[kiefbowl]

Every woman who is unfeminine still experiences misogyny because misogyny is not hating femininity.

[danielle-mertina]

“Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves. This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently. I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place. I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place. As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.”

— excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!“ @ One Black Girl. Many Words. 

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“A major problem with the colorblind position, particularly in politics and mass media, is as long as race is hidden from consciousness, the dominant racial and ethnic group can maintain the illusion that they are not responsible for the state of race relations because they do not knowingly engage in a racist behavior, and even consider talking about race off-limits…Color blindness is a denial of the unfair power imbalance, allowing whites to deny their privilege while still recognizing its benefits. One problem with racial color blindness is that it functions to erase differences among people and it forces those who defer from the white norm to assimilate into or to imitate whiteness. Color blindness and assimilation take a toll on those subordinate groups pressured to assimilate. They are forced to subordinate their characteristics, traditions, and culture, in order to blend with the dominant group.” - Kristin J. Anderson (Modern Misogyny: Anti-feminism in a Post-feminist Era)

[i-am-a-fish]

don't be mean to yourself that's you

[i-am-a-fish]

you live there

[janployshompoos]

What do you want to order? Sex on Fire. What do you want to drink? Kiss Me More.

GIRL RULES | EP5

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“Sexist oppression is of primary importance not because it is the basis of all other oppression, but because it is the practice of domination most people experience, whether their role be that of discriminator or discriminated against, exploiter or exploited. It is the practice of domination most people are socialized to accept before they even know that other forms of group oppression exist…Unlike other forms of oppression, most people witness and/or experience the practice of sexist domination in family settings. We tend to witness and/or experience racism or classism as we encounter the larger society, the world outside the home.” – bell hooks (Feminist Theory from Margin to Center)

[two-thirtyy]

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Look buddy, i’m just trying to make it to Friday.

[taykoutmccleod]

reblog if its friday and you made it

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“Boys are more likely to be influenced by other boys - not teachers and not girls…That is because a woman is perceived as just another mother, while a man is a Man. Women, even women teachers who are in positions of authority, are perceived as just “moms,” so who cares what they think? Men are more interesting, are higher in status, and worthy of boys attention.” - Kristin J. Anderson (Modern Misogyny: Anti-feminism in a Post-feminist Era)

[pamrak]

I'm not going to tell you to stop crying or that it's okay. I'll let you feel whatever you truly feel, and I'll always be by your side. And love you always.

ARISA and LALIN // BROKEN (OF) LOVE, EP5

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“Homophobia and heterosexism are everyone’s problem, if for no other reason, heterosexuals should worry about it because if they step out of the rigid gender roles our society has in place, they face being gay-baited themselves…If your son goes to preschool with polish on his fingernails, he can be a target of anti-gay discrimination. Homophobia and heterosexism keep everyone in their narrowly defined place.” - Kristin J. Anderson (Modern Misogyny: Anti-feminism in a Post-feminist Era)

[sexchangedotcom]

the internet is a place for reading wikipedia articles and watching every movie for free. social media is an invasive species. never forget this

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“Most people in the United States think of feminism, or the more commonly used term “women’s lib,” as a movement that aims to make women the social equals of men. This broad definition, popularized by the media and mainstream segments of the movement, raises problematic questions. Since men are not equals in a white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchal class structure, which men do women want to be equal to? Do women share a common vision of what equality means? Implicit in this simplistic definition of women’s liberation is a dismissal of race and class as factors that, in conjunction with sexism, determine the extent to which an individual will be discriminated against, exploited, or oppressed.” - bell hooks (Feminist Theory from Margin to Center)

[petaltexturedskies]

Franz Kafka, in a letter to Felice Bauer written c. July 1916, from Letters to Felice

[sourdough-seal]

bingewatching will never come close to bingereading. there is nothing like blocking out the entire Earth for ten hours to read a book in one sitting no food no water no shower no bra and emerging at the end with no idea what time it is or where you are, a dried-up prune that's sensitive to light and loud noises because you've been in your room in the dark reading by the glow of a single LED. it's like coming back after a three-month vacation in another dimension and now you have to go downstairs and make dinner. absolutely transcendental

[revenirr]

hell hath no fury like a man told his input on female liberation isn’t important.

[lyraeon]

who taught you that suffering in silence was noble, and how would you shutting up have benefited them?

[lyraeon]

this also counts for all those times you kept your mouth shut and didn't complain because you were being polite, and people would gladly have changed things if you had just asked. your suffering was not noble. you do not get a cookie for it, you do not get a tally mark next to your soul's score for grinning and bearing it. your suffering serves no purpose. break free of it. you deserve comfort.

[itellmyselfsecrets]

“White women and black men have it both ways. They can act as oppressor or be oppressed. Black men may be victimized by racism, but sexism allows them to act as exploiters and oppressors of women. White women may be victimized by sexism, but racism enables them to act as exploiters and oppressors of black people. Both groups have led liberation movements that favor their interests and support the continued oppression of other groups. Black male sexism has undermined struggles to eradicate racism just as white female racism undermines feminist struggle. As long as these two groups, or any group, defines liberation as gaining social equality with ruling-class white men, they have a vested interest in the continued exploitation and oppression of others.” – bell hooks (Feminist Theory from Margin to Center)