depends on the specifics (who they hired, what sex acts, how many times, etc)

Yes

Other/show results

Voting ended onMay 22

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Of these, what is the most dangerous substance you've taken?

Caffeine

Marijuana/cannabis

Tobacco/nicotine

Alcohol

Prescription opioids

Psychedelics/"magic" mushrooms/LSD

Illegal opioids (including recreational use of prescription opioids)/heroin

Ecstasy

Cocaine

Methamphetamine

None of these, I've never even had caffeine

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Voting ended onMay 22

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Toe walking (wikipedia link) is when you walk only on the toe and ball of your foot, not with your whole foot. Your heel doesn't touch the ground when you toe walk. It's very common in toddlers but most grow out of it.

For this poll, "I used to, but I stopped" means stopping for any reason: it can mean you stopped naturally/on your own, you were trained out of it, you had a corrective surgery, you're no longer able to walk, etc.

Do/did you frequently toe walk (past the age of 3–4)? Are you autistic?

No, I didn't do this; I AM autistic

No, I didn't do this; not sure if I'm autistic

No, I didn't do this; I'm NOT autistic

I used to, but stopped by age 12 or earlier; I AM autistic

I used to, but stopped by age 12 or earlier; not sure if I'm autistic

I used to, but stopped by age 12 or earlier; I'm NOT autistic

I used to, but stopped as a teen or adult; I AM autistic

I used to, but stopped as a teen or adult; not sure if I'm autistic

I used to, but stopped as a teen or adult; I'm NOT autistic

I currently do this; I AM autistic

I currently do this; not sure if I'm autistic

I currently do this; I'm NOT autistic

Voting ended onMay 21

If you do not or cannot walk, select the appropriate "No, I didn't do this" answer (or, if you used to do this but can't walk anymore, you can choose the relevant "I used to" answer).

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Hypothetical scenario: You're attending a wedding, and at the reception it turns out that no alcohol is being served. You know that the couple getting married don't drink alcohol often, but also that they don't struggle with addiction. You don't know anything about the drinking habits or restrictions of anyone else in attendance.

Would you be surprised and/or disappointed if you attended a wedding and there was no alcohol being served?

Surprised and disappointed/upset

Surprised, but neutral, not disappointed/upset

Disappointed or upset, but not surprised

Not surprised and neutral, I'd be fine with it

I'm more surprised when there IS alcohol

Other

I don't know the expectations re: there being alcohol at weddings/show results

Voting ended onMay 21

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Examples: a trans man who participates in a women's book club; a transfem person who goes to the men's brunch at her church; a trans woman who plays on a men's sports team; etc.

Do not count things that are single-gender only by coincidence (e.g. a friend group that just happens to be all the same gender except for you). This is asking only about things that are explicitly stated to be for a single gender.

Trans people who do NOT identify in any way with your assigned gender, do you still participate in any groups/clubs/events/etc that are exclusive to your assigned gender?

Yes; I'm not out

Yes; I don't want to call attention to myself by opting out

Yes; I'm out, but it's not a big deal to me

Yes; it is a big deal to me, but participating is more important to me

Yes; other explanation

No, I don't participate, out of concern for other participants' comfort

No, I don't participate for MY comfort

No; I don't participate in social groups/events/etc for other reasons

No; other explanation

Other/it's complicated

I'm trans or not cis but I do identify in some way with my assigned gender

I'm cis/show results

Voting ended onMay 21

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When you were a kid/teen, do you feel like any of your parents/guardians were trying to live vicariously through you?

Yes, definitely

Sort of/to an extent

Maybe/I'm not sure

No

I don't remember

Other/not applicable

Voting ended onMay 21

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Hypothetical scenario: you're in public and you see someone using a walking cane (a cane for physical support/stability, not a white cane that blind people use). They're approaching a door that has an accessible push button to open it, and instead of pressing the button with their hand, they press it with the end of their cane.

What are your thoughts on using the bottom/end of a walking cane to press one of these buttons?

If you use a mobility aid but not a cane specifically, and this specific action would not be possible with your given mobility aid, choose the fitting non-cane answer.

Do you think it's okay/appropriate to press an accessible door button with the end of a walking cane instead of your hand?

(I don't use a cane) That's fine, and it's different from using your shoe

(I don't use a cane) That's fine, and using your shoe is also fine

(I don't use a cane) It's okay only if they're unable to use a hand

(I don't use a cane) It's kind of unsanitary but I wouldn't fuss about it

(I don't use a cane) That's gross, like hitting the button with your shoe

I use a cane and I do this

I use a cane and only do this if my hands are full/otherwise unusable

I use a cane and don't do this, but it's not a big deal

I use a cane and don't do this, it's nasty/impolite

I use a cane and have a different specific answer

I don't know enough about cane etiquette to have formed an opinion/show results

Voting ended onMay 10

Anon uses a cane and does this sometimes and no one ever says anything, but they worry that maybe it bothers people and they just don't say anything. Anon had never thought about it until recently when they saw someone hit the button with their shoe and anon got grossed out. They wonder if others view it the same way as using a shoe.

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Content warning: discussion of violent thoughts

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Do you ever vividly fantasize about torturing or killing people you hate?

Yes, all the time

Yes, often

Sometimes

Maybe once or twice

I used to, but I made myself stop

Used to, but stopped for another reason (e.g. meds, improved circumstances, etc)

No, but I can understand why someone would

No, and I think having these thoughts is a red flag/bad

I've never hated anyone that much

Other/it's complicated

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Voting ended onMay 9

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Does your "carpet" match your "drapes"? (Is your pubic hair the same color as your head hair?)

Yes

It would naturally, but I dye/bleach/change the color of one of them

It would naturally, but I deliberately remove one of them (e.g. choose baldness)

No, they're different colors

I don't have one or both of these (e.g. bald from hair loss or other causes)

Other/show results

Voting ended onMay 9

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Is there music that you choose to listen to that's in a language you don't understand?

Yes, a lot of the music I choose to listen to is in languages I don't understand

Yes, some of the music I choose to listen to

Yes, a few songs/a little bit of the music I choose to listen to

No, all of my music is either instrumental or in a language I know

I don't listen to music/show results

Voting ended onMay 9

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Have you ever been a member of a wedding party (not counting your own wedding)?

Maid of honor/best man/equivalent

Bridesmaid/groomsman/equivalent

Flower girl/ring bearer/similar younger role

Parent of the bride/groom/etc

Another role not listed here

I've helped with weddings but not been part of the wedding party

No, I've never been part of a wedding party

Voting ended onMay 9

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Is your taste in music similar to your parents'?

I have my dad's taste in music

I have my mom's taste in music

I have another parental figure's taste in music

None of my parents, but I have one of my grandparents' taste in music

No, my taste in music is different from my parents'

I don't know my parents' taste in music

Voting ended onMay 9

Not liking music counts as a taste in music; your taste is that you don't like it.

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What age was the youngest person you've ever babysat?

Less than 6 months old

Less than a year old

1–2

3–4

5–6

7–8

9–10

11–12

I've only ever babysat kids age 13 or older

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Voting ended onMay 9

You can count siblings/cousins/niblings/etc if you feel that your situation counts as babysitting.

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